What is your sexual orientation (if you don't mind me asking)?

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   JamiJayposted 11 years ago

   What is your sexual orientation (if you don't mind me asking)?
   
   I have always been an open person; I believe people can fall in love and have sex with absolutely anyone (because love and sex feels good and everyone wants to feel good). I have never identified with a specific sexual orientation. I love people for who they are as individuals (and sex? Well... sex is sex, no matter what gender is in your bed). But enough about me, what is your sexual orientation (if you don't mind me asking)? Why do you identify with this specific orientation?

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   PaoloJpmposted 11 years ago

   Well, I am an open person as well, and your point of view is interesting, I could entertain anybody as long as we are on the same edge.

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   Borsiaposted 11 years ago

   While I have no problem with anyone else's orientation, and I support things like same sex marriage, I am straight.
   I can't say that I have any other reasoning other than I came wired this way.
   I can recognize that other men are attractive but they don't have any sexual attraction to me.
   I'm not too exactly in my choice of women but they have to be attractive to me. They can be short or tall slender or a little more rounded but they have to attract me and there are things that can turn me off no matter how great a body or personality they have. Any but the most discrete tattoo for instance hit my off switch like a lightning bolt. There are several other traits that turn me off just as fast of course.
   But nothing turns me off faster than a penis,,, lol.

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      ChristinSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Your answer - only in reverse. I'm a woman who is hard wired straight. I do not find other women attractive that way at all, but I have absolutely no problem with people loving who they love. - this answer was fantastic I laughed

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   marwan asmarposted 11 years ago

   I am straight as a crooked street is whatever that means

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   MG Singhposted 11 years ago

   I love women. My orientation is any woman who wishes to be apart of my life from 18 upwards. I have had relationships with the women of many states of India including American, Russian and and  French. Part of this was helped by my global travel courtesy my job as a officer of the Air Force. Its been a great life and there are subtle differences between the women. I would not like to write more.

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   Neil Sperlingposted 11 years ago

   I'ld rather show you than tell you :-) ...............................................

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   Bishop55posted 11 years ago

   I am married, but consider myself bisexual (although not actively bi since I've been married, I've only been with my husband).  Also, I only find myself attracted to very good looking feminine women.   I like to be dominated by my man, and dominate women.  I'm not sure why this is, but I equate it to years of a very dysfunctional childhood.  Sexuality is a very complex topic for humans in my opinion.   I'm am against gay marriage, but to clarify...I think it should have a different name, call it a civil union, provide equal rights financially, but don't call it marriage, marriage was designed by religion, not government.

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      mbuggiehposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      So...same-sex relationships are good enough for sex, but not good enough for marriage equality?
      
      Marriage is not "designed" by religion in the US as the government (the state) defines what constitutes a legal marriage via civil licensing.

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   freefoggingposted 11 years ago

   Hi JamiJay, nice to meet you. I happen to be bi, but have been marriage to my husband for almost 30 years now. The reason I identify with this specific orientation is because that's who I happened to fall in love with. I also believe that people can fall in love with either sex...love is love...it is a feeling that you can't control. I just don't go around announcing my sexual orientation unless I'm asked.

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   rainbowManposted 11 years ago

   I think of myself as gay, but there are women I find very attractive, so maybe I am a closet bisexual.  I too believe sex is sex and love is love; both things are two different things, not the same thing.
   
   I am for couples being happy no matter their orientation, heterosexual, bisexual, asexual or group sex.  Sex has a practical use (procreation) and sex has a fun use (it feels good).  I think people make too big a thing sometimes about sex and sexual orientation.  When couples want to have a child, have sex.  When couples want to have some pleasurable fun, have sex.  Life is short - enjoy, don't argue.

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    jcYehwehposted 11 years ago

    I am heterosexual as God intended.  It is not my decision to decide what sexual orientation other people choose.  That choice is between each person and God.  Myself, I never felt it as a choice.  I always felt attracted to women and never once felt an attraction toward a man.  We are all different however and obviously not all men feel the same as I.
    
    Bless you no matter your orientation.  I wish you a happy life.

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    RealityTalkposted 11 years ago

    I consider myself heterosexual.  Ever since I can remember, I have been attracted to women.  I love the way they look (soft, shapely, smooth skin, long hair, feminine lines & features).  I love the way they smell.  I love the way they feel.  I love it all. 
    
    But I have always said, and I agree with you, sex is sex and love is love.  I am not a proponent of same-sex marriage as I strongly believe in a two parent (father & mother) family.  I believe a child needs the benefits of an upbringing only possible with a mother & father.  And, if at all possible - their mother & father.   I know some will disagree, but that is - my opinion.
    
