Battle of the girlfriends

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   TravelMonkeyposted 15 years ago

   I have been with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and everything was perfect, she always stayed over and was very close to my family. My brother has started a relationship 5 months ago with my eldest sisters friend and the girls do not get along  to say the least. Both girls think the other is being funny with them or stuck up, the house is now unbelievably tense and the atmosphere is ridiculous. The girls cannot be in the house at the same time and his partner is keen to let the whole house know what is being said in every message or email whilst me and my girlfriend want the whole thing kept between the four of us. The thing is, they think that we are only keeping it under wraps because we know we are in the wrong. ARGH
   
   My brother is in the army and is set to tour Afghan in October, he told me yesterday that she said to him that she would need to see some form of commitment if she is to stay with him whilst he is away, so he proposed to her.
   
   I think he is making the wrong decision but he wont listen to anyone, he's still very much in the 'honeymoon period'. He has lost all personal quality since he has been with her and everyone has noticed how she pulls his strings.
   
   How can I tell him if he is so blind?

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   tonks21posted 15 years ago

   Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. My sister used to always date the wrong guys and get into so much trouble with the choices she made for her life. We are a close family and everything we said to her and did for her was ignored. You can tell him - but if he doesn't want to hear it than he will do what he wants.
   
   All you can pray is that eventually he will see the light. One day my sister was headed in the wrong direction and then the next day she had turned her life around and regrets everything that she did. It is all about personal choices. I know it's hard to watch though.

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   TravelMonkeyposted 15 years ago

   yeah well hopefully he will but I fear all this will happen to quick for him and when he realises there is a problem it'll be too late. I'm not suggesting gate crashing their wedding ceremony but I would like to make them slow down a little, so they can both realise if it is what they really want. Thanks Tonks21

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   sgjeromeposted 15 years ago

   Once couple are in love no others advise or comment can get in.
   
   Get your brother out for a day and have heart to heart talk.
   
   At least you try

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   britneydavidsonposted 15 years ago

   i seriously prefer that you must have to speak to him or your family members and have to realise him about the reality before he ruins his life with wrong person...all the best

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   TravelMonkeyposted 15 years ago

   Its like talking to a brick wall though. Its the fact that she said that a ring on her finger would make her a lot more comfortable. Another thing that has been added to this matter is the revelation that she split from her last partner due to him not wanting to get married or have children. Then my brother comes along - hook, line and sinker!

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