What is Hypersexuality?

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   I've been told that hypersexuality is a state of being where you are more aware
   than normal of your sexuality.
   
   It could be that you are overly sensitive to the fact that licking your lips
   may "turn someone on" without your intention.
   
   Or it may be that you are thinking about sex with every person of the opposite
   sex you meet, and wondering why, and how come you can't control it? Or why
   are you always nervous around them?
   
   Perhaps it comes and goes.
   
   Is it shyness? Nervousness? Or because your parent made you feel uncomfortable inappropriately and so now it's learned behavior?
   
   Have you heard of it and what do you know or experience?
   
   I'd like to do a hub on this because I think it's an interesting topic and one
   that many people experience but never understand why or are unaware.  This could be of great help to ease anxiety.

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   recommend1posted 12 years ago

   I don't think it means any of the things you assume.  It is generally all about lack of inhibitions either due to some mental issues such as bipolar or straight forward lack of moral controls .  Basically hypersexuality means slut, male or female.

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      oh, wow.
      I think it can be unintentional thou, like you said due to bipolar, and maybe other things? Oh and I don't think everyone acts on these feelings, that it could make them extremely uncomfortable.

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         wildernessposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I saw a TV special about brain damage where some woman in Britain had suffered damage and it affected her sexual desire to the point she was afraid to go outside.  A walk to town inevitably ended with her in bed with a stranger.  Unless her husband was right with her at all times she would bed any man she saw. 
         
         You're right - extremely uncomfortable.  Both MD's and psychologists were working with her, trying to find out why and how to stop it, but no real results yet.
         
         Maybe that's hypersexuality.  A slut, yes, but not by choice.  She couldn't control it, kind of like bipolar.  Or like anyone with a compulsion to wash their hands, gamble, whatever.

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I don't think it's always that serious, but yeah that sounds pretty bad.

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            Motown2Chitownposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            That's exactly how I would describe it, wilderness, from what I understand about the meaning of the prefixes - hyper and hypo.
            
            hyper - too high, therefore I would state the simple definition of hypersexuality as a sex drive that is abnormally high - for whatever the individual reasons might be.
            
            hypo - too low.  Not important for this conversation, just throwing it out there for the sake of comparison.
            
            

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            if you look it up on wikipedia, it's not that serious.

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         recommend1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         "extremely uncomfortable" after the first dozen or so in the day I guess
         
         I guess hypersexuality is nymphomania in a different name ?

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            whatever LOL

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               Harlan Coltposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Every guy who hasn't commented is thinking... why can't I meet a woman like that. LOL!

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                  Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Untrue.

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                     schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     explain.

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                     schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     ok, well of course not all men want a woman who wants every man she sees, unless maybe it's just him and she wants him all the time, unless he can't handle that. And again, being hypersexual doesn't mean the person wants everyone. It's just an uncomfortable feeling.

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                        schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        Oh, I didn't know we were talking about Me.   (!) Um I thought this was hypothetical...
                        I on the contrary do not act out these feelings-not physically-and I don't "want" every man. I just get shy and nervous.  Men make me nervous in all sorts of ways due to bad fatherhood.....

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                  Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  You don't know men if you think that. She must be able to completely cover up the fact that she is mentally ill.  No man would want to take advantage of someone that's not making a conscious choice to have sex with them. That's rape.

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                     recommend1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     Women who have sexually come onto me in this way over the years do not appear to be mentally ill usually, just over-liberal in their sexual appetites.  My rejection of them has been purely on health grounds normally    This not being mentally ill does not include a young woman who insisted on having sex with almost all the crew members on my submarine (126 men) but I think the OP means more men and women who actively seek out sex all the time ?

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                        schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        It's a choice.  I think this thread is being misunderstood, not that I care, why would I care what people really think when I write about mental health everyday? Like who really accepts it? (Obviously the smart educated ones do) But yeah, ....A choice. 
                        
                        Um- "more men and women who actively seek out sex all the time?"
                        No.
                        
                        I mean..a person who is overly anxious about things. Not seeking overly, no. Just too aware of things. Unable to ignore a man's gaze or presence making her blush or feel shy even though she's not shy. Something like that I guess.

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                           Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                           I understand now. Forgive my juvenile come on.
                           Some people may not have the education needed to control their sexual urges or handle sexual advances from others. So, there is no choice for some people.

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                              schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                              okay
                              
                              what do you mean by that though? I'm a little confused

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                                 Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                 Okay...If you study human behavior, sociology, or phychology; it would be  easy for you to coverup any mental disease you might have.  If you study sexual behavior, moral and religious rules of acceptable sexual behavior, it's  likely you will moderate your sexual behavior. That way you will make better sexual behavior choices.

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                                    schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                    yes, moral rules help

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                              schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                              "Some?" Like who?

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                     schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     who are we talking about?
                     
                     And mentally ill? Being mentally ill or "someone with depression- which is in fact almost everyone at least at some point" does not make one unable to decide things.

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   Friendlywordposted 12 years ago

   This could be a very good forum or hub! Some people have a really strong sexual magnetism that they are not aware of.  Like you.  I can say every man that is reading this forum is attracted to you.  But, you may not even think you're sexy. Some people react badly to so much attention.  How do you handle it? (wink wink)

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you.
      That is the nicest compliment I've heard in a long time
      
      [Are you a single good looking male?! lol]
      
      Hmmm a really strong sexual magnetism...cool! My mom does. I guess it's good.
      
      
      As I say, though.....every man? wow. thanks
      
      That feels great.
      
      No, I didn't think I was, not until I at least am physically satisfied with how I want to look exactly.
      
      How do I handle it? I blush.

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         Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         "Are you a single good looking male"
         
         Thank you! Now you made me blush! I guess I have that "SEXUAL MAGNETISM" going on too.  It's going to be hard for you to keep this a serious discussion. It will be a great hub and a good time had by all! (lighting a cigarette)

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Okay, don't mind if I do too [puff puff] lol
            
            hmm sexual magnetism is always good...I'm still single thou...lol

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   This makes me very uncomfortable at times because I'm not sure if I'm making some people -men uncomfortable. I am nervous by nature ... and I feel uncomfortable when I 'feel' something between a therapist or social worker, and I have trouble dealing with it, like I want to run away from it sometimes. Any suggestions?

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   psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

   There are different kind of hypersexuality but basically it is a person that needs, wants or chooses to have a hell of a lot of sex. It is only a problem if it causes a problem in their life. I think it often is just a physical thing, lie some people are more hungry or like to exercise more of have a better sense of taste or smell.

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   Here's my hub if you're interested.
   http://schoolgirlforreal.hubpages.com/h … acteristic

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   I am so f'n niave! I can't believe I posted all this b.s.!!! Thanks for the feedback thou.

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