Why can't we be more understanding towards "enemies."
When we hate someone, we feel like everything bad we say or do involving that person is justified. We like to see the world in black and white because then we can define who is a good person and who is a bad person. But, people are multi-faceted and always in the morally grey area. Why can't we be understanding towards others when they are like you and I?
It is because of our feeling or emotion towards them, may it be rage or what. We can only become more understanding to them if we give each other enough space to cool down and think things over.
People see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear.
They want to put people in "boxes" or characterize them to simplify their lives. Listening, empathy, understanding various points of view requires an investment of time and mental energy.
Most people are looking for someone they instantly identify with and have an immediate rapport.
With regard to hate it's gotten so out of hand that people will hate whomever their friends hate even if they have no reason to just to be loyal!
Other people may not go as far as "hating you" but if they disagree with you on (one topic) they will dislike you or trash all things you say.
The truth is no one has ever walked this planet who was "universally loved". Everyone will have his/her share of critics, enemies, detractors, haters, or whatever one calls them.
However you also will have friends, family, significant others, and people willing to hear you out as without prejudging.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." - Reinhold Niebuhr
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