Guys: Do you avoid women you think are ugly? Even if you know she is not into

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   LoliHeyposted 9 years ago

   Guys:  Do you avoid women you think are ugly?  Even if you know she is not into you?
   
   I can be friends with a guy I do not find physically attractive.  However, unless you are very beautiful (and I am not), there are guys who don't even want to talk to me at all, even if it is just to be friends or even acquaintances.  I'm talking about guys who talk to everyone and then not to me.  Women can be friends with ugly men, but men don't even seem to want anything to do with a woman they find physically unattractive. Why is that?

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      Wendy Zuposted 7 weeks agoin reply to this

      I hate to be the bearer of obvious bad news but men tend to friend zone women who are unattractive but have a good personality. Unfortunately your looks do not mean that you have a great personality which may consist of things like being funny, smart, honest, interesting and great company.
      I recently had a friend who is ‘hot’ lament that she is not “hot enough” to have any male platonic or gay friends. She failed to realise that looks and sexual charisma may not carry her through every event in life and neglected to develop a personality.
      You could try new hobbies, read, do new and interesting things or take an interest in other people.

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   SonOfSkyrim201posted 9 years ago

   I wouldn't avoid anyone because their ugly. That would just be stupid. If I didn't like them as person then I probably would. Are you sure they're avoiding because of your face or because of you? Also I just wanted to ask you question: Is your icon picture you or someone else?

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      LoliHeyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry, it's not me.  I wish.  That's Charli XCX, a singer.

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      SonOfSkyrim201posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Ok. I was confused because you said you weren't very beautiful but the icon suggested otherwise.

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   tsadjatkoposted 9 years ago

   
   
   To begin with if men were smart they'd avoid all women!
   
   Just kidding, but now that I've got your attention.
   
   Loli, what you are describing are NOT men. They are immature children. Shallow and self centered,  preoccupied with themselves or their affairs. NOT the kind of people you should want attention from.
   
   What's more the world is full of such men. Even men who would give an "ugly" girl attention can fit the above description I just gave you. I'd look at it as a blessing because "nature" is eliminating the worst of the bunch from your life probably saving you the pain and anguish of knowing them.  Any man who is not willing to look beyond the surface of any woman is also setting himself up for disappointment as women are seldom as beautiful inside as they may appear on the outside.
   
   So as I said Loli, count it all blessings, one day that knight in shinning armor will appear and in your case, undoubtedly, he will be more beautiful on the inside than his shinning armor.

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      LoliHeyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, Tsad!  I love it!  I think this will be the best answer but I'd like to see what others say first.

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      tsadjatkoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Probably not, there is a lot of wisdom out there, best always to wait months before picking a best answer. The worst answer? Not so much. I don't know why you can't pick the worst answer - they are the ones who need to know it.

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