How do you and your spouse resolve conflicts or differences of opinion?

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   misslong123posted 10 years ago

   How do you and your spouse resolve conflicts or differences of opinion?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Most times we simply agree to disagree.
   The vast majority of our disagreements have nothing to do with us or what is going on in our home. It's usually something to do with current events or one person misremembers what actually happened in a past situation.
   Thank God for Google! If the disagreement is over something that can be searched online it fairly easy to resolve it.
   If most of your conflicts involve getting someone to "change" their behaviors or get them to do things or stop doing things then that's an uphill battle. Very few people walk around with a hand held up in the air screaming; "I'm looking for someone to change me!"
   Just about everyone wants to be loved and accepted for who (they) are! Generally speaking if it's that "important" then one should have taken their time in the "mate selection" process to make sure their perspective mate had that trait.
   If you go to the store to buy an apple but purchase an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Stay or move on. The choice is up to us!

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      Dr Billy Kiddposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well said, dashingscorpio!

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      misslong123posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree wholeheartedly. I shopped for a non argumentative person. Someone who would try to see my side and respect my beliefs not make me feel stupid for having them. We too really only debate trivia we can look up online. Problem solved!

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   mio cidposted 10 years ago

   I usually strive to figure out her opinion so I can agree beforehand and avoid any confrontation.That is easier said than done because women are very smart and will try to not let on as to what their opinion is so you will fall into the trap.In those cases after I realize we differ I try to make a long dissertation in which at the end I can convince her I was in agreement from the beginning.

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      misslong123posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      That is kinda funny yet if you are serious I can actually see how this could be effective. I don't know how this would turn out long term but I know I am agreeable and I purposefully married an agreeable man. This mostly means we are empathetic.

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