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The Teachings Of Abraham - Are They Mocking our Grief?

Updated on March 15, 2011

Do The Teachings Of Abraham Disrespectfully Mock Grief?

I’ve recently taken part in several discussions involving certain specific teachings of Abraham. For those who aren’t familiar with these teachings, Abraham is a group of non-physical entities who are channeled through Esther Hicks. Abraham, who describe themselves as a collective consciousness, specialize on the subject of conscious creation through the law of attraction. Abraham teaches from the perspective of expanded consciousness, and a large part of their message includes the concept that life is eternal.

I've engaged in dialogue with several people who say that Abraham’s habit of referring to physical death as ‘croaking' is extremely disrespectful. They feel that Abraham should see the seriousness in grief and acknowledge and support the extremely negative emotions that most humans experience when a loved one dies.

This is a subject I am passionate about. If it were not for my ability to reach for and attain an expanded perspective, I would never have come to my own place of resolution regarding the unexpected death of my dear brother. I've personally traversed through the process of deep and profound grief to arrive at a place of peace and understanding regarding this monumental, physical loss. The perspective of spirit is indeed very different from the physical perspective. However, being that we are first and foremost beings of spirit ourselves, this perspective is always available to us. We need not listen to Abraham or any other teachers for that matter regarding the subject of eternal life. Our higher self is always beckoning us forward and upward. The teachers who resonate with us will likely reflect our own inner knowings.

 Plain and simple, If you view Abraham's light-hearted attitude towards death as being "callous," "mocking," or "disrespectful," you are completely missing their point and have not yet achieved the level of expanded consciousness that Abraham is touting.

In my conversations with those who criticize these teachings, accusations and labels such as 'cult-followers' have been tossed about to describe those who defend Abraham. The truth is, the teachings and spiritual concepts put forth by Abraham are similar to spiritual concepts put forth by other spiritual teachers. Either we are eternal beings who create our own reality, or we are not. This is a spiritual truth that is embraced and expounded upon by many. The beauty of Abraham is in the concise, seamless delivery of these incredibly uplifting message through their delightful channel, Esther Hicks.

Is it not really rather silly to think that teachers who stress the importance of eternal life would lower themselves to embrace and acknowledge the very thoughts and feelings they are helping us to rise above? If they were to acknowledge the necessity of our grief, would they not be contradicting the core message of their teachings?

Surely most of us are familiar with the use of hyperbole and humor in making an important point. It seems to me this is what Abe is doing when referring to death as 'croaking.' What better way to demonstrate the reality of eternal life than to offer a light-hearted perspective regarding physical death? Abraham's use of humor in teaching is in my opinion one of their strongest assets.

Anyone who has had the experience of navigating their way through grief to a place of peace and acceptance, knows the importance of choosing positive thought.

A contracted view of death and dying will only continue to keep us mired in our grief. It’s only through adopting a position of expanded consciousness that we can move into a perspective where we can see the big picture. The big picture includes a knowing that our deceased loved ones continue to live on and that we continue to have access to them.

Those who see mockery or callousness within Abraham's perspectives on death and who would prefer them to be more respectful of grief, are in my opinion, arguing in favor of holding on to limiting beliefs and insisting that their teacher join them in their contracted is only a contracted perspective that causes us to feel the pain of physical absence stronger than the peace we feel when we embrace the eternal nature of life.

Clearly, those who criticize and see mockery have missed the core message inherent in the teachings of Abraham. All you need to do is stop arguing for your limited perspective long enough to open up to the reality of a new perspective.

Life is eternal. If you cannot see the light side of the death experience, you are viewing the entire life process from a limited perspective. The broader perspective not only allows us to laugh at death, it allows us to embrace it as an integral part of life.

About the Author

Faye is an author, singer/songwriter, intuitive reader and artist. Her book, Poppies From Heaven....And Other Signs from the Hereafter details the incredible afterlife contact she received from her brother following his unexpected death.
Faye is an author, singer/songwriter, intuitive reader and artist. Her book, Poppies From Heaven....And Other Signs from the Hereafter details the incredible afterlife contact she received from her brother following his unexpected death.

