It would be nice if we could go a day without someone going out of their way to let you know how offended they are.
As it turns out, our brains are wired to receive positive reward by "punishing" others.
https://www.vox.com/2016/2/29/11133822/ … -explained
That was a darned good link. I shared it everywhere.
That's interesting. It confirms to some degree something I've thought for a long time; that people self righteously point at others' "immorality" to make themselves look good. Because, why else do it?
Fascinating, very interesting research. It's too bad, though, that our human nature brings out the worst of us on the internet.
As a person who grew up without the internet and social media I can tell you the world is a different place without them. There was a saying "Don't put a standard on me you yourself can't follow." So, it was basically, look in your own yard before you pass judgement on mine. I think the internet has created a way for people to communicate their judgement of others without consequence...so it's much common because it's so easy. Thing are different with you must deal with the possibility of a direct confrontation. So, the internet and social media are here now and things aren't going to change. I suppose it all comes down to avoiding it, or accepting what will happen when you engage in it.
I am sorry if you are experiencing this.
To a point its good to have a healthy debate but if the nature of the conversation plummets into a space that is not aspiring, just leave that conversation.
Its easy when we get upset at someone and what they have said/written to fight fire with fire. This can be counterproductive.
What I do?
If I come across a thread/conversation that isnt a robust discussion and more like a below the belt scenario, I just dont join the thread from the begining. I control myself and leave it alone.
That's great. I try to do this myself. But when I'm currently embroiled in what feels like a meaningful and constructive discussion, someone comes out of left field with a ridiculous assertion that makes moving forward in the discussion nearly impossible.
Just steer that person on course sgain. It cost you a little but it may create /lead to a discussion that reveals some good insights.
Although, there are a few stooges on HubPages who I've come to recognize as people who never have anything but sour things to say. Two of them showed up to the party on your millennial discussion. The moment I see them, I know what's coming haha.
Most of the time they are not interested in having any kind of revelatory dialogue but are instead pushing their agenda and ideology. They have conclusions they start with and want to impose. I don't think any manner of discussion is possible. I say the best thing is a full stop and abandonment. Otherwise you end up going in circles with them going nowhere.
Good point Jessie. I know that negative word of mouth spreads ten times faster than positive remarks regarding business transactions.
Like with anything, anything is possible. Yes off course there are people who have an agenda and then there are people who dont have an agenda together with people who flippantly respond etc....
If a human is like a diamond, that is, they have many facets to themselves, so can humans respond with different angles/perspectives with different agendas.
Nate, I say, if you dont like something (and you are not being held down to be there) just ignore it and/ move on. Dont allow yourself to be rattled.
Difficult to know if you are referring to me or the people I'm referring to. If the former, I'm mostly stating facts because it's good to know your environment so not to be fooled by it. If the latter, sort of, yes.
Seems to contradict with the fact that most of the worst trolls have a fake name? If people were so proud of hurting someone it would seem they’d want credit for it when in a public forum.
I don't think those people seek public adulation or recognition. They are like rats hiding in their dark little places peeping out through a tiny hole, and privately gloating over their "success". The pseudonym is merely a mask. Being in the public view is the last thing they want, for it leaves them open to criticism and emotional pain.
I understand the point, that people often get upset over nothing. That said, there's a fine line between unnecessary outrage and warranted frustration.
For instance, being rude to someone (about any topic) is very likely to offend them, and arguably for good reason. I've always thought harsh truths can still be administered in gentle (or at least non-aggressive) manners.
Yeah, I certainly understand frustration. Frustration grows and multiplies. Some dive into a thread feet first out of absolute frustration. From that point forward, everything gets lost in translation. I'm guilty of it myself. All I can do is practice impulse control.
Good idea Nate-full stop and remove yourself from the merry go round.
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