Should a man be expected to spend 3 months of salary on an engagement ring? How

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   Omevaposted 9 years ago

   Should a man be expected to spend 3 months of salary on an engagement ring?
   How much would you pay?

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   tsmogposted 9 years ago

   The engagement ring has a long history going back to caveman days. There are many meanings for the engagement ring. Regarding how much to spend is of course a personal decision specific to meaning while related to cause and reasoning.
   
   The obvious is purchasing the engagement ring is it is traditional, however by purchasing one learns it is not of a tradition. The ring is fresh. It is not a family heirloom being passed down in lineage. That is where meaning related to cause steps in one may say IMHO.
   
   I know couples who married and later purchased another engagement ring with greater value and too, seeking a sentiment. At times with the renewal of vows. I know of those those two times I have experience with a new engagement ring was purchased while with the renewed vows the original wedding rings were used again.
   
   At question of course is means. How much does one have. Another is expediency. How fast does one wish to become married. At task could be again meaning, cause, and reasoning. Planning may step in offering a pause. Consideration may enter the picture with the relationship regarding financial planning. 
   
   Another element is the surprise as an element with the proposal. That with meaning most likely will have the most significance in many cases. The ring being a direct connection with commitment and the heart led by the soul may present itself with the formula.
   
   Interest may present opportunity for a series of hubs on the engagement ring spanning history, tradition, valuation - financial, sentiment, and personal perspective. Again, purpose with meaning related to cause and reasoning offers choices too for a writing expedition. Possibly a lucrative adventure ventured.
   
   Should a man be expected to spend 3 months of salary on an engagement ring? Maybe. One thing is the engagement ring is like a saving account sometimes. 3 Months or more may be reasonable to adjust to a change like separation, divorce, death, and etc.
   
   How much would 'I' pay? I simply dun'no without discussing it with my significant other. :-)

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   AndrewHil93posted 9 years ago

   No. I told my girlfriend if we get married there will be no rings, no fancy materialistic wedding, no fancy church (though none of us are religious anyway) and no egotism.
   
   An hour trip to the registrar office is enough for me.

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      lisavollrathposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      The fact that you told your girlfriend, rather than discussing it with her and taking her feelings into account, tells me you won't be marrying any time soon. Marriage is about compromise, not issuing edicts!

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   aprilsemoganposted 9 years ago

   "Diamonds are girls best friend" - an old passage that tells about women and jewelries especially during weddings or marriage. Though, this passage is no longer applicable for most of us women. There is no such thing as requirement regarding the cost of the wedding ring that you will give. Money or the price of the wedding ring doesn't matter in my own opinion, what matters most is the sincerity and respect for your given promise on the day of your wedding. It is just a ring, a symbol of your love and unity, but it will be useless or meaningless, no matter how expensive it is if both of you will not fulfill your vows. Or if you are not true and strong enough to stand for it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      A "diamond" is a cold heartless stone. LOL!

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   lisavollrathposted 9 years ago

   It depends on the situation. I'm probably in the minority of women, but I'm not a big fan of diamonds or rings, and would prefer not to have an engagement ring at all, and only a modest wedding band. I think each man has to take into account the taste and preferences of his intended before making the purchase.

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   Aime Fposted 9 years ago

   I would be horrified if my husband spent that much on my engagement ring, personally. I think that's a ridiculous amount of money to spend on a piece of jewellery. I would rather that money go towards the wedding (because weddings aren't cheap, even if you try to stick to the minimum, as I learned from experience!), or to a down payment on a house, or something else a little more practical...
   
   Then again I've never been terribly fond of jewellery and the only thing I wear consistently is my nose ring. I wore my engagement ring up until I got married but I was happy to take it off, honestly. It was rather large (and beautiful) but just totally impractical for me. I was always accidentally scratching myself with it or snagging it on stuff. I much prefer my wedding band which I spent $350 on (and even that was the more than I felt comfortable spending on jewellery!).

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   These days many women would jump for joy if their long-term significant other (finally) proposed to them!
   Some women are more than happy to chip in money to have the kind of ring (they) really want. Others will accept any ring because what they really want is the man and to build a life together.
   Still for other women "size does matter". One of the thrills for a newly engaged woman is to flash her hand out in front of her girlfriends!
   These types of women don't  want to be "embarrassed".
   The 3 month salary rule is impractical for most guys. If a guy only makes $1k per month odds are he'd be set back big time. On the other hand if he makes $10k or even $1M per month he may still feel that three months of his salary is too much to spend for a piece of jewelry. That's money they could use to secure their future.
   It comes down to having a mate that shares your same values!

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   peeplesposted 9 years ago

   Simply I think the idea is insane. For a ring?!?! Really!?? That is entirely too much money to waste on a measly ring no matter how much money the man makes. I really don't grasp why anyone in their right mind would expect the person they love to blow 1/4 of their yearly salary to prove their love. Beyond ridiculous!

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