Positive interest but never speaks openly

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    BeyondLoveposted 13 years ago

    She clearly flirted with me at the beginning, but I was too insecure and not forthcoming, especially I was jealous of her admirers. Meanwhile we became best friends, on several occasions she gave me positive signals but withdrew immediately thereafter (she sometimes even came close to kiss me), which made it hard for me to confess.
    There was one time we were on bed and she told me it was cold but I was too scared and gave her a blanket.

    She went abroad and we chat daily, she often sounds romantic ("I would give you my heart if you need it."), but when I try to say "I would like to tell you something." she starts avoiding me. I would like to clarify openly without living full of doubts.

    I wonder if it would be good to just tell her I like her, and that if she doesn't want more than friendship we will still stay best friends.

  2. sabrina11 profile image61
    sabrina11posted 13 years ago

    i think you should take her out for dinner and just let her know that you reaally realllly like her and not as a friend but something more. If you are scared that she may say no also add on that maybe you both should give romance a chance and still remain friends if you dont want to go on.
    Its better that you clear things out rather than wonder forever if she like you or not for all you know she must be as confused as you.
    We always imagine a lot  but by professing your love you have nothing to lose.
    All the best and let me know what happens.

    1. profile image49
      BeyondLoveposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you sabrina11!
      I also plan to do so. But my question is also how, since she is abroad now, and most of my friends say that it is better to clarify such important things when in person.
      We won't see each other for probably more than 6 months...

  3. Debvill12 profile image59
    Debvill12posted 12 years ago

    Hi; I found your article, very interesting, I think you should be as open as you can be.  Good strong relationships, are built on communication, and lots of trust.  Its good to be nervous, for all you know she maybe thinking just like you.
    Let the opportunity arouse in time, you will know when the right time is to tell her, just how you feel. I have a certain friend too; I have strong feelings for, and we talk about everything but that our feelings.  I know how hard it is.  IF its meant to be, things will turn out right.  Trust your natural intuition. Deb

  4. fucsia profile image60
    fucsiaposted 12 years ago

    Being clear is crucial to a healthy relationship. If you not find the moment to talk to her, you can write a letter...

  5. shimmering Dawn profile image73
    shimmering Dawnposted 12 years ago

    Playing hide and seek never helps.. you need to know what you are in for and so does she. Make it clear to her that you would like to be more than friends with her. It might be difficult to remain friends with her if you feel so strongly as you have mentioned that you feel jealous of her admirers...

    Straight talk and openness is the best way to start and maintain a relationship! there is nothing to loseand much to gain,  get over your fear!!
    Best wishes to you!!

  6. mike71090 profile image56
    mike71090posted 12 years ago

    you know what bro.,.be yourself..
    dont get nervous in showing your big love to your special someone..there are plenty of time that you've been wasted because of your hesitation.If you really like and love her..,then make her feel it.

  7. perfectperception profile image60
    perfectperceptionposted 12 years ago

    Self love is motivation!  Learn to love you and no one can make you uncomfortable, no matter who, what or where!!

    1. Stump Parrish profile image60
      Stump Parrishposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Wise words, if you don't love you how could you expect someone else to do so?


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