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Lets talk about online dating ! Is it worth the time?

  1. ebutali profile image59
    ebutaliposted 3 years ago

    Lets talk about online dating ! Is it worth the time?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    It really comes down to a few things.
    1. Make sure you are ready and have a (positive attitude) about the dating process. Believe it or not a lot of people hate the dating process! They just want to (fast forward) to an exclusive relationship or marriage. They've forgotten that dating is supposed to be a (fun and sociable) activity. Instead of taking their time to get to know someone they want to "weed people out" as soon as possible or they get so stressed out with trying to "impress" others that they simply can't (enjoy) the activity of the date.
    No one is asking you decide on whether to cut the red wire or blue wire! It's just a date! Learn to relax and be yourself as well as enjoy whatever activity the date encompasses. Even if there's no chemistry you'll have something to talk and laugh about with your friends afterwards. Lighten up!
    2. Researching before selecting an online dating site to join. Contrary to popular opinion they're not all the same. No one would equate a night's stay at a Motel 6 with a night's stay at the Ritz Carlton simply because they both have beds and color TV. Avoid "free sites". Most people of quality tend to be willing to invest a little money. It's also a good idea to learn what makes a good profile, and  good profile photo. There are books that offer tips. There are also "niche online dating sites". If a trait or quality is very important to you such as religion, race, age group, political affiliation, pet lovers, or whatever there are dating sites that specifically cater to that.
    3. Keep things in perspective! Online dating is nothing more than just another (tool) for meeting people.
    Much like a fork can be used to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge cake. However an obese person never blames their (fork) for their weight gain!
    And yet there are some people who have a bad online dating experience and they'll blame the whole online dating industry!
    YOU get to (choose) who you engage with or go out with!
    Lastly "online dating" should compliment your "offline dating" efforts. Always use good commonsense when dealing with strangers online or offline. Remember the Internet did not invent liars or cheaters.
    The same folks are "offline" and have always been around.

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    JThomp42posted 3 years ago

    No. First of all you really do not know who you are talking to. It could be a man or a woman. Things can easily be said that are incomplete truths. I would not suggest online dating because so much could be wrong with the situation. You may come out feeling worse than you did when you were single.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      JT These same issues have been known to happen between folks who have met "offline" as well. It's not where you meet but who you meet that counts. Interestingly no one blames other methods of meeting people for bad choices (they) made.

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      JThomp42posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Just repeating horror stories that have been told. Ever heard of people getting killed on the first time thy meet the person they have been dating online?

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      JT you have a point but I've also heard of people going home with strangers they've met in a bar and getting killed also. And yet singles hooking up in bars/nightclubs never gets the same amount of bashing as online dating does. smile

    4. ebutali profile image59
      ebutaliposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      JT have you had any personal experience with online dating ?

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      JThomp42posted 3 years agoin reply to this


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    sheilamyersposted 3 years ago

    I can only speak for myself. So far my time hasn't been worth it. I may give it another try.

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    Vianopowerposted 3 years ago

    well...the famous youtuber "pewdiepie" met his girlfriend online. They are dating and super rich.

  6. DDE profile image27
    DDEposted 3 years ago

    I don't think online dating is worth your time most of the time you won't know the  real person on the other side. You think you know but you don't.  It is nice to try new options unfortunately online dating is not an option. Too risky and you will  be living on the edge.