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    sunboy400posted 6 years ago

    Guys i am new to this site so please you guys should help me out with your advise, i am 26yrs old and have been dating this girl she's also 26yrs. We've been dating since 2009,she's a single mum with 3 lovely kids and her and ‎​the kids dad have been separated for some years they both hate each other to my knowledge and he's married now. sometime in august i proposed marriage to her and she accepted and we were planning our lives, our parents were happy she used to say our love was the best in the whole world and she couldn't imagine life without me and her kids, she had even changed her surname on facebook to my name and we were making wedding plans and everything was lovely. Suddenly she just woke up last week monday and started acting funny she was withdrawn the whole day, anything i said seemed to piss her off jokes that normally made her laugh she told me to stop cracking them anymore, then the next  day she told me "she needed her space" and changed  our relationship status on Facebook and put a halt to the whole wedding plans and our relationship. Anything i say now seems to piss her off If i try to ignore her she would ping me on bb and want to know how my day was and wat i was up to. she says she still wants to be close friends and she wants to be talking to me everyday as we used to do over d last year,whenever we couldn't see face to face, we would talk on phone, or text or bbm but now even when we talk i don't enjoy it cos i don't feel the love as i used to before. If i tell her i love her,she would say thank you,if i tell her i miss her, she would say thank u and be so official. it really hurts because she was not only my girlfriend but my one and only true love.i love everything about her everything, I have asked her did i do or say anything that made her change her mind, she said no that its her "personal problems" she wants to deal with, we never used to have secrets from each other but now it seems she's hiding things. i just don't know what to do i have never laid my hands on her,cheated on her or even yelled at her am not an angel but i used to tease her that i know me being too quiet pisses her off i am not the kind of guy that loves drama. I have called her mum and her sister they both say she hasn't told them anything that they are as surprised as i am. So guys please can you guys advise me on what to do i love her so much and can't think of life without her,i refuse to believe all we had for the last 2yrs was a fairytale . thanks.

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    Emily Sparksposted 6 years ago

    Wow.....umm....I am not sure just what to say.  Maybe you should ask her if she still wants to get married.  She may just need some time to work thru some things in her life.  Did she totally call off the wedding?

  3. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    This isn't a counseling site. If you need therapy, then I suggest you get the help you need from a professional.

    It's a bit strange to come into a writers' site and lay your life out in a forum post.

  4. MissE profile image80
    MissEposted 6 years ago

    I would back off almost completely.  Be happy in your own life.  "If you love something let it go.  If it comes back it's yours.  If it doesn't, it never was."  It sounds harsh, but think about if you went through with the wedding and then something happened.  If you're on here, you must like to express yourself through writing.  Maybe write her a hand written letter explaining how you feel, then back way off and see what happens.  Just my take on it.  Obviously we can only give suggestions....not knowing her or you personally.

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    katrinaBposted 6 years ago

    oh my g       that is so sad i have the same problem can i say it im 12 there sue me  my ex bf looked at me the other day and i melted into those big brown eyes of compassion ur rite something is rong she is hiding something normally wen someone just wakes up and calls off a wedding they r either cheating or have been lying about something i wont stop till i find out i will definatly help we here at hub pages r a big family wen one member is hurting we all hurt come to my profile katrinaB and i will help oh and im not really twelve