Do you think in today's modern society men are allowed to be more immature?

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   Mom Katposted 11 years ago

   Do you think in today's modern society men are allowed to be more immature?
   
   Are men being allowed to be more immature than in past generations?  Are they being "allowed" to stay immature longer?  Do you find that there is a greater expectation on women to be more mature while men are allowed to remain immature?
   Thoughts, reasons, feelings.... share with us:

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   I'm not sure if the word "allowed" is correct but instead more likely "accepted" or "expected". There are some (gender differences) in the way we tend to raise boys and girls.
   From the time women are little girls quite a few of them grow up playing mommy to baby dolls, feeding them, grooming them, changing diapers, pushing strollers, cooking with Easy-Bake Ovens, hosting tea parties, dressing up like a princess and dreaming of being the star at their own wedding.
   Compare that to the toys given to little boys to play with. (water pistols, remote control cars, boats, and planes, things that make noise and flash lights, or games which require one kid to defeat another kid in some way.
   In essence the little girl has been playing "grown up" "nurturing",or being "responsible" while the little boy has only thought about himself and (having fun). By the time the girl is in her early 20s she may be ready to settle down or live out her childhood fantasy. The boy on the other hand looks at life as though he just got out of his parent's house or a college dorm and now he wants party/play!
   The last thing on his mind is becoming his parents! (Getting married, having childlren, and taking on a 30 year mortgage). He has not been "dreaming of his wedding day" since he was a child. A large percentage of men don't start thinking that way until they are in their late 20s or up to their mid 30s. This may explain why it was common in past generations for women to marry men who were a few years older than themselves. Timing is everything!

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      Mom Katposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      YES! accepted or expected, much better word choices, thank you. & I completely agree with your assessment here.  Brilliant! Thanks for your answer

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   iheartkafkaposted 11 years ago

   Dashingscorpio gave a great response and one I totally agree with. I've observed immaturity among most (probably all) of my husband's friends...all grown, professional men with their own children and their behavior is dumbfounding.

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      Mom Katposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      it IS mind-boggling, isn't it?!  lol... thanks for the response

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   aykianinkposted 11 years ago

   I am a strong believer in gender equality and feel the need to spin this question a little.  Is it just men?  Or is it men and women?  Over time, our culture has changed a lot.  For instance, I would equate maturity with having the foresight to choose a good partner to marry; one you could be with for the rest of your life.
   
   As the media often likes to say, the divorce rate in America is near or above 50%.  Back in previous decades, people actually worked on their marriages.  These days, people get a divorce like it isn’t a big deal.  There’s some social commentary in a Simpsons episode about the future.  In it, Bart asks a girl to  marry him.  Her response?  “Bart…marriage?  I can’t do that.  That’s a three year commitment!”
   
   Surely we all know women that are immature despite their age.  Perhaps it is just the latest fashion trends, but I feel like a lot of older women don’t dress their age.
   
   (But again, with gender equality:)
   
   I of course know immature men as well.  I think our society as a whole is just viewing things differently these days.  “You don’t have to have kids!  Just play around everyday as an adult!” 
   
   As often as one hears the line “Pink is the new black” or “Red is the new black,” you can now hear the lines “40 is the new 30!” and “50 is the new 40!”
   
   For both genders, if you ARE 40, why don’t you act 40?

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      Mom Katposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      very well put.  so how do we get the media to stop pumping out "it's ok to act like a child even when you have children of your own"? or that responsibility and maturity aren't any fun?

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   shivanchirakkal10posted 11 years ago

   The immature action or behavior in men are  increasing than in past generation. I think this is due to the less responsibility of man than earlier. In past, he is the one and the only one dependable person for the family. And for the needs of the family he has to work hard and earn. Today the picture is different. The responsibility is less. Nuclear family system reduced the number of family member, and the number of woman going for work increased. If closely watch, we can see woman are taking more burden to look the family needs. This also automatically diverted man into more  irresponsible and immature in life. The teaching of nature create one as mature. If one have nothing to learn, what will be he!
   Not only today but also all the history woman are more mature than man. But physically man established authority on woman. For every achievement of man, a woman behind in it.

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      Mom Katposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      thank you. I can see what you're saying here. I appreciate you sharing your views with us.

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   mikejhcaposted 11 years ago

   In past generations women were treated like children.  Men worked to provide them with money, protected them from danger, carried stuff for them, opened doors for them etc.  Equal rights means the responsibilities are shared.  There is less pressure on men now and more pressure on women.  It is more balanced now.  The men have more free time and more money when the women also work.  So they can afford to be more immature.
   
   Consider the TV shows that they had in for the past generations.  While the men were out working TV shows aimed at women were on so the women could watch TV during the day and they were very popular.  I don't think women are expected to be more mature than men now but they often choose not to join in on the fun.

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      Mom Katposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I don't agree that women were treated like children, treated like ladies, yes.  The women of "old" did a lot for their men & the family.  They had responsibilities other than earning money, but they were still responsible.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      mikejhca, I understand some of what you are saying. A lot of men did treat women like (second class) citizens and to some extent chivalry is tied to sexism. (weaker sex). Women had to fight for the right to vote! Maturity is handling responsibilites

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