How do you deal with an unpleasant comment posted from outside hubpages?

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   Nell Roseposted 11 years ago

   How do you deal with an unpleasant comment posted from outside hubpages?
   
   I am in mid flow so to speak with someone who is ignorant, insulting and downright annoying! He won't read the hub properly but insists his country is far superior and I am stupid, basically. Even though its research came from credible sources, archaeologists and scientists! I am arguing back, but now I have stopped. What do you do?

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   Rain Defenceposted 11 years ago

   Don't waste time arguing on the internet. You will rarely/never change anyones mind. Once you've put your point across, there is no point carrying it on to be honest, or you'll just end up getting wound up. There are people out there that enjoy winding people up. Don't indulge them!

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Rain, yes it definitely wound me up! lol!

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   Sunshine625posted 11 years ago

   "Block" anyone who tries to steal your sunshine!

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Great idea Linda, now I have calmed down! lol!

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      Rayne123posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I  was looking for this answer, how do you block someone thanks

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   stanwshuraposted 11 years ago

   Stay stopped.  If this person has gone outside the hp realm to continue quibbling with you, only to insult and belittle, s/he is *clearly* not worth your time or distress.

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Stan, great advice.

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   Faith Reaperposted 11 years ago

   Well, thankfully, I haven't had to deal with such (yet, except one time on a forum), but I would just agree to disagree and that's it, no follow-up discussions or start deleting his comments if they are truly insulting you and your intelligence and not merely stating his opinion of such, and in a civilized manner.  I know you can deal with this person, Nell.  You go girl! Plus you can block someone totally form ever commenting again.  Just go to your profile page and edit profile, and you will see a place to block hubbers, oh no, that is rude hubbers, not from the outside, as you stated . . . hmmm.

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I have changed my comments to 'check them out first mode' sp they can't see the comments unless I allow it. I knew I was going over board but it drove me mad! lol!

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   Rayne123posted 11 years ago

   that happened to me, he came in as a guest user and had the nerve to put me down very first comment, didnt even hear from this guy previously to that comment.
   
   He stopped and has been asking someone else questions, to do with God. He has been a little more polite to her but he even went on to say something about my country that was strange and nothing to do with my hub.
   
   So basically just ignore him, maybe state an opinion then let it go. Not sure if you can block someone but maybe someone else knows how
   
   Good luck

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Rayne, my wrath has broken now! haha! I will just delete his comments, thanks!

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   LisaKoskiposted 11 years ago

   I've had to deal with those types of people who are both hubbers and non hubbers. The most recent one commented on a few of my hubs and said my writing was horrible, mostly because of my age. She even said she'd lost all faith in Hubpages and was going to leave the site forever (of course she didn't). I just laugh a little, ignore these kinds of comments, and delete them as they come. Eventually, the rude person will get the hint and go away. Most of the time it seems like those type of people are just looking for conflict for the sake of their own amusement.

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That's so true Lisa, they are just trying to wind me up, thanks for your input.

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   suzettenaplesposted 11 years ago

   I agree with some of the others just ignore the rants or if it really bothers you delete them.  It is your question and you should be respected.  It this person can't be civil well that's what the delete button is for.  You can agree to disagree.  I wouldn't accept nastiness from anyone.

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Don't blame you suzette, thats what I will do now, thanks so much.

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   lady rainposted 11 years ago

   All comments on my hubs are hidden until they are approved by me. I had nasty and lengthy comments on a few hubs too, I just ignored and deleted the comments. All came from outside hubpages, sometimes they are from the same person using different names because their comments are similar.

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      Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes I noticed the same people coming back under different names too Lady Rain, in fact there is a hubber who does nasty comments, not sure if he is still here or not, but he has about 3 alias's!

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    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    I won't engage with someone like that - I wouldn't give them the satisfaction.  The writing, opinions, etc. belong to you and you do not have to suffer complaints. It is not a debate.  I would delete the comment and block the person if possible. It isn't much fun for the person to argue and insult if you don't respond.
    
    Chin up, this person is a doofus and doesn't deserve your response.

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    fpherj48posted 11 years ago

    Deal with unpleasant, abusive comments from ANYONE, inner circle OR out of HP, the same way.   Delete their comments, each and every time you receive one.....put it out of your mind...and go about your busy day.  You're much above the nonsense and you needn't tolerate it.  I  wouldn't give a rude person, the courtesy of a reply...........Or send effer his name...and I'll make a call to my cousin "Alfredo," from the Bronx.........I got your back, girl!

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       Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Haha! thanks Paula! so, you gotta cousin from the bronx? tell 'Alfredo' nell is very grateful! Lol! seriously, you are so right, I am going to delete his remarks, nasty little....! lol! thanks paula, you always make me laugh!

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    Lisa HWposted 11 years ago

    Not to make light of the dilemma, but this question made me kind of laugh.  I've had the occasional time when I've run into that kind of thing (on here or somewhere else).
    