Poppies From Heaven By Faye Schindelka

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      Faye Schindelka 7 years ago

      The Four Agreements...I read that several years ago...and to be honest I can't remember a whole lot about it. It's sitting on my shelf and I think I'm going to have another go at it! The 'ol memory seems a bit a dim! Do you ever find that you can read a book one time and then pick it up years later and get something totally different from it? Love it when that happens as it means there's been a real shift in perspective...and growth!

      I started reading various teachings on spirituality and expanded consciousness in my late teens and it's so interesting to see how differently I interpret them now....for the most part, I finally seem to actually understand them! Kind of neat how I was drawn to a lot of these concepts back then despite the fact that I didn't really 'get it' completely. I have to say, Clarity is one of the best feelings in the world!

      And yes kathy! I we were capable of digging up a subject we disagreed upon, no doubt we'd have a rousing, albeit incredibly RESPECTFUL debate!..oh what fun! :)

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      Kathy W 7 years ago

      Faye, thank you for your kind words and I too wonder how someone can accept only part of the teachings of Abraham, while rejecting some of the most crucial points. As far as someone thinking that these higher beings might be giving 'wrong information', or that they are making 'mistakes' in how they interact with us...this just sounds ludicrous to me because that is like assigning a human characteristic to Universal Consciousness, Source, God or however you care to refer to what it is that is the essence of all we are.

      I agree that it's true that most Christians don't embrace the eternal life concept in such a way as to live their lives in that knowledge, and yet is it the absolute basis of the teachings of Christianity and so I can't help but wonder why Abraham's words can be so offensive to some Christians, as it it the basis of Abraham's teachings as well.

      Your brother's statement that physical life 'seems like a dream' I find so interesting, because that is how this Earthly existence is described by many spiritual leaders. In the book, The Four Agreements, which I find to be just another way to convey the message of Abraham, (it's a fascinating read)the wisdom is that physical life is really a dream, with different stages, and that we can control and manipulate our lives with our thoughts and our 'agreements' as to what we believe...that we have the freedom to live in joy or in misery. There is our own personal dream (how we think, what we believe)our family dream (our family belief system)our community dream, the collective dream of our country, our worlds dream, etc. It's a fascinating book and correlates perfectly with Abraham. I read it years before I found Abraham and it resonated with me then, and when I read "Ask and it is Given" I saw the connection and went back and read some of The Four Agreements again and really saw the connection.

      Thank you Faye! Yes it really is awesome that we are connecting in thought and understanding as you said. It's nice to know that if for some reason we don't agree on something, we can discuss it with love and appreciation of each other and avoid the pitfalls that some seem to find themselves in when others don't agree with them. I think you know to whom I am referring! :o)

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      Faye Schindelka 7 years ago

      Thanks so much for that kathy! Not only do you 'get it,' but you've hit on some points that hadn't occurred to very well said!

      I particularly love the bit about Abraham's lighthearted approach actually being a 'compassonate' thing as it really does serve to kind of jolt us out of the mode of thought regarding death..a mode and belief system that most of us have been immersed within in our physical life.

      I also agree with your statements regarding the 'resonance' of these teachings. I too find it so very interesting that someone would buy into 'some' of Abraham's teachings, but not others. I can't imagine buying into any of it if I did not believe that Esther truly WAS channeling highly evolved beings who reside in spirit. I'd like to ask these individuals exactly what they believe goes on when Abraham delivers messages that they deem to be they believe it's a flaw in the transmission...or do they believe that these higher beings themselves are giving 'wrong' information? Some interesting fodder for another article perhaps...?

      You make a great point about how many of us who were raised as Christians, were taught that life is eternal, and's quite clear that most Christians do not necessarily embrace this teaching as a practical belief..that is, they don't live their day to day life as if it were TRUE.

      I'm a bit fan of walking the talk. Living...really truly LIVING, in my day to day and moment to moment, thoughts and actions, that which I say I believe to be true. It appears you feel the same.

      Some of this comes down to whether or not we believe we actually can 'choose' our thoughts....of course I know that we can, as I do it all the time, but believe it or not, I've actually had conversations with those who believe that we cannot choose our thoughts...that they just kind of 'happen' and we have no control about the types of thoughts we think OR our reactions to them. Of course you and I know that this is ridiculous...however, I guess until you've experienced something first hand, you cannot accurately address it.

