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Is he still interested in me, should i wait it out and see what happens or shoul

  1. c.cohen12 profile image55
    c.cohen12posted 8 years ago

    Is he still interested in me, should i wait it out and see what happens or should i move on?

    Thank you for everyone who answered my last question. This is a follow up to the previous one...well, i left him alone for 2 weeks and he has emailed me asking me how im doing and what have i been up to. Does that mean he misses me? Then last week we talked for 4 hours laughing and talking about setting up a football game to play. He's now talking to me. I asked him if we would ever get back together and he said maybe. Knowing this guy, he never gave girls second chances, but he's willing to give me millions. His last girlfriend, he didnt even want to hang out with. Does that mean im still in?

  2. providence profile image61
    providenceposted 8 years ago

    I don't know. I am guessing, "no". As a guy that's how I see it. But of course, until you know then you'll know.

  3. DrewClement profile image57
    DrewClementposted 8 years ago

    My answer at this point is No. I do not have alot of background into the exact situation or the exact guy, but I have seen this a number of times before.

    4 hours talking about playing football? It seems that he is willing to give you a few extra chances because you are a good friend........but nothing more.

    I am sure he misses you and at some point it could work out. At this point though it really does seem like "He's just not that into you"

    All the best

  4. stricktlydating profile image80
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    Yep, you're definately still in with a chance! See the thing is about dating, sometimes guys leave and then come back when they've realised they're missing you.  It sounds like he's just making sure that you haven't moved on yet.  He is giving you an opportunity to express your feelings maturely now that some time has passed, take the opportunity, but do it with a mature attitude, just tell him how you're feeling without too much bla bla bla, and then leave him to think about it some more. Best wishes!

  5. c.cohen12 profile image55
    c.cohen12posted 8 years ago

    You guys, before u answer this question.....we didnt spend 4 hours talkin about football, we were flirtin. we set up a football date....2-hand touch. We were laughin and havin fun...the weird thing is that we were talking as if we were still dating. Alot this happened through emails and stuff, so on the first day of school, i am going to talk to him face-to-face. If he is really done with me, he has to tell me. But i doubt he is, one thing i learned. If a guy falls in love with a gurl he isnt that ready to let her go.

  6. dolcegabbanagal profile image61
    dolcegabbanagalposted 8 years ago

    Well my answer to this question is: Guys always seem to want what they can't have. So, I suggest that you don't make yourself too available to him. Go out and have fun, hang out with your friends, meet new people. When you do talk to him, let him know what a great time you are having. Not in a rubbing-it-in-his-face sort of way, but just so he knows you aren't sitting around waiting for him to make up his mind. Don't be available to him every time he wants to talk. Guys like the thrill of the chase. When they know they already have you hooked, they will sometimes string you along forever. He may be playing the old game of keeping you on the line until someone he likes better comes along. If another hot guy asks you out, go ahead. If he wanted to be with you, he should have said so. If he decides to come back to you, great. If not, you aren't wasting your time on someone who isn't interested. But in my experience, a guy who is interested will always come back if they feel like they might lose the chance. So play it cool with this guy, go on with your life, and don't be too available to him. If he really wants you, he will come back. If not, you may meet another guy you are crazy about who knows how lucky he is to have you and will never want to let you go.

  7. sumosalesman profile image61
    sumosalesmanposted 8 years ago

    Once a relationship receives a major wound, it turns into an ornery, fickle beast.  If you both have a lot of love in your hearts toward each other (and this sounds pretty one-way and unrequited), you would be able to discuss getting back together a lot more easily than just getting a mumbled "maybe".  It all depends on what you want.  If you want an easy-going, see-you-every-few-weeks kind of thing, you can ease the strings up between the two of you and still hold onto him.  But it sounds like he's at least in neutral if not reverse, and you're more committed to staying together.  If you want to make all the efforts to stay together, be ready for a day when your love isn't returned.

  8. S Williams profile image60
    S Williamsposted 8 years ago

    Leaving him alone is sort of like using no contact, but if you don't know the whole strategy behind using NC you will not get the results you want.

    I suggest finding and following a good plan using the no contact rule strategy.

    Right now you're stuck in the "just friends zone" properly using NC is the quickest way out.

    When the dust clears you would have emotionally evolved and it will be your choice if you want him back or not...

    But!

    You will be free of relationship limbo in the just friends zone.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    i agree with dolcegabbanagal, she has hit the nail right on the head!  Practice makes perfect in dealing with situations as such!

  10. SwanofWar profile image59
    SwanofWarposted 7 years ago

    A period of seperation can actually strengthen a relationship.  It's easy to say 'forever' when you're together.  But if part ways for a while, it gives you both a chance to wonder what life would be like without each other.  I don't know if he wants to 'get back with you' or not, but if he didn't think about you he wouldn't be still contacting you.  Plus, if you talked for four hours and had that good of a time together, that's a very good sign.  You don't do that with someone you don't care about.  I wouldn't jump back into things, but I definitely recommend you stay in contact with him and see what happens smile

  11. Casey White profile image95
    Casey Whiteposted 6 years ago

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  12. tHErEDpILL profile image88
    tHErEDpILLposted 6 years ago

    Nobody stays together anymore.  Have fun while you can and leave when the feelings do.  Either that or continue to go back and forth until you end of pregnant with a guy who decides that he doesn't want to be with you.  I don't know your whole story but based on what i read here, this is my opinion, and trust me I have seen it all when it comes to relationships.  Unfortunately our society has lost that loving feeling from the 80's ("Top Gun" song), and we now have the ability to breakup and divorce people at anytime without ridicule from family, friends, or the public.  Just like our morbidly obese population is due to greed and convenience, so is our negative relationship success rates.  If  he makes you happy, enjoy it while you can but, don't be surprised if it comes to a quick end.

  13. vocalcoach profile image98
    vocalcoachposted 6 years ago

    I think you should play it cool and not be too eager to get back with him. It is sounding like he is still interested in you, but I wouldn't make it to easy for him. Be sure he isn't playing games. Consider what is best for you. He doesn't sound all that stable. I'm not sure this guy can be trusted. Good luck, either way.

 
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