How would you react if someone throws themselves at your spouse or lover while y

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   Express10posted 11 years ago

   How would you react if someone throws themselves at your spouse or lover while you are present?
   
   Would you be calm and pleasant, ignore them, or are you ready for war?

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   billybucposted 11 years ago

   How would I react? With trust! If Bev tells me she loves me, and she does each and every day, then I have to trust in that love. I have no control over the actions of anyone else and if I believe in love, which I do, then I have to trust that love.
   
   Having said that, if this other person were obnoxious and did not stop when told to I'd be forced to knock him on his ass.

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      Express10posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I should have said that the person was obnoxious and did not stop when requested. Great answer!

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   cruelkindnessposted 11 years ago

   My reaction would with my spouse would be based upon their reaction.
   
   If my spouse clearly rejected the engaging person and that person wouldn't back off, my spouse would give me that look.  The look saying take care of this please i'm feeling uncomfortable.
   
   I would let them handle it first.  If my spouse engaged back, then i know i'm going to have a soon to be x-spouse.

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   Express10posted 11 years ago

   For the obnoxious who refuse to stop when asked, I think I would have to do as BillyBuc and knock them firmly into next week.

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   Yaduvanshiposted 11 years ago

   The reaction would be per the situation on ground and would be dealt with in the best way possible

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I'd ignore it.  My husband wouldn't fall for something like that. I would most likely laugh and we would both get a real giggle about it later.  If the person was really obnoxious about it, my husband would set them straight very quickly - he really isn't flattered by that kind of behavior.

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   PurvisBobbi44posted 11 years ago

   I would let my husband/lover put her in her place in a nice and kind way. I would not lower myself to even speak to this type of person.

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   Anjiliposted 11 years ago

   Depends on the occasion.  A hug can imply little or much. Maybe I need a closer observation before concluding. Trust over your spouse is the determinant factor.

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   ftclickposted 11 years ago

   I would call them on it. Passive in that situation does not work.
   do it tactfully and not in a crazed manner or the lover.spouse will go for that secure flirtatious person.

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    Clive Donegalposted 11 years ago

    War doesn't help anyone and can create further problems. My response would certainly be tempered by whether my s/l is flirting back or if the behavior is alcohol fueled. First attempt would be good-natured minimization of the event, indicating awareness; second would be making apologies and leaving. Preferably accompanied by s/l.

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    feenixposted 11 years ago

    I will put it this way:
    
    If a woman threw herself at me while my partner was present, I would let the other woman know with my body language and so forth that she should get lost.
    
    And if the situation were reversed, I would expect my partner to react the same way as I. But if she didn't, I would play it off, because it just might be that she is a person who requires more attention from others than I do.

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