Is the concept of soul mates fiction?
Are soul mates real? If soul mates do exist how can you tell if someone is your soul mate?
The concept of soul-mates is valid. However the concept of a (sole) mate is not. There are over 7 Billion people on the planet. Odds are there is more than one person who'd make an ideal match for anyone of us!
The concept of "the one" is based upon our natural tendency to (exclude) rather than (include) when it comes to finding love.
For example if a person states "the one" has to be a member of their own race that automatically eliminates Billions of people right there! If you went on to say he/she must have the same religious belief that will cut down your options by several billions more.
We narrow things further by stating "the one" must reside in our own country, state or town. All of this is before we get to height, weight, age, occupation, education, hobbies/interest, and goals....etc Last but not least our family and friends MUST also like him/her and vice versa!
It’s no wonder that by the time we get done EXCLUDING people there is ONLY one "right one" left!
Lets assume you're looking for someone who has these traits.
Attractive, Positive, Affectionate, Considerate, Loving, Healthy, Romantic, Passionate, Great Sense of Humor, Intelligent, enjoys traveling to exotic destinations, Honest, Trustworthy, Loyal, Dependable, Financially secure/responsible…etc
Surly out of 7 Billion people there must be more than “one” person who fits this profile!
One of the reasons it’s a challenge to find “the one” is because we look for different traits in a mate over the course of our lifetime. That perfect guy or girl at ages 16, 18, 21, or 30 may not seem so ideal to us at age 35 or 40. In fact every new person we enter into a "serious relationship" with looks like “the one” until we realize they are not.
Truth be told most of us (fail our way to success) when it comes to love and relationships. If this were not the case we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!
No one is going to be able to read your mind, complete your sentences, or fill your days with sunshine for eternity. You determine how large your pool of potential mates is going to be by your method of including or excluding.
The underlying definition of a soul-mate is someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
to answer this question...you must first define soul mate...in my opinion it is the true compliment of yourself...the person, not necessarily your opposite. but the person you are not and that you feel yourself around...it is the person who fills all our shortfalls just by being themselves and loving that person for those feelings...so...no...not fiction
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