Resolving Conflicts

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   Woman Of Courageposted 13 years ago

   Why is it important to resolve conflicts in a marriage?

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      Flightkeeperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well what kind of marriage would it be if you are always in conflict and don' resolve them? Hello divorce!

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         Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         OR, you can resolve conflict WITH divorce.     (Slightly different from not resolving conflict and getting divorced because of it, I think.  )  Then again, though, there are those couples who have been married for - like - 40/50 years and acting as if they hate each other the whole time!   (They're a real hoot to be around.    )

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         Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Flightkeeper, It really won't be a relationship if you are always in conflicts and don't resolve then in a healthy manner. It's sad to say, but if  handled correctly, it will lead to a divorce. Thanks for posting.

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      MjaneMartinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Isn't human nature to have conflicts of some sort in any relationship?  I think it's important for married people to try to understand eachother-to prevent conflict.  But, sometimes you just have to agree to disagree-if you want to have a healthy relationship.

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         Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         You made a good point. I believe it's important for a married couple to try to understand as much as they can about each other. It will make things a lot easier.

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   ahorsebackposted 13 years ago

   More than resolving conflicts , its more important to know  how the other one thinks, you might want to avoid conflicts, in the long run, where not many journey........

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your posting ahorseback. Knowing how one thinks will make a difference, but conflicts cannot be avoided. If they are avoided, it will create more problems.

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   Joy56posted 13 years ago

   conflicts in a marriage are so wearisome.  Some are not too easy to resolve, and some you never resolve, just agree to differ at times....

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      yes, compromise is a good thing.

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   No one really likes sleeping on the couch too often.  Besides, if you are going to bother going through the motions of getting married and thus making a covenant with a woman it behooves you to do everything to perform maintenance and repair where that covenant has received damage.

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I feel the same same way. There is no need to say wedding vows, if a person is not ready to do what it takes to stay together.

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   Contriceposted 13 years ago

   It's important to resolve conflict in any type of relationship.  Resolving conflict doesn't mean that someone has to "lose."  You could agree to disagree.

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      Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      ...but it's better to be the person who wins.      (Sorry.  I'm only kidding.  Couldn't resist.    )

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         Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         very cute Lisa, smile

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you Contrite. Resolving conflicts in a correct manner in a relationship is about love and peace. Thanks for posting.

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   New Lifeposted 13 years ago

   I feel that both people have to have it in there heart to solve the conflict..  Some people never want it solved... an excuse to get a divorce..
   
   I have found that men are less likely to talk about the issue with a woman.  They are fearful..  They might fight a war but they cannot face a woman...

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      New Life, I agree, and some people don't know how to solve the conflict.

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   luvpassionposted 13 years ago

   I think it's important when resolving conflict in relationship that each spouse consider the others point of view valid, rather then dismissing it off hand.
   
   Saying, "I'm open to your views dear, this is my opinion only, you have a valid point, I'm listening." All are important. Bullheadiness never works.
   
   Teri

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      Woman Of Courageposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      luvpassion, It's important to me also. We are all unique, so that makes us have different view on things. Thanks for sharing your input.

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         Jaggedfrostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         hopefully, when one got married they weren't drunk or in a hurry and took the time to establish a sure foundation for communication first.  If that has been established then there will always be something to go back to.  If that wasn't done then the marriage may not be all that valid and may need to be recreated whenever both parties are willing to save the ill-begotten thing.

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   TammyHammettposted 13 years ago

   Conflicts arise in any relationship. But the most important part is how we behave and treat each other when the conflicts happen, as well as when resolving them. Being mean, condescending, spiteful, hurtful, etc, will only continue to build contempt, anger, and hurt. These are not ingredients that you want in any relationship. Argue fairly, resolve mutually, and make up extensively!!! Living in constant conflict will continue to weigh heavier and heavier on any relationship. There is only so much conflict a human being will tolerate without moving into the FIGHT OR FLIGHT part of their brain. Then it's all down hill from there.

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