How does a strong personally cope and get along with a needy co-worker who takes

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  1. IntimatEvolution profile image81
    IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years ago

    How does a strong personally cope and get along with a needy co-worker who takes everything personal

    How to get along w/ a co-worker who takes everything I say or ask them to do as a personal insult?  I work w/ a lady who literally takes everything I say personally & as an insult.  When she does something wrong & you try to show her the right way she goes around saying things like your being hateful or you are just being bossy or mean.  I asked her if she needed some help today and she went crazy.  She went in & told the bosses that everybody hated me & that nobody wanted to work w/ me.  I got into serious trouble.  I was told to treat her as if she was a kitten & got
    wrote up! I'm a loss.

  2. WhatBigJohnThinks profile image65
    WhatBigJohnThinksposted 7 years ago

    You should avoid them at all costs. I know this sounds harsh and archaic but the fact of the matter is they can cause you monumental problems. Even get you fired. She is apowder keg and you hold the match. If she has centered on you, which it sounds like she has, document every thing she does or says. Make sure you are never in a one on one situation with her. These are the types of people who try to get a leg up by stand on your spine. be careful.

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    Arlene V. Pomaposted 7 years ago

    There are two sides to every story, but toxic people are everywhere.  And smart, strong personalities know when to back off and not feel they have to control everyone and every situation.  Unfortunately, you have to work with her, so do yourself a favor and keep her at arm's length.  You mentioned she is a co-worker, so if she needs help, it's on her to ask for it.  Don't offer her any help since you already know she's going to go wacko on you and will probably try to get you written up, again.  Let the boss deal with her.  That is what bosses get the big bucks for.  Kitten?  Sounds more like the office Drama Queen.  Leave her alone!

  4. Deborah-Diane profile image84
    Deborah-Dianeposted 7 years ago

    I agree that you should always avoid toxic people when you can.  Reduce your contact with her to the minimum.  Smile pleasantly, say hello, and keep it at that.  If she is rude in return, other people will notice that you smiled and said hello.  Don't talk to others about her and don't talk in front of her, or she will turn it against you.

  5. bwhite062007 profile image85
    bwhite062007posted 7 years ago

    I have worked for 4 years with a co-worker on my level who is on a power-trip, despiteful, and down-right manipulating. I have done everything from calling her out, calmly talking to her, talking with my bosses, contacting human resources, all to no avail. She does some similar things to all of us that this woman does to you. You could try calming talking it out with her, or your boss, but in my personal situation none of that helped. My advice is to not feed into it, because it sounds like that is exactly what she is looking for. Go about your day and business and try to avoid her at all costs. Be the best at your job that you can be and hopefully your bosses will see who is in the wrong. Mine eventually did...but then we got a new boss and we all had to start all over again.

  6. LCGreen profile image61
    LCGreenposted 7 years ago

    I think I agree with John. I mean if she asks for help then help her but if you are offering and she is rejecting and trying to get you in trouble you might just want to keep a distant eye on her. If she messes up then your bosses will realize what's happening and it will be her fault and you will have no part in it. I will be praying for you in your work situation that you will have strength and happiness in it! God bless you!

  7. The Frog Prince profile image76
    The Frog Princeposted 7 years ago

    Say as little as possible.  Let her hang herself.

    The Frog


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