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How to Forgive Yourself with EFT

Updated on March 31, 2010

Forgiving oneself can be tricky business, because your conscious mind can think everything's sorted internally, but the subconscious mind may not be having none of that. In other words, it's your subconscious that needs to do the forgiving, or you aren't going to get very far with whatever you're trying to forgive. This article is going to show you how to do a polarity reversal; how to setup your EFT statement and tapping points; and it's also going to tell you why you need to forgive yourself for as many things as you can do. So let's get started with that.

Why is Self-Forgiveness Important?

We all make mistakes and some of us make bigger mistakes than others. These mistakes, when not forgiven internally, tend to fester. They can linger for a lifetime, keeping us from achieving our real goals. How's that, then? Simple. Let me give you an example: Girl A has an affair with Girl B's husband when she's 25. The affair ends at 26 and Girl A goes on to date other people who aren't married or otherwise involved. Girl A realizes she ought to feel badly about what she did to Girl B, and she may even think she's forgiven herself. But if she hasn't, she'll probably internalize that guilt and subconsciously sabotage her own future relationships because she thinks (deep down inside) that she doesn't really deserve to be happy in a relationship because the pain she caused Girl B in hers. And you can apply this scenario to just about anything in life, really.

How to forgive yourself with EFT

With big things like this, I tend to always go with the Polarity Reversal first, just so's I prevent major time-wastage. Especially when you consider that so many things in your life can be affected by feelings of guilt and the need to self-forgive. So, before you start in with EFT, go for the Polarity reversal first (read the Polarity Reversal article first if you need to). Simply tap both of your KC points together (watch the video for a demo) while addressing your issue in the following manner: (and in this case I'm using Girl A's cheating heart):

Polarity Reversal Demo

Polarity Reversal

  • Even though I don't want to forgive myself for what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, for whatever reason, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

  • Even though I don't deserve to be forgiven for what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, for whatever reason, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

  • Even though I don't know how to forgive myself for what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, for whatever reason, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

  • Even though it may not be safe to forgive myself for what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, for whatever reason, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

  • Even though I may not have an excuse (for being miserable, etc) if I forgive myself what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

  • Even though I might not be the same person if I forgive myself what I did with Girl A's boyfriend, I deeply and complete love and accept myself.

And you can add some extra things in here if you like, but generally this would be enough; this is not the EFT but just the polarity reversal -- you still need to do EFT!

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EFT Tapping Demo

EFT for Forgiving Yourself

Note that I am using a general statement here. You can list your specific deed, or you can just "feel" what you did and the guilt that followed while saying the following. Also, if you can't bring yourself to say you deeply and completely love and accept yourself, you can simply say, "I want to deeply and completely love and accept myself" and it will work fine, too. Your subconscious will know what needs to be done, don't worry.

Setup statement:

(3x) KC: Even though I don't want to forgive myself for what I've done, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping points: (can be varied as needed -- I've included 3 rounds to be done in one go)

Start: I can't forgive myself....  I don't want to forgive myself....  I don't deserve to forgive myself...  I did a terrible thing....  I should be punished forever....  I haven't suffered enough yet.... I have to be miserable or it won't be fair....  I don't want to forgive myself....  I shouldn't forgive myself....  I refuse to forgive myself....  I'm such a bad person....  I could forgive someone else for this, but no one should forgive me....  It's not fair to forgive myself....  I don't know how to forgive myself....

Gamut (I always do this on big issues, but if you don't think you need it, you can skip it)

Back to start: I don't think I can forgive myself....  I think it would be ok to forgive someone else for this, but not me....  Other people would be forgiven for this, though....  Maybe it wouldn't be so terrible to forgive myself a little....  I'd like to be guilt-free, but I don't think I deserve it....  But what if I did?....  What if it were ok to forgive myself and be guilt free?.....  Maybe it's ok to be a little forgiving of myself.....  Maybe I could even forgive myself more than a little....  Maybe it would be ok to forgive myself completely.....  I have made myself suffer a lot but there may not be any logic in it....  Maybe I'm just feeling guilty to spite myself and not really learning anything from it....  Maybe I've already learned my lesson....  Maybe I can trust myself not to repeat that mistake again....  Maybe it's ok to forgive myself now....

Back to start: I'm not sure I deserve it, but maybe I can forgive myself now....  I'm very sorry for what I've done and I'd like to stop punishing myself now....  Maybe there's no point in suffering for no apparent reason....  I'm not sure I believe it's possible, but I want to forgive myself now....  I want to be happy again....   I'm trying to forgive myself for what I did....  I ask my higher self to help me forgive myself for what I did....  Cos it's probably ok to forgive myself now....  I've punished myself more than anyone else could and now I want to be happy again....  And even though I'm not sure it's possible, I thank the universe for helping me forgive myself....  because I think I might deserve to forgive myself now....  Cos I'm not a bad person, I'm just someone who made a mistake....  And I forgive myself for making that mistake....  and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Take some deep breaths and a few sips of water and start over again if you need to. Go through it until your issue is down to zero.

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