No More Fathers Day?

Happy Fathers Day?

It used to be that I was excited about fathers day, going to school and making a nice card for my dad. Spending my pocket money on a small gift for him such as a cheap aftershave or a packet of hankies.

I got excited about fathers day, letting my dad enjoy a well deserved long lie in bed and bringing him up breakfast and his morning coffee; after all he worked hard all year around to put bread on our table and a roof over our head.

He always seemed to enjoy Fathers day too, he would always have a big smile on his face when he read my card and opened up my gift to him, he would always say the right things and the big hug that followed always made me feel happy and special.

Things have really changed over the years since those innocent days of my childhood and now that I am the father of four children it feels to me that the magic of fathers day has lost it's sparkle.

Happy Fathers Day

The meaning of my life
The meaning of my life | Source

No More Fathers Day

Mothers day is a big thing in school these days, the children all muck in and make cards, cakes and buy some chocolates to gift to mummy on her special day. At the school my children attend they even put on a special assembly on the Friday before Mothers day and invite the mothers along. The children sing and perform songs dedicated to Mothers day and all of the mothers are presented with a small bunch of daffodils.

When Fathers day comes along nothing! not a card, not a cake, not a chocolate and of course there is no special assembly for Fathers day.

I used to look forward to receiving a hand made card with bits and bobs on it, a bit of pasta stuck here a bit of wool stuck there or a bit of shiny paper stuck where ever my son or daughter had the urge to stick it on the card, but even when they were in kindergarten Fathers day passed by without a thought.

Sad Dad

What, No Hand made cards from school Boo Hoo!
What, No Hand made cards from school Boo Hoo! | Source

Why No Fathers Day In School?

It is rather a sad reflection of today's society that Schools will not celebrate fathers day because "A lot of the children don't have a father,"

The increased number of single mothers these days does mean that there are a few children in each classroom who don't have a father but why should that make any difference to the children who do have both parents?

The school caters to many cultures and religions but they still celebrate all of the Christian Holidays even if a few pupils in each classroom are non-Christian, so why should children with dads have to miss out on the special feeling that I got when I was younger and making up card and gifts for my dad?

Some of the children may not have a dad so why can't they make something for another member of their family? A Granddad card, a brother or sister card or even another card for mommy whilst the children with fathers make their fathers day cards and gifts for dad.

Dad's Missing out on Fathers Day Stats

Status
% of Population With Dependant Children
Single Fathers
8%
Single Mothers
23%
Two Parent Families
69%
Even if 31% of children live with only one parent 77% still live with their father and of the other children 72% of fathers play an active role in their lives. These stats were correct at the time this article was published. Source UK.Gov

Fathers Day Kisses

That extra special moment on Fathers day when your daughter gives you a kiss.
That extra special moment on Fathers day when your daughter gives you a kiss. | Source

Fathers Day Chocolates

I love Chocolates on Fathers day
I love Chocolates on Fathers day | Source

Fathers Day Gifts

It is a great feeling getting a lie in on fathers day and hearing the hushed excitement of my children as they try to tiptoe upstairs to surprise me with breakfast in bed. Pretending to be asleep with the aroma of a house burning down and what sounds like a giant herd of elephants in a charge towards you is a difficult task but I think I manage to pull it off without them noticing that I am holding in a laugh.

Breakfast arrives with four excited children thinking that they are the best children in the world for doing all of this just for daddy and at that moment in time in my mind my children are the four best children in the world.

Then come the gifts, these too come as a great big surprise to me, after all they know what I like and I get the same gifts every year but who will give me what this year as they change who gets what for dad every year.

Socks, aftershave, a box of chocolates and a pair of comfy slippers, my children know me so well.

I hope though just like my dad before me that I react properly and always manage to say the right things and make my children feel special about themselves.

I am always a little disappointed though when I open my cards from my children, although I try not to show it, and find that they are store bought, just once I would love to receive a card that has been made by hand.

Don't get me wrong, I do love the cards because they each put their own individual messages in them, they always seem to be well chosen and fit each of my children's personalities but it just isn't the same as a card made by their own fair hand.

