Give respect, if you want others to respect you.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   Respecting people is very important, mostly yourself. The respect you show to others is an immediate reflection of your own self-respect. People who do not respect themselves, tend to disrespect others. Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue, I want to inspire people to respect to a higher standard like a practice of gratefulness, not less.
   
   A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect. You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected. Respect is earned, good character earns respect, let it be the first thing you give away that represent your ideology.
   
   Don't agree with everyone, still respect one another. Respect starts with self. Don't let others get comfortable with disrespecting you.Just don’t engage with others who don’t respect you. Self-absorbed people lack respect for others. Treat everyone with kindness and respect. Respect yourself to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      No respect, for respect, lol.

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   Live to Learnposted 6 years ago

   I agree. But,what do you do when someone makes a statement that, on the surface, seems either incredibly ignorant but an outright lie. And when it shows obvious bias?

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Break down this thread and show me what is ignorance or a lie.
      
      I am not lying when I say, often online, that I  respect  everyone's. The areas I will strongly disagree do involved harmful behaviors and lying or greater BS. I do have a good BS detector and many really don't want to be revealed who they really are.  They sometimes get angry like you do with me , yet I don't get anger with anybody.
      
      I reject, hate, angry discussion, total disrespect for nature, Racist and anything that is obviously unethical in higher degrees.
      
      I am not for things like Religion, yet respect and accept it. Not against anything, because you become part of the problem. 
      
      I don't understand Religion.
      So, what part of me, you don't understand about me respecting everyone and everything elses.

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         Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         It was a question. Not an accusation. Sheesh.

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            Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Well then...
            People have preference, if I fell they are bias, unbalance and onesided towards mine. I try to draw them to a middle grounds solution.
            
            For example
            
            About 75 countries make gays illegal.
            
            Like 90℅ of people want to be straight, and 10℅ want to be gay. It can't be a true democracy all time if 90℅ can not out vote the 10℅ on their way of life.
            
            The compromise is if their is no harm in what they doing, live and let live. If their ultimate lover person happens to be the same sex, I respect and happy for them.
            
            It is rough enough being an artist, lucky my lovers are women, socially I could not handle it rougher being gay.

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               Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

               I have no idea what you are trying to say. I'm sure it's a great thought.

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                  Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  How bout you give me an example of what you mean?

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                     Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                     I'll tell you what is more valuable, in a civil society. Courtesy.  One person cannot, necessarily, respect another. Respect is defined is born from admiration, which can require working hard to ferret out something you admire. Courtesy requires a lot less work, so is a more attainable goal. It requires less bending. It's also an easier concept to teach children, without sacrificing their individuality.

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                        Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                        You mean manners, will be getting on livestream podcast soon. I will be better to bush up on my manners, yet still can disagree.

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years ago

   Castlepaloma,
        
   You wrote:
   "People who do not respect themselves, tend to disrespect others."
   
   "A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect."
   
   You have spoken the truth, but also bring up some questions, in my mind.
   (I always perk up at the word, boundaries. They are what saves us in every situation.)
   
   
   So lets see. If someone who does not respect themselves starts to call you names, such as, "whitey"  and declares things like, "You can't even come out in the sun or you'll burn up!" you would have to set boundaries.
   
   Now, how would you do that, (set boundaries)?
    
   Or would you, as you mentioned, know to walk away, (respectfully)?
   
   Maybe you could elucidate.

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I don't know of anyone calling me whitey. Except mainly white people keep telling to be careful out in the sun because of skin cancer, as to building sandsculpture.
      
      Once a black women beggar told me I was racist because I did not give her money. I said no,  I am not. Most of my lovers are non-white.
      
      Confronting every problem is a great way to gain respect and happiness.

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         Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         I was also accused of being racist by a girl begging on the street. I had explained that I don't carry cash. She said angrily, "I don't believe you."
         Her disrespect came from anger and frustration.
         Nevertheless, respect is something we need to give others in all situations.
         The boundary she did not follow was in regards to expressing negative emotions. Instead of being respectful, she was rude.

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         Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         I knew a woman once who was white, married to a black guy, with Philippino adopted children. She was racist. I've met black women who felt white guys they'd dated had been attracted to them as some type of fetish.
         
         Saying you date a woman,or women, of color does not preclude racism.

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