Is it a good idea to fall in love, when your self esteem is low?

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   Damanee Baileyposted 10 years ago

   Is it a good idea to fall in love, when your self esteem is low?
   
   Often times we fall in love, because the person of our dream (often pretending) make us feel good about ourselves. They could be during this because they want something from us.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Most likely it's not a good idea. People with low self-esteem tend to be more willing to (accept) mistreatment from their partners.
   On some level they do not love themselves, don't truly believe they are worthy of better treatment and therefore are likely to endure toxic relationships.
   Having a measure of self-esteem ensures a person has "deal breakers", "boundaries", or "a line in the sand" where they will not accept disrespect, inconsideration, verbal/physical abuse, cheating, or whatever for only so long if at all. They'll quickly move on.
   In other words they have their own list of traits/requirements they want in a mate. They do NOT ignore "red flags"
   Lastly people with low self-esteem are not really happy people on the inside. They completely rely on things and people outside of themselves to dictate their happiness. A person with high self-esteem can be happy being single, not dating, being in a relationship, or married.
   Whenever a person is confident and sure of who they are and what they want they are consciously aware of their relationship.
   Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself before getting involved with someone else!

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   M. T. Dremerposted 10 years ago

   Ideally, the right person to love is the one who boosts your self esteem. Or, at the very least, they make you forget you have low self esteem. If you still have low self esteem around the person you think you love, then it probably isn't a good relationship.

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   Arco Hess Designsposted 10 years ago

   Yes! It's very healthy to fall in love. It will lift up your self esteem. But of course, the power is in you. Fear is just from your mind. You have to believe that things will happen positively. You can make it!

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   Allofher Skillsposted 10 years ago

   Oi. You always have great questions.
   Ummm. You would have to decide whether you are in truly loving another or if you are loving yourself through another. Which can be difficult to discern at times.

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   deecoleworldposted 10 years ago

   No, it is not good idea to fall in love, when your self esteem is low. It's actually a really stupid idea. You build your self-up, love doesn't automatically do that for you. You have to find a way to truly happy within yourself. Love doesn't automatically make you confident, prettier, smarter or more appealing person. It also doesn't make you happy and the other person doesn't make you happy. You make you, happy. Through your attitude and choices. It make seem tempting to fall in love as a way to boost your self esteem, but its a trap. You end up with hurt feelings, while blaming the other person for your mistakes. Avoid love until you become the love (aka love thyself)

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      Damanee Baileyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with most of your points, but I don't think its good to avoid love in any way

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      deecoleworldposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      If love happens, let it happen. Even so, if you have low self-esteem and are seeking out love, you will get hurt and develop unhealthy ideas about love. Avoiding love until you are happy within, will strengthen relationships and attract love to you.

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   Damanee Baileyposted 10 years ago

   To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. Oscar Wilde
   Its best to love oneself, and if possible be independent in love.

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