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Which is better in a weak relationship-break up or patch up??

  1. profile image55
    preyashijhaposted 5 years ago

    Which is better in a  weak relationship-break up or patch up??

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    You have to determine why the relationship is "weak" before you decide if it better to breakup or patch up. Having said that if a person is even considering breaking up there is a strong indication that they don't believe it is worth staying together on some level. My rule of thumb is;
    There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.
    Ultimately we are looking for someone who (naturally agrees) with us on the major things in life. Opposites may attract in the short run but its (Like that attracts like) in the long run. Couples who (naturally agree) tend be happier and stay together. Who knew?

  3. SidKemp profile image94
    SidKempposted 5 years ago

    It takes two to make this decision. The depth and richness of a relationship - especially one that was weak and has grown strong - is one of the most wonderful things on earth. But are both you and the other person willing to commit to love - whatever it takes?

  4. msorensson profile image71
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago

    Every encounter, even with the person who served you your latte at Starbucks in another city is a sacred covenant.

    If you think that you have already fulfilled that then it is better to break up. Only you can tell.

  5. JayeWisdom profile image92
    JayeWisdomposted 5 years ago

    I think it depends on the level and type of "weakness."  Some rocky relationships where there is genuine love on both sides can benefit from couples counseling that will help each partner see the other's strengths and good points, as well as recognizing what he or she is personally doing to sabotage the relationship.  If counseling helps strengthen the relationship, it is probably worth saving. Often a relationship that benefits from this type of "work" will go on to become a strong, loving, long-term (lifetime) union.

    Then, there are what I call "toxic" relationships--usually of the co-dependent type--which never should have seen the light of day and do not deserve to continue. Those--between two people with un-addressed emotional issues, personality disorders and/or addictions--should be ended immediately, and both partners should strive not to become involved in that type of relationship again. Unfortunately, these people are usually attracted--sometimes over and over--to the same type of toxic partner, creating that "vicious cycle" that emotionally healthy people avoid.

  6. padmendra profile image46
    padmendraposted 5 years ago

    If the base of our love  is not strong enough that on that basis we can  not have a transparent life then it is better to quit rather than trying to  patch up. The main and foremost cause of bitterness in a relationship has been due to unstable and baseless foundation of love between two people.

  7. sroberts9 profile image80
    sroberts9posted 5 years ago

    I think that It depends on what type of relationship - boyfriend/girlfriend or marriage relationship.  If its weak boyfriend/girlfriend relationship - there may be a discovery of interests or beliefs in another that is more attractive than what is being revealed in the relationship.  In this case, each is free to visit other relationships - as these are only "friendship" relationships.  Or should be anyway.  Be honest and let those types of relationships go on and then move on to the new interest.  If its a marriage relationship then patch up is the answer as there is much more at stake within it.

  8. prettynutjob30 profile image92
    prettynutjob30posted 5 years ago

    It depends on the issues that are going on in the relationship.If the issue is something like he/she does not listen talk to them and see what happens from there.If the issue is something big like infidelity or abuse ending the relationship would be best.

  9. candie33 profile image67
    candie33posted 5 years ago

    It depends are you ready to let go? or do you want to try to work on things? I personally like a patch up better, if all issues are resolved we can try and talk it out but if there is no way we can make things work smoothly than goodbye.

  10. Free2writ3 profile image59
    Free2writ3posted 5 years ago

    Personally, if I am with someone I love and our relationship is not so good, i'll try to patch things up insead of just giving up.

  11. Cristale profile image84
    Cristaleposted 5 years ago

    I say break up if the relationship isn't strong enough to withstand the test of time and the troubles that lie ahead. A relationship is as only as the weakest person in the relationship.

    1. Insane Mundane profile image61
      Insane Mundaneposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, if the relationship is only as strong as the weakest person, I'd say that the majority of people are screwed then...  What I'm seeing more often, is a bit different, as it depends on what one defines as a "relationship;" things have changed.

    2. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Insane Mundane you said it right, "the majority of people are screwed..." Many people are selfish & impatient & this doesn't bode well for any relationship. Most people refuse to work together on their relationship & jump ship or let it w

  12. Express10 profile image88
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    If one person refuses to get on the same page...break up. It's easier said than done for some people but eventually it will end this way. If both people are going to work together to get on and remain on the same page then the relationship can probably become stronger.

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    CJ Sledgehammerposted 5 years ago

    Working on a relationship takes time and effort; walking away offers the path of least resistance, so it is preferred by many who don't want to put in the effort.

    A good relationship should not be labor intensive. If it is, you are poorly matched and it is probably best to put the relationship asunder, assuming this is not a marital relationship we are talking about.

    By the way, why would one want to stay in a "weak relationship" anyway?

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      What?! My perfectly composed comment didn't win "Best Answer"?  :0)

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      preyashijhaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Please dnt be panic.. The answer i liked most i have awarded that.. Yeah i'm agree with you that your answer is appreciable and clear cut.. All the best for next time.. Who knows thats your greater chances to win.

  14. Rosana Modugno profile image85
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    From your question, I would say if it's already weak, then a break up is sure to follow.  Of course it depends on how strongly you mutually feel about fixing things but I tend to believe in relationships that are strong already.  The weaker ones are weak for a reason.

  15. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    It takes 2 to clap. So if a relationship seems to be going nowhere, it will be best to clarify to go separately than to carry on as the end result might be harder and worse.

    I always believe that if one does not have a good strong relationship, it will be best to clarify and go on each other ways than to continue a weak relation. There are so many people in the world and I do believe the right one will always come around.

  16. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    A relationship has to be whole, and a whole relationship won't break, no matter what happens.  I'm not sure it's possible to patch up a relationship and make it whole again (if it was ever whole in the first place) because - again - a whole and healthy relationship with a strong and solid foundation won't break or crack.

    I think most weak relationships will not hold up, so I'm not sure there's much point patching one up until it breaks or cracks again.