What's a girl got to do to get the point out to a guy?

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  1. sassychic profile image57
    sassychicposted 9 years ago

    Hey so for all ya fellas out there what'sa girl got to do to get a guy to understand something important that he's missing (mentally).

    I was talking to my boyfriend the other day about things and he wasnt doing anything else when we were talking he had his attention on the conversation but he was still so clueless and spaced out. I was talking clearly and plain simple talk.

    I know men process differently but really?

    1. profile image0
      Leta Sposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, I'm sorry--I'm female, and this wasn't really clear to me either.  I get all the 'guys aren't as verbal' stuff, yeah, yeah--but sometimes that is true, and sometimes it isn't.  Male writers, or other people who use language well for example?  They'd have a hard time being male and writers at the same time, then I guess.

      He's probably spacing out because you are being critical of him.  It's a disassociation thing--here you are, someone who  cares about him saying negative things (not making any judgment call either way).  What's he supposed to do?  He COULD get mad, I suppose--that's always fun. lol

      Say your piece, then give him space.  That, or use humor to make your point.  Tried and true methods that work for me, usually.

  2. seemorebangkok profile image58
    seemorebangkokposted 9 years ago

    Mabye he wants to break up with you... just kidding smile

    There could be a whole lot of reasons besides mental deficiency.

    Maybe he's got some personal problems he's not willing to share with you at the moment so he's distracted.

    Best way to find out what's wrong is to ask him.

  3. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 9 years ago

    "I was talking to my boyfriend the other day about things and he wasnt doing anything else when we were talking he had his attention on the conversation but he was still so clueless and spaced out. I was talking clearly and plain simple talk."
    I'm a man and I don't have a clue what you are talking about.
    "I know men process differently but really?"
    No. Means I don't know what you're talking about. An example might be relevant.

  4. 1964human profile image80
    1964humanposted 9 years ago

    Thanks for the great post. Is there any woman on the planet who hasn't felt that way?!

    I saw a news program on TV that went into this very thing. They hooked men and women up to brain scanning equipment then did some testing. One of the test was to identify an emotion by looking at pictures of facial expressions. The boys brains lit up and worked like mad, everything turning colors on the scan, and yet the poor dears did very baddly on the test. The women on the other hand barely blipped the screen and got a very high percentage right.

    Intrestingly, in one test they blindfolded the sujects and walked them through a building. When asked, the boys were conciderably better at knowing where in the building they were at.

    It also said men do not process verbal communication as fast as women speak!

    The one other really interesting thing was that very young boys (under 2 or 3 if I remember right) can not hear all the tones, of most women's voices, till they get a little older.

    Anyway, be patient with them, they were born that way. Talk slowly. (No insult intended guys just the scientific facts!)Let them do all the things that involve being blind folded, do not expect them to read your expression correctly, and love them like there is no tomorrow!

    Someone who REALLY loves you is someone who knows everything about you and loves you despite that!


    Bo

  5. sassychic profile image57
    sassychicposted 9 years ago

    I got my boyfriend to open up more and he started talking about things more personal and important. He expresses how he was really going to miss me in college and we were going to be so far from each other. (only 4.5 hrs away though)
    I havent had a really close conversation like that with him in a few weeks like that. I asked him is somehting was bothering him and he just sighed and started dicshing it to me.

  6. bill komissaroff profile image81
    bill komissaroffposted 9 years ago

    What a girl says: "I really want you to start talking about more personal things.  I want you to be more in touch with what you are feeling and I want to be able to talk about our relationship..."

    What a guy hears: "Blah, blah, blah, SEX.  Blah, blah, blah, FOOD."

    1. sassychic profile image57
      sassychicposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This response cracked me up! nice answer!

 
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