I cannot love them any longer !

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   My Friend Shiylohposted 14 years ago

   What do you really do when you find, that you think and act this way ?
   
   That you have come to the end of your love.

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      Mark Knowlesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Why are you posting this in religion forum? Surely belong mental health forum?

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         My Friend Shiylohposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         The love in here has gone cold.

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            tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              Turn on the heater

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         Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Congrats on hitting 100 Mark!

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            earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            That is Marks usual score!

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               Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               oh it is? lol well I haven't been on here long so I didn't know that hehe

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            ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I am normally suprised when I see Mark on anything less than 99..... He is what you could call a 'hubpages heavyweight'.

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      imadorkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I am happy.  Now I can bang other women.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   100 religionists?

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      earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      For lunch!

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   God forbid!

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      earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, the master of the one liner... very funny Misha! Gave me a giggle!

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         Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks Ernest - and glad you liked it

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            earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I often do. You usually manage at least two meanings!

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   Jeramiposted 14 years ago

   If you cain't love em any longer then that is the hurtal that you do or do not have to deal with.  God bless ya any way.

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   It depends on the relationship and how involved it is. You either find out what the problem is, and work to solve it. Or move on.
   
   Is there something more to this question that I'm missing?

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      ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I thought that you had lots of college work Skiving already?

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         Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I was at school 9 hours today thank you!

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            ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Fair enough, thats far more than I have done today, didnt get out of bed until 1pm!

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         sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I see I'm out numbered here, way too many intellectuals and progrssives.
         
         Ryankett what the hell are you asking?

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            ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            It doesnt concern you.

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               sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Are you coming out of the closet? Go back! Go back! You don't have to love them just don't cut them off you may change your mind! Am I getting closer?

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      My Friend Shiylohposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Love would love all people the same, from the cashier, to the police officer. to the truck driver, to the homeless beggar, to the military person, to the farmer, to the teacher etc...
      
      Love can treat a spouse with love or children or family. This love can be deep because they "mean something to us"...and yet the regular people we meet should be treated with love too, perhaps not as intimate, but still a very real love.
      
      Love has to be equally given to all first, then it only gets deeper and closer in proximity and then keeps growing. We should have a "minimum love for all mankind."
      
      This is not easy to do. To give love and expect nothing in return, because real love is needless, sacrificial and giving towards all, no matter if they cannot do anything in return "for us."
      
      The "value of the relationship" does not change loving the person at all times, nor is love concerned with "what's in it for me" or "how much do I like this one or that one."
      
      We tend to be very selfish with our love because it comes from our own "estimation" of love and how much we owe love to someone based on the "relationship."
      
      We really are to afraid to love it seems.
      
      ~Shiyloh~

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   I'm jealous Ryan.

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   9 hours? jeez colebabie yep it's time for fun and chilling on here!

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   earnestshubposted 14 years ago

   I agree we do find it hard to love.
   I feel it starts with self love though. At our best we can love all the people we interact with each day. At our lowest we should still be able to do that but it seems we struggle with it.
   Lots of love to you for discussing it!

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      My Friend Shiylohposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the feedback Earnest.
      
      I believe that a greater love than self-love exists and I have had to embrace this love because I have found to many times in meeting people that were beyond my capacity to love, I could not do it with self-love. I had to reach out and call upon greater love, to help me love the unlovable people I meet.
      
      Learning to love them expecting nothing in return and becoming in effect, needless. This was something that has set me free in many, many ways and it is that love that is beyond “self-love”...something that I have experienced that I call “pure self-less love.”
      
      This love is not something I just “call upon” when I have come to the end of “self-love”...rather it is something I walk in as a way of life and chose not to be moved from the position of this love.
      
      This is why I love to say:
      Give what you have in your cup. When your cup is empty, give your cup. Your cup is a clay vessel made from love, to be filled with love, even when empty, the cup is love to be given away.
      
      ~Shiyloh~

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         earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Shyloh, I do agree with what you call love. Love is doing because you love. I still call it self love when I speak of it, have not tried to analyze it too much. I know love as a selfish act. It makes you grow. The more freely you give your love to the cop on the beat, to the people in the supermarket, anyone you meet, the better your own life is! Works like magic if it is solidly founded in good healthy self love, and for some reason it just gets everyone around you to fill with love too. Other shoppers switch modes in front of your eyes, the dear older lady you helped get on the bus flashes you her secret 16 year old girl's smile.
         What can I say? It's all good!

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