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Heart DOES NOT matter in romantic matters.

  1. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 8 years ago

    There is one big truth that I recently discovered about choosing partners for romantic relationships:


    Choice of your longer term future partner, I mean. You should choose using your sound mind, objectively evaluating all pros and cons, and only then involve feelings. Falling for some sort of feelings first ("love is blind") thus forgetting to think before you take action leads to nowhere else than nervous breakdown when you "sober up" later.

    Right or wrong?

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this


      i think you might be right to a certain extent. although i would rather follow my heart in matters of love. doing it the other way sounds more like a business venture, which would cool anyone's ardor in a hurry.

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      Madame Xposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      How lonely sad

    3. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I first use my heart.
      If the relationship lasts for more than a month, I  use my brains.
      If  this love affair passes the mind test, then I give it a chance. If not, I move on

  2. theirishobserver. profile image59
    theirishobserver.posted 8 years ago

    most women I have known judge by the size of your wallet smile I have a big one so I am popular smile

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    Crazdwriterposted 8 years ago

    I hate to disagree but I do...your heart is a huge factor in romantic matters especially when it comes to finding your partner. If you only go by what your head says then it's lust. but if you go by what your heart, your gut and your head says then it is true love.

  4. rebekahELLE profile image86
    rebekahELLEposted 8 years ago

    I guess everyone looks at love differently which doesn't make it right or wrong...  how we look at things often determine the outcome or how we perceive our lives.

    personally I think the heart has a lot to do with romantic love.
    feelings about a potential romantic relationship grow as the heart is more involved. when the heart is taken out of the relationship, hmmm, I think also there goes the romance.

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    lyricsingrayposted 8 years ago

    I agree in romantic matters, the heart plays a roll in other matters however.

  6. Bill Manning profile image74
    Bill Manningposted 8 years ago

    I'm a very practical person, almost to the point of being cold. So part of me thinks that yes, you should go into a LONG TERM relationship thinking clearly and practically.

    However you have to like and love the person your trying to spend the rest of your life with. You can find many that will match your basic needs and wants in a person.

    But to really make it work you must love the personality and quirks of that person. So I think you should use both, have a clear mind without being "blind", while still going with how you feel deep inside about that person. smile

  7. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 8 years ago

    Ok... a bit of explanation.

    The question is simply whether the heart should be given the superior power to choose.
    Love is essential in any relationship - undisputed.
    But shouldn't emotions (including love) be given a green light ONLY after your sound mind approves your choice?

    1. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There is NO WAY to keep your emotions in check to do as you want.

      The heart, especially Love, cannot be controlled and to think that you can do so, is insanity. smile

      Your heart and mind, must work together in the process. A little common-sense goes a long way in helping to choose a partner for which you will spend a good portion of your life with.

      Just a thought. smile

      1. Black Lilly profile image60
        Black Lillyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I'm insane then, Cagsil wink

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    philip carey 61posted 8 years ago

    Feelings only for me. Might take me over the cliff, but it's purely a matter of the heart where I am concerned.

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      seasoningposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      me too

  9. jenblacksheep profile image83
    jenblacksheepposted 8 years ago

    So, your question is, Is Love Enough?

    I'd say probably not, although you generally fall in love with someone when you know a bit about them and they have qualities that you like/respect. Lots of people love their husbands/wives who are abusive towards them; we'd say they shouldnt be in that relationship but they say 'but I love him/her'.

    1. Bill Manning profile image74
      Bill Manningposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly. Blindly following your feelings is why we have women killed, beat and abused. It's also why both men and women let their spouse walk all over them and cheat on them yet come back for more.

      Love is NEVER "enough" for anything your dealing with, be it a person, situation or object. It's called growing up and being responsible.

  10. Marisa Wright profile image98
    Marisa Wrightposted 8 years ago

    I think there's a big difference between love and infatuation - and we're taught, by books, films and TV, to confuse the two.

    If you'd describe yourself as "madly in love", it's probably infatuation.  Brain scans have shown remarkable similarities between the brain of a person "madly in love" and a cocaine addict.  Generally, the faster you fall in love, the faster you'll fall out of it.

    In my experience, true love is more of a slow burn.