What should I do?

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   In denialposted 14 years ago

   What should I do?
   
   My girlfriend is a compulsive liar and I am dealing with that. However, her son is a liar and a thief.  He gave me a shirt two months ago and I put it away in my closet. A week ago, I tried the shirt on but didn't wear it because I didn't know what to wear with it. Today we go to dinner and he was wearing the shirt. He has also been told to respect everyones belongings. We get home and his mother and I are arguing. I could not believe that she did not reprimand, punish or speak to him sternly. She asked me to leave after a few harsh words from the both of us.

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   Rangerwifeposted 14 years ago

   Maybe it's time to move on?  Do you really want to stay in a relationship like that?  Is there potential for it to ever change?  Let her know things have to change or it's over.  If she isn't willing to change, things probably never will.

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   GoGrannyposted 14 years ago

   You didn't mention how long you have been with this woman or how old the boy is. But needless to say it isn't a healthy relationship. Sounds like your girlfriend has raised a brat who will not listen and will most likely continue since he is not getting proper discipline. Sounds like she has little respect for you and her son is more important than your relationship. Not that a woman should put her man above her child, but if she can tell you to get out like that then she either is frustrated about the problem and can't figure out how to resolve it so she picks the obvious out by asking you to leave or she really doesn't care enough about you to work it out. If you are doing the best you can for the both of them then they are not appreciating having you with them. Save yourself the stress and move on.

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   In denialposted 14 years ago

   The boy is 18 years old and my relationship with his mom is 5 years old.  I don't know what's happen to me as I have gotten older.  I stick around for love even if it is unhealthy with this particular woman. No, I believe there is no potential change that will ever happen. I am distant with both of them now.   I believe her enabling him has just driven a wedge between all of us that will never mend. Thank you both for your advice.

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   Your best bet is to hit the road......a road that takes you very far from those two.  He is following in her footsteps and she seems quite proud/fond of that.  You will never experience true love, be happy or remain sane in that relationship.  THis story has dysfunction written all over it.  If you have scruples or common sense, this would have been an eye opener a long time ago, but I understand....you love her and you are hoping that things will change! 
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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