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Why some people say "Love is absence of judgement"

  1. Sundeep Kataria profile image74
    Sundeep Katariaposted 3 years ago

    Why some people say "Love is absence of judgement"

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Clearly these people believe "love is unconditional".
    The absence of judgment would mean there is nothing anyone could say or do that would cause you to abandon them. It's a beautiful thought but in reality everyone has "deal breakers" or things they refuse to accept whether it be cheating, verbal/physical abuse, or neglect of affection and intimacy. It's called self-esteem!
    There is always a "reason" why we say (yes) to some people and (no) to others. Everyone has their own "preferences". For example a man may not be attracted to overweight women or a woman is not attracted to men who are shorter than her therefore they're not open to dating them. Simply put "they're not their type".
    We love people (selectively) and (conditionally).
    Like attracts like and most people want to be with someone who shares their  (same) values. If a person doesn't they may not rule them out as being a "friend" but they may decide it's best not to become romantically involved with them. Very few people have an "open door" policy to (all people) that cross their path.

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    Daveadamposted 3 years ago

    I reckon that if you really love something or someone, you can't actually say why you love it or them....So you look at something or someone, & straight away you either love the way it or they look or you don't....So we can't judge why we love it or them, & that's why it's love....I reckon that's why peeps in love stay together, because they can never work out why they love each other....Two peeps in love surely can't & won't judge each other, because what would there be to judge?....So in my opinion there can't be anything to judge ever, not if it's real love....You just know you love it, but you don't know the why. :-)

  4. Ericdierker profile image54
    Ericdierkerposted 3 years ago

    I love and I love deeply. I slap myself if I judge a loved one. I got neither call nor place to judge. That said I totally judge when to give a compliment or keep my mouth shut ;-)

    Love is in fact an absence of discernment. We just love and we train ourselves to love even more. Hurt feelings, bad times and harshness do not change this simple fact. True love is not a matter of judgment but rather the lack thereof.

  5. Sathya2014 profile image75
    Sathya2014posted 3 years ago

    People say so because of lack of judgement