I didn't get the job I went for. Who can offer words of wisdom to pick me up??

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  1. Spencer Camus profile image62
    Spencer Camusposted 6 years ago

    I didn't get the job I went for. Who can offer words of wisdom to pick me up??

    The week started well enough, bouyed by a good interview, then found out today I didn't get the job. I'm okay about it I guess. However, what words ~ or hubs ~ of wisdom can you offer to beat disappointment and pick yourself up after rubbish news?

  2. Melissa F. Bennet profile image66
    Melissa F. Bennetposted 6 years ago

    The way I look at it is that there is an ultimate reason for everything. I know that sounds kind of silly, or even 'magical', but it eases my mind. I am currently at a job that has excellent benefits and fits my schedule perfectly, but it also makes me extremely miserable. I have left work some days so stressed that I feel like I am going to have a heart attack. So, over the last several months, I have applied for jobs that I have really wanted. Now, I am a successful person with a college education and I do very well in interviews, I have been commended on that by people. BUT, I have been turned down for a lot of jobs and I have turned down jobs too even though I am MISERABLE at my  job. Now I have had disappointment on some of the jobs that I have been turned down for but the way I get through this is, first of all, I TALK to the people closest to me about my disappointment about not getting the job. I end up feeling a lot better because what ends up happening is that I realize the people around me love me and care about my happiness. This alone makes me feel good because when you shed everything else away in life, nothing else matters but your loved ones! So, like I said, I talk to my loved ones about my disappointment and then I realize that the reason I didn't get this job or that job is because there is something far better in store for me. I DO believe there is a reason for everything and if you didn't get this job it is because something else is in store for you and you are not meant for the job that you did not get. Now, that alone does not always ease the mind and soul, so my other offering of advice for you is to maybe keep yourself busy some other way. I don't know what your situation is as far as doing schooling. BUT if you have a local community college that you can take a few classes at or take some online classes, that would keep your mind occupied. Otherwise, you could join a book club or something that you can put your mind and heart into while you are waiting for the other pieces of the PLAN to fall into place.

  3. Born2care2001 profile image79
    Born2care2001posted 6 years ago

    Okay Spencer Camus, you asked for it!

    Congratulations!!!

    You may be wondering why I'm offering you congratulations. That's easy. You just came one step closer to realizing the job you actually want and are suited to do, for now!

    My recommendation is to immediately begin the preparation for the next interview, the next networking event, or whatever the next step is in moving you forward toward the next position. Anything else, any other attitude, is ineffective.

    You are unique and therefore have qualities no other human being possesses in the same measure. It's your job to figure out how to develop, use and implement them for yourself, your family and your community.

    If you aren't 100% sure about what you want, begin to work at it until you are. If you need help, get it, it's out there waiting for you to ask for it.

    You are the answer to your own question. Look within and you will find the position of a lifetime.

    If you want further info, you may contact me.
    Sincerely,
    Bruce

  4. athena2011 profile image56
    athena2011posted 6 years ago

    Brush it off as an experience and move on to the next. Now you're a little better at being interviewed.

    Don't dwell on the fact that you didn't get the job, because it obviously wasn't meant for you. There is something better out there, you just have to find it so never give up. You can do this.

    Best of luck to you.

  5. leroy64 profile image84
    leroy64posted 6 years ago

    The person they chose might not work out.  Send them a thank you for the opportunity.  If you feel comfortable, ask for feed back on your interview.  Flattery goes a long way, if you don't over do it.  Remember, it's not that you were not worth hiring.  It's that they believe the other person was a better fit for their current needs.

  6. Spencer Camus profile image62
    Spencer Camusposted 6 years ago

    Thank you all so very much for taking the time out to respond to this question. I have voted up ALL your answers; all different, all with valid points.

    As if to vindicate your answers, I have since been approached by a manager from another service, who has asked if I would be interested in applying for a job he is advertising next week.

    After a good 20 minute chat, it sounds like a job I could really get stuck into, a make a very good contribution to his service and that particular team.

    Bloody brilliant news.

    It seems, yes, things do happen for a reason,and there is always a reason to remain positive, even when it seems like the world is a little bit against you

    Thanks again you guys and gals :-).

  7. MickS profile image71
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    It's the way of the world, we don't allways get what we want, we just have to live with disapointment.

  8. ringlawncare profile image61
    ringlawncareposted 6 years ago

    My wife has been turned down for at least 20 jobs/careers in the past 4 years! She is sneeze away from her PhD in Education! Good Luck and never say you can't!

  9. profile image59
    Hope Richmondposted 15 months ago

    I have interviewed a lot of people over the years. I interviewed those people because I believed they could do the job. The interview was to see whether they were a good fit for the team and for where I saw the role going in the future. So take heart, you were interviewed because you came across well on paper and the employer thought you could do the job, there was just someone else interviewed who was a better fit for the team.

    I always tried to give constructive feedback after interviews, both to the person who go the job and to those who didn't - we can all always learn something. Ask for feedback and be honest with yourself about why you wanted the job and why you feel you didn't get it. Use the good stuff to buoy yourself up and make sure you use it again; use the less good stuff to learn for the next time.

    Good luck!

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  10. profile image59
    kellyksposted 10 months ago

    hey dear do not be sad about it, if you did not get the job may be something better is coming your way. I have also failed many times in a variety of interviews and disappointment lasts only a day or so. You know I always believe that whatever happens, happens for good so just relax. Trust the goodness of Mother Nature and trust yourself more than anyone else. Your problem is not an issue big enough to term you as a failure. It's just that you were not cut out for it this time. A piece of advice that I can offer you is that try interview role-playing with one of your close friends. These sessions help a lot and your friends are your biggest critics who always want to see the best of you. As I was saying that I flunked a number of times in various interviews, I eventually got in better jobs. I know of one such time as well when I literally had to leave a high paying job because I had a quarrel with my boss. Which led me to take up jobs which I never thought I would do. But I never lost hope and now I am in one such organization which is better than my previous two. I know of many friends in my college who were brilliant enough to get a job of good pay-scale but couldn't clear a single round of interview. Just try a bit harder next time and also try to correct if anything wrong you think you have done. Reflect on your negatives and rectify them as early as you can. And don't worry about anything, as you will be paid in full when you get a good job with a handsome pay-scale.

  11. Deon Christie profile image57
    Deon Christieposted 9 months ago

    Overcoming failure are the steps to success, a bend in the road is not the end of the road. Dust yourself off and prepare for your next attempt, and keep going until you succeed not until you grow tired of trying.

 
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