Why it is that only children are more sincere, kind, and truthful people than pe

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   gmwilliamsposted 11 years ago

   Why it is that only children are more sincere, kind, and truthful people than people who have
   
   siblings who are often competitive, manipulative, and into mindgames?  I have noticed throughout my life that only children are more peaceful and considerate people.   They are not bullies, neither engage in nor instigate fights and altercations like children with siblings.   They are also not into pettiness as people who grew up in multichild families are.  In other words, only children do not cause discord and static.   They believe in living and letting live.

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   aberrylvtposted 11 years ago

   Only children are not any more considerate than people with siblings. I have found the opposite to be true. The only children I have met have developed an unusually large sense of self entitlement and have less empathy for other people's feelings. They have not developed the social skills learned from having to share or work with others because they never had to share or work with a sibling growing up. They may be more peaceful because of not fighting with siblings growing up, but they more than compensate for there peacefulness by being selfish and rude.
   I do not think it is due to their status as only child or child with siblings, I think it is due to how the parents treated them and what type of discipline and learning they had growing up.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I have found only children to be the kindest and most cooperative of souls.   As a child, the children who were the nicest and most peaceful were onlies.  They did not fight nor played mindgames like children with siblings routinely did.

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   meloncauliposted 11 years ago

   I don't think categorizing only children from those with siblings in this way is very fair. Not all lone children are as you describe, nor are those with siblings.
   Children often behave according to the way they have been brought up and it's in their childhood they learn about sharing, compassion, consideration etc. You'd be better looking to what the parents of the children are like first and then making up your mind.
   
   Lone children have a bigger chance of their full parent's attention, of more one to one time. Perhaps this brings more security and a secure child will be a happier child. Often it's unhappy children that show the negative traits you mention.
   Having to struggle for mom's attention, or not having enough money to buy that pair of football boots may just be making little Jimmy resentful!
   
   I know several large families with 4+ children,and  they are the most loving considerate of families you could meet. The sense of "family" is great and their children are far from selfish or manipulative.
   
   I don't know where "peaceful" comes into it all really. It's never peaceful in  a home with several children and if there are many of you, perhaps you have to learn to shout the loudest! That said, I was brought with two siblings and my sister was a very peaceful, calm and tolerant child, whilst sadly, I was the opposite!

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      tsadjatkoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. There are so many factors that contribute to a child's personality from genetics to parental care, school, health, religion, race, economic status it is not realistic to base a comparison of chidren just by whether they are only or not.

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   whonunuwhoposted 11 years ago

   Children's minds are like a vacuum and as they grow, they absorb more and more information and look to adults as role models to follow after. If they are exposed to negative people and poor role models, then this is how they behave. If the adults around them are good teachers and those who aspire to the goodness that life has to offer, then the children follow in kind. The innocence of youth is fleeting but extremely admirable and awe inspiring. We, as adults, should learn lessons from our children's hearts that they are so eager to share with us.

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