I stay with my in-laws for the past 15 donkey years. My mother in law is a picky woman and has a mouth that nags and curses. As her daughter in law, I never rebuke her or answer her back. Just nod my head and go off. Don't make the situation worsen. Don't create a quarrel because your hubby will be in a big fix. You can't ask your hubby to choose between you or his mom. A very stupid idea. Just give and take. Close one eye and pour out your woes to your hubby. He knows what to do. Trust me.