Fathers Day Poll

Should Fathers Day Be Celebrated in Schools

  • Yes
  • No
  • If they celebrate Mothers day then they should respect Fathers day too
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Breakfast In Bed

Jason wants breakfast in daddy's bed too
Jason wants breakfast in daddy's bed too | Source

Long Live Fathers Day

I love the feeling I get on fathers day when my elephant herd make their way up with breakfast, I love the proud and excited looks on their faces as they "wake me up" with breakfast and then hand me their gifts and cards. I love the fact that my children are for that one moment in time every year perfect little angels but most of all I love the fact that one day out of every year every my family make me feel like the most important person in their lives.

Schools need to respect the fact that children love fathers day and should be allowed to create a simple card to celebrate it.

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16 comments

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ComfortB 3 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

I think it's sad that society is playing down the fact that we have a day to celebrate our fathers. i was just thinking in that line earlier this week. Why aren't teachers excited to help their pupils make cards for Father's Day, something they willingly do for Mother's Day?

Well, we may need to speak out as individuals. I for one want my kids to honor their dad on that day as he has not only been their financially, but emotionally, and spiritually. He's a great role model, and he is their dad. I came together with all the women in my church, and we decided to invite other fathers this coming Sunday for a gift giving in appreciation of their being there.

Everyone should do something special for their dad. Great hub Jimmy. Voted up and very interesting.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

I totally agree with you, I think the problem is that there are so few teachers that are men, that the women teachers just forget about it! love your funny face photo by the way! lol!


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jimmythejock 3 years ago from Scotland Author

Thanks for reading my rant Comfort and Nell, i does sometimes feel like fathers are being punished by schools just because they are still married.....jimmy


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Jordan Hake 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri, USA

Great hub! I love how you've written the feeling of being so loved by your kids -- I can almost feel it myself! I can't wait to have kids of my own!


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Kasman 3 years ago from Bartlett, Tennessee

I agree with you jimmy, I think fathers are getting a bad rap these days. Culture in general seems to be shooting fathers in the leg in terms of their importance. This isn't to take away from mothers and their absolute importance in a child's life but statistics show that a child needs Daddy in their lives too to develop emotionally and mentally properly.

Voting this up and I'm sharing across the board. God bless.


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suziecat7 3 years ago from Asheville, NC

Fathers are so much more involved in the raising of children these days that they deserve the recognition. Great Hub - could feel the love.


buddhaanalysis 3 years ago

Wife and husband will always have issues. Therefore family should be properly maintained to have good family life and to avoid sufferings to all members of life.This is responsibility of all people of society.


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aud99 3 years ago

I'm all for Father's Day activities in school. Fathers too deserve some kind of recognition for their sacrifices and love. If we can do it for Mother's Day, we sure can do it for Father's Day too!


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Michele Travis 3 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

I also agree. My father used to help me when it came to homework. Like Kasman said, fathers are getting a bad rap. They do not deserve it.


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jabelufiroz 3 years ago from India

Long Live Fathers Day. Voted up and awesome.


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jimmythejock 3 years ago from Scotland Author

Hi Everyone. thank you all for coming along to read my Hub, I am enjoying reading these comments and am glad that I am not the only one who supports fathers day.....jimmy


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Writer Fox 3 years ago from the wadi near the little river

In the U.S., most schools are on summer vacation when Father's Day rolls around, so it doesn't get the same attention. Hence: no Father's Day crafts, making cards or gifts. Sad.


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B. Leekley 3 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

Up, Useful, Beautiful, and Interesting. Good questions re Fathers' Day and schools. If other fathers in your area feel as you do, perhaps together you can petition the school authorities to change that policy of making a big deal of mothers' day and ignoring fathers' day. Pretending that all fathers are invisible and insignificant does nothing of benefit for fatherless children. The day should also honor other male role models, such as guardians and mentors.

Does Scotland have the options of no-fault divorce and joint custody?

Your descriptions of Father's Day at home are very sweet.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

I agree Father's Day doesn't get as much attention as Mother's Day. Just not fair. Father's are just as important. I suggest Father's take a stand and make some noise! Happy Father's Day to YOU!!


just-about 3 years ago

If schools don't celebrate Father's Day because some children don't have fathers . . . well, that is just political correctness gone wrong. Also, surely there are some single-parent father families?

The fact is that families come in many forms - what about step-parents? There are children who love their divorced mother and father and THEIR new partners or spouses . . .

Mother's Day and Father's Day should be opportunities for school to encourage children to think about the situations in which others live, happy or sad. Most of all to think about thier own situation and who they would like to thank on that given day.


hattersmen 3 years ago

Great article! I feel your pain.. in my home there is no mothers day!

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