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Can You Marry/Date a Handicapped

  1. abbeynism profile image60
    abbeynismposted 6 years ago

    What is your personal view?

    1. Dave Mathews profile image61
      Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Why not, they are no less a person.

  2. simeonvisser profile image87
    simeonvisserposted 6 years ago

    Yes.

  3. abbeynism profile image60
    abbeynismposted 6 years ago

    what are the things or conditions to say yes to a handicap.

    Money? Beauty? Fame? Status? Honesty?

    What?

    1. simeonvisser profile image87
      simeonvisserposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I was merely answering the title of this thread: "Can You Marry/Date a Handicapped". I don't see how the points you just mentioned would change my answer. You want to marry/date a handicapped person but that person does not have enough money on the bank? That's no way to reason. Honesty is important of course but that is regardless of handicap.

      You seem to be thinking in the direction that a handicapped person needs to meet additional requirements than 'normal people' for a date/marriage but I disagree with that.

  4. abbeynism profile image60
    abbeynismposted 6 years ago

    Nice one Simeon, I am just trying to know what can make you fall in love with .........../

  5. profile image60
    gericgaitherposted 6 years ago

    There is NO ONE without a Handicap whether it be Mental, Emotional or Physical.

    Money, Property, etc., are all subjective and have nothing to do with a Person as a whole Being.

    It's the QUALITY of the Persons' SPIRIT that matters as beauty is generated from within however it's very sad that most handicapped People are judged/defined by external appearance therefore being tossed aside, so to speak.

    To answer your query:
    YES!!

    1. abbeynism profile image60
      abbeynismposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yes! No one is perfect. what if the handicapped is physical - deform, lame blind. Can one trust this kind of love?

  6. Midnight Oil profile image88
    Midnight Oilposted 6 years ago

    Agreed - Everybody has a handicap in someway, most are not visible.  Nobody is perfect, in fact looking for the perfect partner is a recipe for a life time alone.

    Instead of looking for the handicap, look for the good in people.  Everybody has good in them too... you just have to touch it.

  7. abbeynism profile image60
    abbeynismposted 6 years ago

    a friend aid to be in love with a famous and rich pastor daughter. the girl has leg deform. but this love those not take long before it fades away.

    1. simeonvisser profile image87
      simeonvisserposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      We cannot really comment on particular cases. But in general a handicap should not be a problem for a loving partnership or marriage.

  8. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

    yes as long as she/he loves that person and understand her/his situation well

    1. abbeynism profile image60
      abbeynismposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      yes! loves that person and understand her/his situation well, I have seen both successful and crack relationship in this kind of cases.

  9. Disturbia profile image61
    Disturbiaposted 6 years ago

    Marry and date are two different things.  You can go on one date with someone and never have to see them again if it turns out badly. So if you date a person who is challenged in some way, if it proves to be too much stress, you can always break it off, just like you would with anybody else.

    It's a very different thing to get married and/or live together. If you get to that stage in the relationship, obviously you have given a lot of thought to the pros and cons of such a relationship.

    I wouldn't rule out a relationship with a person who is challenged in some way. 

    Besides, you never know what's going to happen.  A miracle cure for your partner could be just around the corner, or who knows, tomorrow you might get hit by a bus on your way to work and lose the use of your limbs... and that would change everything wouldn't it?

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    klarawieckposted 6 years ago

    I dated a guy who depended on a wheel chair to get around. He was handicapped from the waist down. He was an amazing human being!

  11. guy1973 profile image61
    guy1973posted 6 years ago

    i Have come across many disabled people and some are really amazing people and as brilliant as ordinary humans. so therefore my answer is yes, it is possible to date and marry a handicap. I have a friend who is married to a blind lady and they are such an amazing couple.

    1. the pink umbrella profile image74
      the pink umbrellaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I have a friend whos mother is albino, and her eyes (not sure of the name for it) twich back and forth like crazy. She cant really see things unless they are an inch away from her face. She cannot drive or work, and just stays at home. She met a man 10 years ago who treats her like shes jessica alba. I mean, he is sooo attracted to her, and they really do make you jealouse with how affectionate they are with each other.

      I think it depends on the individual. If i met a man in a wheelchair that was sweet to me, but acted like the world owed him, than no, he wouldnt have a chance. But if i met a blind man who accepted his struggle, and didnt base everything around his handicap and was everything else i wanted, yea hed have a shot.

  12. guy1973 profile image61
    guy1973posted 6 years ago

    true

 
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