Do you get along with your siblings?

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   advisor4qbposted 14 years ago

   I am having a fight with one of my sisters, and it really bothers me that we are not able to work through this thing that happened between us right now!

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      elisabethkcmoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I lost my only sister to cancer 3 years ago and I miss her everyday.
      there will never be anyone else in this world like a sister, cherish each other

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         advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Well, I try to cherish her, but she ignores me.  I had to have another family member deliver her present yesterday (birthday), which was heartbreaking for me.  I really do miss her.  And she is still alive, I hope for a very long time!

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   Justine76posted 14 years ago

   thats hard, but family can be difficult at times. I hope you can get it worked out soon. I have one sister who is much younger then I and we have always gotten along. One other sister...not so much. my in laws...thats a whole different story!!!

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      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks.  I have a pretty big family (I am one of 5, and I also have two step-siblings).  But this one sister and I always have a problem of one type or another.  She just doesn't appreciate anything, and I did something once to try and help her, not realizing it was going to be a big problem, and she never forgave me.
      
      It sucks that I would never hurt her on purpose and she KNOWS that but can't get past this thing that happened.
      
      It just doesn't seem fair.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

   yes it is difficult specially if they are family, and you have to see them everyday too....

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      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I don't see her every day.  I hardly ever see her.  Her children are here a lot of the time, but she and I are not talking.

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   Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

   Two of my siblings call me a couple times a week.  The third won't speak to me. 
   
   Sometimes, even with family, one has to decide what they stand for and what they are going to allow.  I will not let my youngest sister dictate my thinking, so she will not talk to me. 
   
   I just remind myself that though she may be family, she is also human.  Though we grew up together, it is no guarantee of friendship.

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      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      She sounds easily offended, like the sister I am talking about.  She always thought I was being snobby when I tried to give her sisterly advice.  We always fought back then, but we always made up.  Until now.

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   A2shleyposted 14 years ago

   I have a really good relationship with my brothers but that took a lot of time.  I am the middle child, only girl.  When we were younger we fought constantly and rarely spoke but now that we are all in our 20's and 30's we get along so much better.  I think part of it is growing up and moving past sibling rivalry.  But my family also moved away from the rest of our extended family about 10 years ago so when the holidays came around we were all we had.  I don't know what it's like to fight with a sister or how you have handled your disagreement so far but maybe give yourself a few days breather and then try to revisit the disagreement when you both have had a chance to cool off???  I hope you're able to work it out!

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      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, it's been an ongoing thing since 2004.  VERY long story, and I don't want to disclose too much about her personal life.  I tried to rescue her from a situation that she did not want to be rescued from, I guess.  She decided to stay, and she eventually left herself, but she has never forgiven me for prying. 
      
      I wish I had let someone else do what I did.  It would have only been a matter of time.
      
      As far as being the middle child and a girl between two boys, that is exactly how my daughter is.  And boy is she rough and tough!!!!  I hope they all get along someday (and I hope that I am still alive to see it!!!).

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   Chloe Comfortposted 14 years ago

   I'm the oldest of three and we have a pretty good relationship. There are those fights of course but nothing that keeps us from speaking to each other. When it comes down to it though, we always have each other's back and see each other at least once a week at mom's house. We all live close to each other and our kids are around the same age and close as well. Yeah - we're good :-)

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      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that is how I am with all of my other siblings.  it is just this one that I have problems with..

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   Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

   Not really. My closest sister is 4 years older and still treats me like a kid even though we are both in our 50s. Like Ivorwen, she tries to dictate my thinking and takes nothing I say seriously. We live on opposite sides of the country.
   
   I also have another sister in Scotland who I rarely ever see.

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   Anackisposted 14 years ago

   I get along great with them, even the step brothers and sisters. I'd like to add that I never considered them step bro's and sis's. We get along too well for that.

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 14 years ago

   My sister and I didn't really grow up together. I was w/ mom and she was w/ dad. We reunited several months ago and now we're great friends. When we were little kids we had a typical older brother/younger sister relationship. She looked up to me and I tormented her, but nothing unusual. She was the one who took the initiative in contacting me (on facebook) and I'm so glad she did.

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    fishtiger58posted 14 years ago

    I have 2 sisters with whom I get along with and I love them. I also have 2 brothers, the youngest one I get along with very well the other brother is a bit harder to get along with. He is a bit of a braggart and that gets on my nerves. He is always trying to keep up with the Joneses. His stuff is better than everyone else's stuff. I don't care who has the best stuff just don't want to hear about that insignificant mess. But I love him. You know what they say, " You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family".

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    lrohnerposted 14 years ago

    For me, absolutely not. I have one sister. We haven't spoken in many years. And unless pigs start flying, we won't be speaking for many more.

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       The Ropeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That is so incredibly sad. 
       
       My sibs and I are all extremely close, sure we have rough spots but before the advent of "unlimited long distance", our phone bills generally matched our mortgage payments and none of us ever gripped about it.  We share, we cry, we rejoice; we don't have to talk every day but we do stay tight.

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          lrohnerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          It is sad. I agree. But it is what it is. C'est la vie.

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             The Ropeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Good luck, we don't chose our blood. 

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    mtsi1098posted 14 years ago

    As we have gotten older we all pretty much get along but there was a span when 2 of my siblings did not get along with the other 2...no details

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