      No doubt, we as humans generally approach death with trepidation and fear to the point where many simply refuse to acknowledge it's reality. Humor is a wonderful means of neutralizing some of the negative connotations.

      I know personally, following my brother's unexpected death, it was the laughter we were able to engage in regarding his death that helped the most with the healing. My brother was a funny guy in physical life and as an eternal being, he has proven to be just as funny, if not even funnier!..which makes sense, when you consider the vibration he resides in.

      Once of the first things he conveyed to me when I connected to him telepathically after his passing, was just how non-serious the physical experience appears to be when viewed from the perspective of non-physical..."seems like a dream", he told me. He strongly conveyed to me how much he wished for me to embrace this and try to 'just have fun' while I played out the remainder of my version of 'this physical dream.'

      This occurred prior to my discovery of the teachings of Abraham, and along with this message, he had conveyed to me that he wanted me to embrace the concept that we truly did create our reality through our thoughts. "You're right about this," he told me. "But it's even in a more direct and profound way than you realize."

      It was a month or two later, when I was perusing the bookstore shelves for books on the afterlife, when I came across Abraham's "Ask and it is Given." Initially I went to put it down, as the word "Abraham" appeared religious to me. I instantly heard my brother's voice, nearly shouting to me, "You have to get this book, It's exactly what you've always known, but it will push you over the edge into full belief." Well...needless to say, I bought the book!! Not only has it been a source of immeasurable information and validation, but it's also served to help me keep my vibration in the frequency it needs to be for me to make frequent contact with the spirit of my brother!

      Thanks again Kathy!! Your words of wisdom are so appreciated! It's always so wonderful to feel the resonance of thought and understanding with another.

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      Kathy W 7 years ago

      Hi Faye, I feel so fortunate to have come across this blog of yours! I couldn't agree with you more!

      It seems to me that Abraham is reminding us, with their lighthearted attitude toward death, that we should wholeheartedly accept the universal truth that life is eternal and that there is no death....and if we truly accept that belief (most of us as Christians were taught to believe that Truth were we not? along with most of the religions of the world) then why would we want to hold ourselves in a place of misery and suffering because a loved one has passed on to, as we all say, "a better place"? We would not, because we would know in the deepest part of our hearts that those who pass from physical life emerge into another state of being that is so full of love and joy that it is beyond our worldly descriptions.

      Yes, we need to acknowledge the pain we feel as a result of having someone torn from our physical lives, but if we accept that life is eternal, then it follows that our grief is for ourselves and not so much the lost loved one, and so it should not be focused upon unless it makes us feel good which is a basic Abraham teaching. Anyone who follows and accepts the teachings of Abraham knows that we should always do our best to think deliberate thoughts and to focus on the better feeling thought in any life situation. The passing of a loved one should be no different. If we were really thinking of the deceased and not ourselves, we would have a joyful celebration.

      If you resonate with the teachings of Abraham, then it would be clear to you that Abraham's way of jesting with us about death and 'croaking' is just a way to help us cut through the eons of a belief system that has made death something to be feared and made physical loss more important than spiritual connection....and to give us permission or validation to have faith that our spiritual belief in eternal, everlasting life is real. On the other hand, if you don't resonate with the teachings of Abraham, I can see why you might not understand the 'mocking' approach toward death.... and if you do resonate with the teachings of Abraham, then you would realize they are of pure energy and pure love and, therefore, how could they even be capable of conveying anything less than love in their communications with us?

      Personally, I find Abraham's lighthearted approach such a very compassionate thing, I see it as the perfect tool to help propel us into recovery so much faster than we otherwise might have. Abraham has never suggested that we should not honor our loved ones who have passed on. We can honor them by counting our blessings at having had them in our lives while we did, which is reaching for the better thought, which is taking us further from the pain...which is the process of recovery. Abraham is telling us that they know more than we do, they are Universal Intelligence, and that we should not worry because all is well, even if we can't always quite see it from our physical vantage point. They tell us to take their word for it, there is no death, we don't need to suffer quite so much and I am sure they are telling us, that when we do enter the non-physical, we will be laughing at death too....oh will we ever be laughing!