If YOU were to grade your parents, what grade would you give them?

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   gmwilliamsposted 11 years ago

   If YOU were to grade your parents, what grade would you give them?

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2. 93

   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   A one out of 10 or an F simply because I managed to actually live.

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      Cantuhearmescreamposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That is awesome! Sad... but awesome!

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      Sarra Garrettposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are a survivor!

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3. 74

   Cantuhearmescreamposted 11 years ago

   I would give them an 8.5; they were physically awesome parents but their psychology was questionable.

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4. 73

   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   7 out of 10. The low number because after the third child, the house became unstructured. It created a false sense of security. Also, they did not help in real life lessons much.

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   1. 85

      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Oftentimes, the larger the family, the more chaotic the environment is. However, your family would be aptly described as medium.Let me not digress in large families of 5 and more children,parents lose their span of control thus kids raise themselves.

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      lburmasterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I've known a few large families. It's more hectic and I entirely agree.

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   3. 85

      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I had classmates who came from large/very large families. No discipline in the house, house untidy, and children were totally unsupervised and feral.They raised themselves and each other.One can always tell kids froml large families by their demeanor

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      lburmasterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. Children always show signs of their surroundings.

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5. 60

   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   Wow, that is an interesting and difficult question.  I guess I would rate them C- due to their alcoholism.  Thankfully they were not abusive and among all the chaos of the alcoholic family, I did know that I was loved which is tremendously important.  They just had issues they could not overcome.

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   Sarra Garrettposted 11 years ago

   A resounding F due to alcoholism, physical and emotional abuse.  There is a special room in Hell waiting for them.

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7. 60

   Aupriann Myersposted 11 years ago

   D, They put a roof over my head, but when I really needed them they were not there.

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   Lisa HWposted 11 years ago

   I'd give them both an "A+" as parents.  That's not because they didn't make a few mistakes here or there.  All parents make mistakes, and sometimes it's more a matter of their not understanding what an individual child wants/needs than it is the parents' failing as parents.  BUT, they were, amazingly good parents, and they're the reason I was a solid and secure little kid who was understanding enough, and reasonable enough, to realize that when they did occasionally mess up it was because they didn't really know better.
   
   They were hard-working, caring, generous people who managed to make sure we had pretty much everything (minus some luxuries), that the house was peaceful and happy.  They were the reason I knew that children could be raised to be well behaved and respectful without being yelled at or hit.  They were examples of working together, helping other people when they needed it, taking care of extended family when they needed some help.  They were also examples of "figuring out a way" and "pulling together" when there were challenges.  They were also the reason I grew up knowing how to make babies and young children feel very safe and secure and happy, and respecting that babies and children are separate little individuals.
   
   They were a little too much when it came to thinking that every little thing I did wrong was a sign of any problem more serious than my just doing what all kids do, which was "something stupid".   They could have also done a little better when it came to my developing confidence in dealing with world (different from self-esteem, which I have).  In fact, they worried so much about making sure I "never got a big head" they kind of created some confidence problems for me.  For me, confidence wasn't just "bestowed" on me.  On the other hand, I have a nicely balanced ego that lets me truly feel and know that I'm no better and no less than anyone else (and I'm not talking about individual skills; I mean "being respect-worthy" or "value-worthy" as a person).
   
   And, while I have no doubt my own three children would have a complaint or two about something I did; my parents are the reason I was able to raise the children I have, and the reason I at least did well enough that they have, from time to time, let me know that they approve of a lot of the things I've done/been as a parent.  They were exceptional,(even if not perfect) and I'm incredibly thankful to have been so very fortunate enough to have had them in my life.

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   1. 85

      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Your answer is beautifully heartfelt and I rated it the BEST answer.

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      Lisa HWposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      gm, thank you.  (I wish they'd lived long enough to see the Internet in existence and to see that I've tried to "give them the credit they deserve" where all the world can see.     They were quiet and could have used a little more confidence too.)

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      elawsuitloansposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I would agree here, and such a beautiful way with words. GREAT answer and indeed, I would give mine an A+ as well.

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