    It is none of my business what sexual choices other couples make.  There obviously are a lot of men attracted to other men & that is their desire & their choice - I see nothing wrong there.  There obviously are a lot of women attracted to other women & that is their desire & their choice - and I'm attracted to women, so I see exactly why women are attracted to other women.  Actually, I can't see why anyone is sexually attracted to a man other than for the purpose of procreation. LOL.
    
    I do have to add that I believe there is too much focus on sex.  I don't define myself as a heterosexual.  I don't think lesbians, gay or bisexuals should define themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual.  I think there are more valuable identifiers of individuals than sex.  I prefer to identify myself as a husband, a father or a good person rather than as a heterosexual.
    
    Whatever your choice, I hope you are happy.

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    Sri Tposted 11 years ago

    Totally straight. I go with nature. Since I was born male, I am that. Therefore, I am attracted to women as nature intended. There is no need for me to go against what nature has intended. I believe male and female is the intent. If that was not the case, there would only be one sex in existence. But people can and do go against nature's plan. I don't think the consequences are major, at least on the third dimemension.

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       Borsiaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       There are gays in pretty much every species not just humans which would indicate that gay is a part of nature.
       As humans we are born hard wired to be whatever we are, that doesn't make others unnatural, just different.

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       Sri Tposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       The fact that gays cannot reproduce life via same sex should tell you something about nature's original intent for males and females. No one can argue against nature, but they can and do go against it.

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       Borsiaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       You have your mind trapped in a small box where love and desire aren't natural and sex is only an act for procreation. Expand to see the whole picture and you will experience a new world. Sex is an expression of, extension of one's connection.

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       Sri Tposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       If one with nature's plan is a small box, then that is the case. Some people will deviate and go in other directions. There are all kinds of strange things being practiced. I just go with the original plan which is a male and female relationship.

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    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    I am completely and totally straight. Having sex with someone of my own gender makes my stomach turn. I love men, everything about them. I believe that is just the way I was born and have always been that way.

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    jlparkposted 11 years ago

    I identify as a gay woman.
    
    I am not romantically or sexually attracted to men, nor have I ever been.
    
    I did not choose to be gay - I have never ever felt any different, even as a child/teen. However, I do choose to accept and embrace my sexuality, and be proud of who I am, and who I will be.  This is the only choice I had in the matter of my sexuality.
    
    Why do I not use the term lesbian?? To quote my lovely wife - 'The word sounds like something you've stepped in - "Oh no, I've got a bit of lesbian on my shoe!"" - it doesn't sound right to me....I am gay. But in discussion with people on sexuality, or if they ask directly I will agree with the term lesbian to describe myself.
    
    I am as nature intended me to be - it is unnatural for me to try and be attracted to men, nor could I ever make myself. Just as any straight person cannot decide to suddenly be gay, I cannot suddenly make me straight.
    
    I am as I was intended to be. Just as you all are as well.

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       Borsiaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Hilarious ;-)
       Even though I'm straight and male I've never liked the sound of lesbian either. Just like you said, you just hope it isn't going to ruin your good shoes.

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    Veroniquebeeposted 11 years ago

    I identify myself as straight - while I can look at a woman and say yeah, she's pretty, it's more like saying compliments about piece of art or something. I do not remember myself ever looking at woman and thinking I would like to date her - nothing against same sex couples or anything, but I'm just not that way, and it really ticks me off, when someone labels me homophobe because I refuse advances of a woman. It already happened to me - it would have been rather funny, if it wasn't so sad at the same time.

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    CJWood71posted 11 years ago

    I am a straight male.  I do not judge others for their choices, to each their own.  It is simply how I was raised and the idea of being with another man is not appealing to me.  I suppose you could say that its not how I was made.

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    Jodahposted 11 years ago

    Interesting question JamiJay, and some great answers as well.
    I am a straight male, with a somewhat homophobic upbringing, though now with maturity I can see the error of my father's beliefs and have come to accept that the most important thing is "that you love" NOT "who you love".
    I have gay friends and believe same sex marriage should be allowed, though I am only attracted to women physically to he extent I often joke of myself that I am a 'male lesbian'.

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    ktnptlposted 11 years ago

    I think you are right. One can fall in love with anyone of any gender. I even saw people fall in love with objects. So love and sex are two different things. Talking about me, I am a straight male. But I totally understand other sexual orientation and respect them all.

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    Christafayeposted 7 years ago

    Mtf crossdressing bisexual wanting to be with a man and my wife

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