I have said and done things that I hurt others and those who I have hurt have given me second chances or forgiven me. Here's the problem, I try to do the same for others because the same was done for me, but I am under the impression that some people really do not change. How can I learn to forgive others but not be stupid enough to trust them once again? Does forgiveness really mean eliminating the past completely? I am struggling to forgive a few people, but I really do not want them in my life now and in the future. How can I honestly trust someone I know has stolen valuables from me or people my family keep warning me to stay away from? I like to see the good in the others, but I do not want to be stupid again to trust someone who has seem heartless.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget completely. You forget the anger. You forget the feeling of betrayal. You put it in perspective and move forward. You adjust your behavior in an attempt to be a positive influence.
If someone is a thief, it doesn't mean you pretend they aren't. You accept them for what they are and fashion your relationship accordingly, or step away. To allow them to continue to steal is not being a positive influence and just setting yourself up to be hurt again.
by Jaggedfrost 6 years ago
Forgiving others is hard enough, what are some strategies or ways of looking at life that allow...one to forgive not only others but ones self?
by PhoenixV 2 years ago
Do Atheists Believe In Forgiveness?Why?
by L.A. Walsh 7 years ago
Regaining your trust in the Church after a scandal. Was your community and/or yourself effected by a Church scandal? Is it right for the Church to "cast stones" at others considering all of this?
by deergha 5 years ago
Forgiving own self or forgiving other is more important?
by Anan Celeste 6 years ago
Do you know how to forgive? Can you forget?It's rather easy to say I forgive you,but is it always so?
by GrowingDeeper 7 years ago
What makes it hard for you to forgive?Forgiveness isn't easy for any of us. But, what makes it so difficult for you? Are there particular instances that are easier than others? Just would like some feedback from you folks.
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