Is love really necessary to make a relationship going?

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   Megh Brandelposted 12 years ago

   Is love really necessary to make a relationship going?
   
   I m in a relationship that is not based upon love. I t is working for me for a year, do you think it will sustain? Is love really necessary to make it going?

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   MonetteforJackposted 12 years ago

   It is ... love is the basis of all relationships.  It does not limit to love of others; it  includes love of self, love of values, love of life, and specially love of putting God in the center of any relationship. 
   
   With love, spawns respect, trust, honesty and all other values to make any relationship worth having and saving and living.
   
   Having so much love also means having the willingness to sacrifice, to wait, to pursue and to endure,

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   sportgamesposted 12 years ago

   It is, without it the relationship is not going to last no matter how hard you are trying.

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   alisha4uposted 12 years ago

   Of course it is..... Love has different meanings in different relationships..
   Love has to be there for any relationship to propser.

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   neeta chauhanposted 12 years ago

   Hi there,
   as far as i am concerned love is the key element in keeping a relationship go because where there is no love b/w two people there is no respect among them by love i do not neccessarily mean physical love but rather the expression of  love which involves caring, sharing, trust upon each other and sincerity the rest follows slowly and gradually. No relationship can last for more then a year without the foundation layed of love because then the relationship starts to bore each other with no sensitivity with a mild touch of love in it no matter how hard you try you cannot convince a person about your point of view on a swords tip but if you say the same thing with love and sweetness success is definate.
   Lots of marriages are on the rocks because there is no love in it any longer or does not have the touch of love to it after all love is what the world go round is it not?
   As far as i think Megh this relationship will not sustain because no tender feelings are shared between the two of you called LOVE there is no point living under one roof when nothing is felt , shared and often told about  between the two of you called love trust me its a relationship of convience which can anytime be called off because there is no thread binding the two of you called as love if i were you i would make the first move and get out of such a relationship as i already have by taking a divorce 8 and a half years ago mainly because he did not love me so i quitted the relationship and i am proud of myself that i took such a step. 
   With best of wishes ,
   Neeta.

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   Megh Brandelposted 12 years ago

   Umm, Thanks Neeta for your patient and well thought answer. We have a bond between us, it is not a dry relationship... and it is not even that he does not care about me. He just do not love the typical idea of love show off. He said he wants to be with me, and he does not believe in traditional love stories where everything works like magic. And in fact, my point of view is, I am not really sure what Love actually is, I have a belonging feeling to my parents, my family members, my friends... and I feel like that day by day I am getting used to my boyfriend. The case is same with him as well. But neither of us are actually sure that this is what you can call love. Any comment on that?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Sometimes love has a way of sneaking up on you. It's not uncommon for someone to be in a "comfortable relationship" doing all of the friendship/companion things, having sex, traveling together and so forth....etc
   One day this person you "do not love" meets someone who flirts with them, makes them feel desired, and stirs romantic feelings within them. He or she tells you they believe they may have found "the one". So they pack up their bags and move out. Weeks go by and you come to the realization that you actually did love them! The whole time you were together you down played your emotions, took them for granted, or assumed you could find a replacement in a heartbeat. Now you find yourself wondering "How do I get my ex back!"
   My point is maybe this relationship is not as "benign" as you think it is. You may care more than you want to admit to them or yourself. Some people seek to avoid becoming "emotionally invested" in their relationship in hopes of "protecting" themselves. However the more time you spend with someone the more you come to rely on them. Love is expressed and felt differently for everyone. There may not be fireworks going off in your heart or music playing whenever you kiss each other...etc But if the thought of you not being in each other's life disturbs you then your feelings run deeper than you suspected. You don't want to find out you love someone after they are gone.

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   juiwei2000posted 12 years ago

   Not necessary, take for example, during the older days, arrange marriage was the common practice, they are no love there, but yet, people some how manage to make it work, anyway.

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   celticdude7posted 12 years ago

   It really depends on how you define love... I recommend looking to Sternburg's theory of love if you are having trouble finding out what love is. It is a good place to start, if not an end all answer.

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