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Any trick for men to win arguments with women?

  1. navneetjha profile image72
    navneetjhaposted 5 years ago

    Any trick for men to win arguments with women?

    I could never win any argument with my girlfriend even if I am right. No matter how hard I fight, it her who always win. Anyone there who have any trick for men?

  2. momster profile image60
    momsterposted 5 years ago

    I actually just put a response close to this question on WebAnswers.

    How do you deal with people who think they are always right? I can not put the link in here but that was the question asked if you would like to look it up and see what other people have said.

    Some people say to always agree with a women when in a relationship. I feel that is wrong. That does not lead to a healthy relationship. Both people need to be respectful of each other, their feelings and opinions. Both people have to be able to communicate and better their relationship.  Letting one person be right all the time does not resolve situations or progress a relationship.

    You can always write a letter to your girlfriend letting her know how you feel and how it is effecting you. Sometimes it is easier for people to read and understand something instead of being able to talk about what is going on. Your girlfriend can then analyze what is being said from your letter. When you both are able to sit down together you can discuss this issue.

    1. navneetjha profile image72
      navneetjhaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I liked the letter idea but I think I am too shy to use that. I can write 100 hubs but writing a letter to girlfriend, I think is a very difficult task. I know she will love the letter because girls like such acts, but not my cup of tea.

  3. Wesley Clark profile image59
    Wesley Clarkposted 5 years ago

    I think the best advise navneetjha is from Oscar Wilde, and there are no tricks involved.  He said; "Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood".  Focus on really loving her, by your actions, your words, and perhaps winning will no longer be an issue.

    1. navneetjha profile image72
      navneetjhaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Wesley, I have been trying to do that all the time, its works most of the time. Only when it dont work, we have this argument and thats where I have been trying to win for years sad

    2. fpherj48 profile image76
      fpherj48posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like you both need to work on a lot less arguing.  What's the power struggle all about anyway?  Just be happy and get along or go your separate ways.  Life is much too short, honey, to bicker & badger. It's an insult to both of you. Try Pe

  4. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    By making the woman think she is right. I'm fighting with my partner right now and I don't know if he is faking losing or if I actually lost. It's always confusing.

  5. Sarah Christina profile image83
    Sarah Christinaposted 5 years ago

    It depends on the woman, and it depends on what you are arguing about. Your question is too general, it really depends on the situation. There is no one tactic that works for all situations, other than being a good listener, letting them know you love them and a willingness to try and understand where they are coming from. Relationships are all about give and take, it should never be all about one person's feelings and thoughts.

  6. ahorseback profile image77
    ahorsebackposted 5 years ago

    This is how you win ,  "Yes honey .....you know .you are right !" ,  engage her mind  away from her emotions . Make her realize you are above the nit  -picking of an arguement !

  7. Rosana Modugno profile image85
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    She doesn't win if you are allowing her to win.  You are just losing.  And essentially she is too because you aren't being heard and that is a one sided argument and a danger to your relationship.

    The "trick" is communication.  You sit and talk to her, tell her what you posted here, show her the post maybe.  Tell her you don't like that she is close minded and basically selfish when it comes to arguments.

    You both have opinions and they both should be heard.  Depending what the argument is about you should end it with both sides feeling GOOD about it.  Not one good, the other bad,

    Eventually, you will start resenting her, and this relationship will fail.

    Be constructive, not destructive in choosing words to express your feelings, allow enough time for each of you to state your case, allow her to finish her train of thought, write down what you want to say before hand, maybe so you won't forget in case she interrupts you and both of you come to a friendly and suitable agreement BOTH of you can live with.

    1. navneetjha profile image72
      navneetjhaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Rosana, this was really helpful..

  8. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    Well, young buck....I could tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

    1. navneetjha profile image72
      navneetjhaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      hmm, you can tell me, and I promise I wont tell anyone else for the benefit of entire women population smile

    2. fpherj48 profile image76
      fpherj48posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Per your response to momster:  Too shy to write her a letter but U can write hubs?  Write her a HUB. No need to publish.  Whatever it takes. Work on that "shyness"( not an asset in a relationship.) Acquire a taste for rare Tea!

  9. austinhealy profile image73
    austinhealyposted 5 years ago

    Before engaging in any kind of argument, you have to ask yourself if you still want to live with that person the next day, and if you do, you will moderate yourself considerably. And there is no "winner" to an argument. My way to deal with arguments is to avoid them at all costs, so if necessary, I will walk away for some time. Which, in most instances, is going to upset her even more, but hey, you can't have it all, honey. And if she breaks something while you're out, you won't see it. But of course, having lived eight years with a major case of bipolar woman, my argument tricks are quite well honed, but in the end, it didn't save the marriage

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    Debarati Mukherjiposted 12 months ago

    big_smile Oh God.Really u fight so hard,but at last she'll win.Bechara Navneet: D Kitni tension me aa gaya Bechara!