For Many Casual sex have Dire Circumstances

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Meeting men or women for casual sex may seem harmless, however, it can be dangerous. Until you get to know someone, being alone together can be a bad idea. There are a lot of strange people out there. I know this kind of sex can be exciting and it's tempting to ignore some simple rules about your personal safety.

Lonely people tend to be clingy and desperate people tend to be a little dramatic about everything. One good time together and they think that you love them and things can get out hand pretty quickly. It can be a struggle for both, one wants companionship, one wants just a good time. This is where a danger can start, especially if one person seeking much more than the other, do you understand the word "Stalker"? The bounds need to be set at the start, just as any relationship it all needs honesty to work.

Another thing to consider is the consequences of the so called one night stand or casual sex partner. Think about this. If they are willing to sleep with you, who else have they slept with? Were they protected during all these adventures? There can be some very serious side effects of a casual sex relationship. There are numerous diseases out there, not to mention hepatitis C and herpes. These diseases can be easily passed from person to person and many time you may not know that your infected for weeks or even months. Just remember that it's up to you to insure that you are protected, you life could depend on it.

Then there is the cheating aspect of this. The websites that offer contact with other member are, more often than not, full of people looking to cheat on their spouses. These people carry a lot of drama with them all the time. They will often resort to all kind of excuses why they must hurry off. They may be business men from out of town, or an airline stewardess on a lay over. There are hundreds of scenarios, hundreds of desperate people and people living life as a lie. This never works out well for anyone, especially if the spouse finds out.

So, you ask about casual or open sex. Well, to put it bluntly, No Thanks. The risk is to great and the rewards are not enough. If your single get to know someone first. It doesn't mean that they haven't slept with someone before, but the sex will probably be better if you are comfortable with the person your with.

Now, I'm not saying single people shouldn't have sex and married people will never cheat and I love sex as much as the next person. I just want to ask you please, if you are participating in this kind of casual sex, be careful. I want you back to read my next article.

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Jaynie2000 5 years ago

I have two words for anyone considering infidelity...Fatal Attraction. Remember that movie?

I can understand why people pursue extra curricular activities. Many marriages eventually lack intimacy, both physical and emotional. I'm glad that my marriage isn't one of them. However, if it were, I'd rather put my energy into fixing it than into finding someone else. If it were irreparable, I'd move on and take the time to reflect on it before diving into another relationship.

You are right to caution people on the dangers of casual sex and infidelity. We are all sexual creatures and the desire for intimacy is the most powerful urge on earth. It's hard to deny, but if you can deny it when it is ill-advised, you'll thank yourself later.


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hubby7 5 years ago from Chicago

Liked your concluding statement. Another excellent hub by you that kept my interest and was informaive at the same time.


CN3033a 5 years ago

How many people want to be saddled with going to the doctor and getting tested frequently? Taking a bunch of medicines every day and just not feeling the same anymore? Because of your new virus, this could happen to you. Always use protection unless you have both been tested or you want kids. And it is the crazies that will infect you, just like the article profiles them.

Your best bet is to get to know the person and date them a few times before you jump in. Use those initial few dates, to find out if sex is in the cards and if your partner is healthy. Mentally and physically healthy.

I will know by date 3 and I don't waste any more time than that, if it is not a fit.

Most couples jump in as soon as the sex starts and they don't bother to get to know their partner deeply, so long as the sex is ongoing, and then they grow out of that sex phase, get bored and cheat.

I am a man-whore (haha) and should know, so when you find the right one, that fires on all cylinders for you, you don't want to stray believe me.

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