what are your opinions on sexual fluidity?

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   arieanacroomposted 10 years ago

   Im interested in the opinions on the subject of sexual fluidity. Not bisexuality. The concept that sexual fluidity is having an urge for a certain gender for a period of time, and switching for another period of time.

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      MelissaBarrettposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      That sounds an awful lot like bi-sexuality to me.  It's like that old almond joy/mounds commercial.
      
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s55QoIZScP4
      
      Seriously, if there is a distinction it's very very small.  I go through periods all the time where I prefer one rather than the other.

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   psycheskinnerposted 10 years ago

   People are very diverse.  Some people have that experience.  That is a matter of their experiences, not my opinions.  It is possible to go through many different states of a/sexuality-philia throughout the course of a life.

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   violinistguyposted 10 years ago

   Gender and sexual fluidity are very complicated issues within the GSM community.  In general, sexual fluidity and bi-sexuality could be regarded as the same thing; however, the biggest distinction is that bi-sexuals often claim a 50/50 desire for men or women (equal chance of being with either gender) while fluidity indicates an actual switch in desire.  Of course, it is more complicated than that because some who claim sexual fluidity also claim gender fluidity.

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   gjeanposted 10 years ago

   Any sexual experience that involves different partners over time contributes to a person's chances of contracting social diseases and illnesses.   Urges - are just that.  A desire that comes and goes.  I would suggest that people ignore the urge; let it pass with time. 
   
   If one views sex as a pleasurable past time only, then a wise move would be to keep the circle of sex partners very small and closed.  If one views sex as an act of love and commitment (my personal view), then it would be wiser to wait for that person you can commit to for a long period of time.
   
   If the sexual fluidity desires / urges are acted upon, feelings of confusion and guilt can result.  Just be careful and take the long view of life.

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      MelissaBarrettposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Bisexual (and sexually fluid... I guess) doesn't mean promiscuous. I'm happily bisexual and exceptionally sexually boring.
      
      Alternative sexuality is statistically similar in sexually transmitted diseases as heterosexuality... so your warning would be equally true if speaking to a straight person.
      
      In addition, my bi-sexual desires have never led to any feelings of confusion and certainly not guilt, even when I acted on them. I can see no more reason that they would lead to those emotions that purely heterosexual relationships.

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      psycheskinnerposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      If you follow this advice, the human race will rapidly become extinct.

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      Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      ...great advice, gjean. They are words to the wise and will lead us to a higher age. We are going in that direction whether THEY want to get on board or not!

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      Shailesh Manmodeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I liked your opinion but when all is said and done the day of reckoning is just round the corner.

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   Astra Nomikposted 10 years ago

   Fluidity might need a bit more defining. Being lesbian is not fluid I think. The woman I live with (Cassy) is bisexual. She is definitely fluid. But also not fluid. it is like she knows who she prefers... and she does not... um... let me say this nicely, ... mix the fluids together. LOL. By that I mean to be with the two sexes for physical reasons at the same time. She prefers just the one. There is a filter there and that counts. There can be attractions and there can be infatuations... and other things... we all know these.
   
   There are urges, preferences in gender and there are instincts. Sometimes they are all the same to me. They led me to the woman I am in love with now. I listen to those urges, and that sense of attraction I get. It tells me who I am.

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 10 years ago

   ...too much freedom will lead to an impossible society. This period in history -which is currently advocating an increasing lack of common sense boundaries - will prove temporary.
   We will learn the hard way it looks like.
   
   Darn.

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      psycheskinnerposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Too little freedom will lead to an impossible society. Where the elite decide what we can do with our own bodies.  We have seen what that looks like.  Never again.

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   Motown2Chitownposted 10 years ago

   When I googled just the phrase ''sexual fluidity,'' I got results about a book entitled "Sexual Fluidity" which was written specifically to attract sexual preferences in women.  It is based on the premise that women commit to relationships based more on circumstances and the personalities of their partners, as opposed to simply their genders.  I actually agree 100% with the premise, although, having not read the book, I can't speak to my agreement or disagreement on the exposition of the author's thought process.
   
   Basically, I've always said that I fall in love with a person.  Their gender has never been the issue.  Whether that person is a man or a woman, and I've been in love with both, it is WHO they are that determines my affection for them.  Whether or not I act out that love in a physical sense in what determines my sexuality.  I think the phrase is a bit misleading in that regard.  At least when used as the title of this woman's book, it speaks to how women love, not which gender they prefer.
   
   *Edit - I think.

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   Beth37posted 10 years ago

   I think we all need to keep our sexual fluids to ourselves.

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      Motown2Chitownposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      Beth, sometimes I read your comments in forum posts and laugh and shake my head simultaneously.  You're funny.  In a good way.

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         Beth37posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         The really sad thing is Mo, I am usually just trying to crack myself up. I'm so relieved when someone else gets the joke.

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            Motown2Chitownposted 10 years agoin reply to this

            Sometimes I think you're like me.  I just don't say a lot of the things I think out loud.  For the same reason, I'm always afraid no one else will get it. 
            
            That was funny, though.  Really funny.

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               Beth37posted 10 years agoin reply to this

               

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