The sincere seeker knows that we cannot move faster than Grace; that to stumble and fall is a part of the process. However, that does not mean that you should seek this.
Spirituality cannot rely on our individual efforts nor an individual abnegation, but on the descent of a Higher Light. The hands must be folded with the Heart in Surrender and the mind rendered helpless. Human capacity must truly go.
For this a life of spiritual practice is required: Prayer, meditation, selfless effort and a desire to serve our fellow man. Slowly and gradually, the inner Light will shine through and more will be revealed in terms of how to act or behave in certain situations to find peace.
We find it difficult to practice virtuous behaviour because we are not yet inwardly strong enough. We are weak, insecure, and non-confident, and also suffer from a lack of inner discipline, either because we do not truly believe, or are not prepared to wait.
We feel that it is taking too long. Ultimately, even the difficulty is a part of the process, and happens also because of His Grace. Embrace this; let go and you will move faster. In Love and Light.