Why do topics about serious issues cause some hubbers to bite?

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   Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years ago

   Ouch! I'm amazed at the many smartass answers that some hubbers use when addressing serious questions to spark debate and deep reflection. Do you use smartass humor to mask your own defenses of being uncomfortable with deep topics?

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      psycheskinnerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Why do some hubbers posted a whole bunch of contraversial questions and then expect to be taken seriouly?  You could at least limit yourself to one at a time, and post them in a why that reflects a degree of thought and open-mindedness.  You tend to get back what you put in.

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      Jane@CMposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Gracie, you've been on here for a total of two days with no written hubs.  People are going to believe that you are either spamming or another sock puppet.

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   I am comfortable discussing any topic, regardless of how deep the subject is or how controversial the topic could be.
   
   I may seem like a smarta$$ but most of the time, I am straight forward, blunt and pull no punches.

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      Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Cagsil:
      
      I was not talking about you. Your words are respectful even when you are being blunt. I admire that. I am describing nasty comments by hubbers who appear to enjoy being nasty.

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   ilmdamailyposted 12 years ago

   Yes, there's certainly a tendency for people to talk to others in the forum in a way that they wouldn't even consider if they were face to face with a person.
   
   Either people feel "safe" to expose their less personable sides online, or there's a hell of a lot more a******s in the world than I thought.

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   timorousposted 12 years ago

   It depends whether the hubber feels the topic is being taken far too seriously.  Sometimes a little humour is what is needed.  It's not our intention to be a smartass...usually.
   I'm perfectly comfortable and capable of carrying on a serious discussion, where appropriate.

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      Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Appropriate humor is welcomed and is important in life. I love appropriate humor!

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   Mishaposted 12 years ago

   Doncha see you are annoying people right and left? This is not the way to solicit serious replies.

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      Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Please explain more about this comment. Thanks.

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         Mishaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         The one opening dozens of smart ass threads over a course of a few hours better be prepared for smart ass answers

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   Uninvited Writerposted 12 years ago

   I haven't seen too many posts on this forum that fit your criteria.
   
   Some people are annoyed when one person posts numerous posts in a short period of time, makes them look like a spammer.

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      Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Wow. That's interesting. I was just fired last week from my job for standing up for the rights of others and speaking up when I see others being bullied. Who knew that communicating on this hub would provoke nastiness? I can go back to fighting for the civil rights of others in my community and state.

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         Mishaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Please do, I am sure they appreciate it.

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         psycheskinnerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         If you are used to dealing with contraversial images and gaining actual concessions (not just having a "fight") you should have known.

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   Jeramiposted 12 years ago

   I think that there are some topics that some people don't want to talk about AND don't want other people talking about it either ?????????.

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   ATC UKposted 12 years ago

   Hi Gracia Sophia
   
   Why some hubbers use what you call 'smartass' answers could be for a number of different reasons.
   
   1. The topic doesn't mean anything to them.
   2. They think the topic is badly worded
   3. They find the topic humourous
   4. They prefer not to think deeply in the forums
   5. They want to deflate someones pomposity
   6. They disagree with you
   7. They enjoy annoying other hubbers.
   8. They get irritated by someone trying to lay down the law about how they should answer ...
   
   You say you have learnt a lot over the last few hours. I have looked at your forum posts and some of the responses and I would say that if you choose to communicate in the way that you do, then some of the reaction is typical of what you will get.(I am a communication specialist)  I am not suggesting you should change  - why should you - I only point out that we all take responsibility for what we write about and how it might be viewed, rightly or wrongly by other people.

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      Gracie Sophiaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Please give examples.  Being passionate about life issues as long as you use respectful words is OK in my neighborhood.
      Thanks for your comments! I do like conflict resolution communication and ideas. I do love freedom of speech as well.

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         ATC UKposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hi Gracie Sophia
         Examples already been given by uninvited writer - she makes a very good point.  I notice you use words like 'appropriate humor'.  Well who decides what's appropriate when we are all individuals?  I am an NLP Practitioner (and like you a qualified teacher).  In NLP they look at cause and effect.  The majority of people stand on the effect side of things - eg. "The people are all being nasty to me.  They hate me."  One the cause side a person says. "Those people were nasty to me.  Did I play any part in it?  Yes I did - I made comments that annoyed them, but that was my choice" .  The point here is that you have to live with those choices, or consider that you could do something differently.  Adopting a 'poor little me approach' is unworthy of someone as intelligent as yourself.
         Apologies for sounding like a teacher!

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      psycheskinnerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      9. They can tell you will react emotively and are taking the opportunity to tease.

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   Uninvited Writerposted 12 years ago

   I wasn't being nasty, just honest.
   
   One hint...don't come onto a forum and assume that there was never any important or "deep" discussions until you came along and that you are saving everyone. 
   
   And too many posts in a short period of time will lower you hubscore rapidly.

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    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    Another aspect to this is that people may be passionate about any number of things in their life, while still not expecting to exercise that passion on a site like HubPages.  Some people go to some sites as a way of doing something outside whatever their usual life is (even if that "usual" life includes all kinds of passionate endeavors).  (In other words, not everyone takes things like forums all that seriously; particularly on a site that aimed at a wide-ranging group of people.)
    
    Also, for those of us who do have our passions, it's common, I think, for us to want to be the ones get any "passionate endeavors"/discussions going.  Passionate endeavors have to come from the person, himself.  If anyone else tries to get someone going on a "passionate thing", it's just going to come across as if he's irking people.  I don't know...   I'm know sure people with the "truest" form of passion are going to introduce it/use it in a forum setting.  It's something that, for some people, is too personal a thing.

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    TMMasonposted 12 years ago

    I think some just cannot stand being told they are wrong, others just to be dis-agreed with is enough, some feel it is thier place in life to teach all others and if those others do not agree it gets em going, and some just like to fight.
    
    And then there are those who cannot understand how all thier recitations of leant leftists liberal progressive histories cannot convince any, that they are wrong, and the reciter is correct.
    
    I think, they, the ones who cannot understand how someone could actually be aware of REAL history and FACTS, get so frustrated that they just cannot help but blow a gasket.
    
    Those are usually the people which posses what we commonly refer to in this day as, "higher education".
    
    I call it, "having been indoctrinated".
    
    They find it unbelievable that/thier all that money and time could have been wasted learning revisionist history full of lies and blatant falsities. Peppered with historical and factual inaccuracies and out right progressive propaganda.
    
    Then when it does register that they wasted thier time and money and were lied to by the so called, "educators", they simply melt-down and revert to sniping and personal attacks against that which is the object of thier abyssmal education and understanding of the world.
    
    Yes... it is all pretty simple.

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