Which do you think more often? 'What is wrong with me' or 'What is wrong with them'?
Do you suffer from self doubt or do you feel that you are right and others are generally wrong?
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I never think along the lines of either question as I know that the problem is everyone else.
There you are, it's them:-) I was joking I'm just me, I never worry about whether it's me or the others. I'm a great believer in - there are more out than in:-)
Sometimes I think it's me, sometimes them - but I probably think it's me more often than the other way around. I should work on that!
Basically, I find any manifestation of an "us vs. them" mind set to be ignorant and totally lacking in worth. Everyone experiences self doubts at one time or another, just as we all act like boneheads from time to time. We are human, all of us, without exception.
When it comes to relationships I really don't buy into "right" or "wrong". It's usually a matter of "agree" or "disagree". Ultimately everyone wants to be with someone who (naturally agrees) with them on the major things in life.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. No one is "stuck" with anyone!
The beautiful thing about a door is it lets those that want in (in) and those that want out (out). We are always where we (want) to be!
If it's someone I know very well, it can go either way. When it's a stranger, I tend to wonder if it's me who is at fault, unless it's a situation that's really obvious. Does that make sense? (See, already I am doubting myself, lol).
Perhaps this is too philosophical for a Friday. Have a great weekend.
What is wrong with them usually. However, you fix more problems by asking what is wrong with me and adapting to have better social interactions.
Yes, for things to change, we have to change.
usually what's wrong with them. I already know what's wrong with me: I'm weird.
For me, I start with "What is wrong with me" first, simply because I don't want to be unreasonable. If I can't find anything wrong with me, then I would ask "What is wrong with them". So theoretically, "What is wrong with me" would be more than "What is wrong with them", simply because I start with "What is wrong with me" first.
Just in case some readers don't get me, let's say I ask "What is wrong with me" 10 times. If 2 times, I find something wrong with me, then I would be left with only 8 times to ask "What is wrong with them". Of course, it could be that something is wrong with both me and them. But why bother with them, if I myself find something wrong with me?
I think I start the opposite way. What's wrong with them. If no one else sees a similar problem, I think hmm perhaps it's me.
Thanks for your thoughts.
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