    Like you, I'm someone who is careful about what I present.  I stick with subjects I'm familiar enough with to be able to recognize the most solid research sources.  If I haven't done specific research for a Hub, most of the time that's because I've done the research at some time in the past.  If I write from personal experience it isn't opinion.  I only make statements that are based on what I've seen, for myself, is true and proven.  So in general, if someone wants to debate me until the cows come home I'm going to win the debate.  (LOL)  (That's not saying there will never be a time when someone points out something I haven't made clear or otherwise could have done better in the Hub, and I'm not happy to reconsider something I've done.  I'm talking about factual information here.)
    
    Anyway, my general approach is to be more than happy to "address any concerns" someone raises once, maybe even twice.  If the person is at all reasonable I'm pretty likely to keep debating and explaining until it becomes very clear that no holes can punched in what I've presented.  (I can find time for that kind of thing with a polite and sincere and reasonable person, because it doesn't happen very often anyway).
    
    With someone who is just an ignorant and rude clown, my general policy is to make a simple and polite-enough-but-somewhat-cutting remark, and end further back-and-forth.
    
    A time or two, when there's been a rude clod that really irked me, and when I've had the time to be bothered; I've effectively, reasonably, and politely debated the person right to the bitter end, when the person just apparently got sick of it and went away.   LOL   When I'm in the mood I do get a slightly twisted pleasure out of debating one of those people to the point that they go away.   LOL
    
    Of course, too, there's always the thing that if a person is SO unreasonable there's absolutely no point "debating" with reason, the best thing is to just ignore them.  The difference is that some people THINK they're using reason while others know they're not (which is what makes any hope of winning a debate with them unrealistic).
    
    When you know you're right, and there's no question about that, it's all just a matter of whether you want to "debate" (continue asserting) the points for your own satisfaction, or end it when you want to.

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    Stephanie Henkelposted 11 years ago

    There are people (trolls) who make a practice of going from article to article leaving nasty comments and trying to engage you in an argument. Responding just encourages them. I delete the comment before it sees the light of day and go on with my life. Trolls are not worth the effort of a second thought. 
    
    This is different from someone who has politely expressed a differing point of view.  In that case, I just thank them for reading and commenting even though I don't agree. I seldom approve more than two consecutive comments from the same person as I feel it's a ploy to hijack my hub and the comment section.

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    ketageposted 11 years ago

    I did not even know that someone from outside hubpages could comment, I was under the impression that only hub members could comment. I am pretty new to hubpages and have not encountered this kind of problem yet, but I am sure that as time goes by I surely will.
    One of the disadvantages of the internet is its anonymity people think that since no one knows who they are in real life, it would be fun to troll. Usually its just kids being a pain in the ... , but occasionally you get some adults who do it as well.
    The only advice I can give is do not engage with these kinds of people. As it would be a waste of time.

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    bac2basicsposted 11 years ago

    Hi Nell.
    I would never ever give someone the time of day for nasty and insulting comments. I have only had a couple in my year here and have basically thanked them for their comment and then pointed out that we are all entitled to our opinions and I respect their right to theirs but I will not get into a debate on it. That has always worked well for me and I even got an apology off one person for being rude.
    There is no point in arguing the toss with those people who are just looking to wind you up Nell, just give a standard reply and delete or un-accept all comments after that. All they are looking for is a rise out of you and with no response they are unable to get it. Hope this helps

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       Nell Roseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       hi anne, yes I am going to delete the comments, he has shut up now, so thats great, thanks again.

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    shara63posted 11 years ago

    Simply ignore those trolls by deleting their comments.... if they become a stern errant, block them finally!

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    Tonipetposted 11 years ago

    These types of comments can really be challenging. Its easy to say "laugh it off"..."ignore it"... or just go on about as if nothing happened, but in all honesty, can be "furiously" maddening, depressing... and all that.
    
    I'd most probably just try to listen and understand. They may be problematic. It's better pity the insecure than putting effort in a long and unpleasant argument. It sure will not do me harm letting them go with what they have to believe. Wisdom still is good sense. Hope you're now okay, Nell.: Smiles from me! :-Tonette

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    djdaniel150posted 11 years ago

    ha, this is exactly why I built my own websites and don't have a comment section. If people want to comment on one of my articles, they can go to Google+ to the original post I made and comment there. Unfortunately there will always be intolerant trolls on the internet, we just have to find good ways to deal with them. When people state hateful things, it merely shows just how ignorant and intolerant they really are. You have to fight fire with fire! A few weeks ago somebody trash talked my article on my site about Daft Punk right after it was posted. It wasnt but a few hours later I realized the article had been shared several hundred times, +1d over a hundred times, etc. Looks no one else agreed with that poor guy. I just try to write posts that are informative and create stuff that people like, then when someone gets out of line you will have thousands of people to back you up!

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    Awesome Bodyposted 11 years ago

    It shouldn't bother you, you shouldn't be worried about things that don't matter, its unnecessary.
    If you don't learn to ignore these kind of guys, life is going to be hard. When you believe in yourself no one can make you feel low. ITS VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU LEARN to ignore or life is going to be hard, I am stressing it IGNORE!

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