How to deal with someone who often breaks his promises ?

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   Abhaque Supanjangposted 10 years ago

   How to deal with someone who often breaks his promises ?
   
   Nobody likes to be cheated. Nobody wants to have the ones who cannot be trusted by their sides; but in our daily live, we often can not avoid seeing those people. They have promised us before to give us this and that, or promised us to do something, but when the is coming to try to tell million reasons to break the promises. What will you do in this position ?
   
   

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   Mayashappyplaceposted 10 years ago

   Don't trust them to not do it again and you won't be disappointed. If you choose to continue to expect them to change you will set yourself up for disappointment. Change your expectations and stop allowing this person's promises to disappoint you.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Don't take them too seriously. Don't listen to their words, rather, watch their actions. And finally, refuse to play the game. When you refuse to play the game, you are out of it.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   When someone breaks their promise it is difficult to actually trust again. Sometimes the situation can be understood but when the promise is a continuous failure walk away.

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   connorjposted 10 years ago

   Simply discount their opinion and do not rely on them for anything (marginalized persons have less of an impact on others). This does not mean that you abandon them. Include them yet do not depend on them.

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   Ian Mooneposted 10 years ago

   It's simple buddy stop giving them opportunities to let you down, & find the people who wont let you down....Of course i know it's not as simple as that, but I'll tell you something that most people over look when they have people like that in their lives...."IF" you ever manifest any negative emotions feelings or thoughts, due to what someone else has said, done or not done....Then that is something you can work on to find the gist then knack & then fully realise, how to not allow yourself to manifest any negative thoughts or feelings no matter what any one else says or does or doesn't do for you or too you..The very same training which Bruce Lee did only without the need for kick boxing, which will eventually leave you with a completely clear & calm mind..So until you reach that point of being those people will always let you down, because you will probably always let them driven by your emotions..Once in complete control of your emotions feelings & thoughts you wont allow anyone to let you down, because those people either wont be in your life any more or they will know your not a guy that allows that sort of behaviour....Basically people will only do to you what you allow them to do, & so if you change your standards regards what friendship really means..Then they have 2 choices to change themselves & rise to your standards, or to stay as they are & lose your friendship....Either way you will be teaching them a vital lesson, & learning one yourself at the same time. :-)

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