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   Joy56posted 14 years ago

   HELP...... this mood is scary, I am so angry, and it is for a ridiculous reason, and it is probably because i have not been writing and a million other things, but it is here and what do i do about it......

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      luvpassionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Chocolate!
      
      
      Happy Yule

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      lovelylizzyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      well,who isn't?i have the answer you seek.it is,chocate chip cookies with choclate brownies and choclate icecream in chocolate sauce topped with whipcream,and served with choclate milk,and don't forget to have a few cadburys too........

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   Joy56posted 14 years ago

   why did i not think of that..... have none in the house,and i am seriouly trying to cut chocolate out, i have had about 3 coffees today and i am trying to cut them out too maybe i should just get another one right?????????

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      luvpassionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ummm....no more caffein for you sister.
      
      Hope your day improves.
      
      Teri

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         Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I absolutely know it will thanks.... it already has talking to friends on here.  I will swim tonight.

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

   ...ya  need a laugh...to change the mood...yea, chocolate sounds good too ....maybe some ice cream to go with it?

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   sofsposted 14 years ago

   Relax, do something that will take your mind off what is bothering you, may be get a good sleep, or sometime off work with  friends.
   
   Hey visit your beautician and get pampered.. always helps, the fussing around while having a pedicure or manicure..  do anything fun and you will soon calm down... don,t eat...no chocolates too bad  for health.

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      Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Sofs, thanks for coming to my rescue, i hear you, and i love the flower in your avatar, it truly is beautiful.

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   Joy56posted 14 years ago

   i have no chocolate or ice cream, and food is not the answer.... I am coming back just going for a coffee, and a tissue.

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   Daniel Carterposted 14 years ago

   Caffeine jitters and anger don't seem to mix well with me.
   
   I have to question my crummy thoughts and ask if they are something I really need or am I better off without them. I've learned I don't have to believe all my silly little lies and torture I rehearse to myself. Then I can laugh about it.

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      Pandoras Boxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Minds tend to take on a mind of their own, don't they? Damn things. I think we give them way too much credit.
      
      I too had to learn that you gotta control your thoughts, because your thoughts are what control you. Gotta get control of your mind. It's darned hard, but it's the only way.

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         Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I know what you are saying, and not to get too heavy, it is not always easy....

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   Pandoras Boxposted 14 years ago

   I don't know what's wrong, but "let grief convert to anger, blunt not the heart, enrage it!"
   
   In other words, go write it out.

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   It sounds like you need to so something physical.  Maybe you can beat up a pillow or take some dance music and play it up loud and just dance.

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   luabuposted 14 years ago

   take it out on a forum thread / you can try mine if you like
   it's the snow melting you know!
   bye joy56   luabu

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    Urbane Chaosposted 14 years ago

    Maybe try going out for a short jog?  Dress up real warm, grab your headphones, and head off down the street..  That usually calms me down, especially if my mind is on the run..
    
    Breathe in, breathe out, move on.. Hope ya feel better..  If I was there, I'd let ya use me as a punching bag.

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       please get here, let me kick you to death ha ha

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          Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I'm virtually there.. and yes, I can feel the kicks from here!

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             Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

             bless you,.  here are another few just to make you feel really wanted..... and here is some tissue to mop up the bloody nose,  now be a man and stop crying.

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                Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Ok, ok.. I'll man up.  That last kick kinda hurt - now I'm all talking high and squeeky and everything.. It's alright, I think a band-aid will fix it though.

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                   Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   ha ha....... you are too tough for me, things are a bit calmer, but i would still tread carefully if i were you.......

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                      Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      <humbly bows> Anything to be of service.. I'm proud to have had you call me your personal punching bag.

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                         Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         Here's another it aint over yet.

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    Joy56posted 14 years ago

    yeah i need to throw so much rubbish away in this house, i have two bin bags here, and am rushing off to throw craft stuff in it that is everywhere....
    
    I watched Dr Phil this morning...... It was all about a woman who was killing herself with alcohol, they interviewed the woman and her daughter they brought a coffin on ..... My sister is in a coffin, and her daughter is amazing but not near me.  My dad is actually dying he is on so much oxygen was rushed to hospital two days ago, we all that he was dead, as he could not breath at all.... Now he is back home, in a different country to me, and seems to have nine lives, but it cannot go on for ever.
    
    I took to knitting again, i used to do it years ago, and i made an aran waistcoat, can you believe that one front is a totally different shade, it is now in the bin....... that was the last straw, why am i laughing while i was writing that.
    
    Oh exercise.... I have been stuck in for days with the snow, i have cabin fever.......

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       Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think you're overwhelmed, from your description. That's a LOT of crap on your table. Maybe you could take the day to just do good things for you, since you can't control a lot of the other things...Just a thought. Anyway, sending good thoughts your way. Be gentle with yourself. We're no good to anyone else when we treat ourselves poorly, and being angry is a harsh way to live.
       
       Easier said than done, I know, but question those crummy thoughts and see which ones you need to keep (if any) and laugh at the rest.

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          Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          you know what this advice is so good.  i am a person that seems to cope with everything so well, but lately, i clutch at straws, if you know what i mean, nothing seems to work, the way i want it, but maybe things will improve, i will look back on this thread, with love one day, i am isolated where i live, and never more so than just recently with the weather.  Not working at the mo.  Convincing myself that's o.k. but who wants to be lonely and broke.... i will fix it, as best i can.

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             Pandoras Boxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             When you're broke and lonely, you're never really alone!

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                Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                r u broke and lonely too.....

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             Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             It happens to the best of us - just be thankful for what you have.
             
             There was a time right after I graduated high school that I didn't have anything.  I remember sleeping under the pavilion in the park in Old Naples.  I had a lot of problems in my life back then, but to look back on that and see where I am today..
             
             Everything passes, and this is but a small moment in time.  Keep your head up and keep moving forward.. You're an amazing person, and I know that amazing things will come your way..

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                Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                i will tell you something funny, but keep it to yourself.
                
                I need to lose weight .......  I love to swim...... My husband is paying for me to go to this really expensive stupid pool, sauna, gym etc.  I dont always feel like swimming, but i do go, it is one of the only things in the town i live, tho we do have a tesco.  No buses that go anywhere i want to go, and no i do not drive....
                Everyone tells me i am mad because i do not use the gym, as i do have a lot of weight to lose.  So as i am paying for it anyway, i had an hours session with this trainer, it was the worst hour of  my life, i hated it so much.  Anyway i decided to do it.  No money coming in because of weather {that will change as from this week}  so i ordered some trainers from a catalogue, they did not come so i rang.  I was on the phone an hour but they just kept putting me on hold or passing me to someone else, then i clicked, i could not get them because of credit rating, i should have been so happy, as i did not want to go to gym anyway..... but it upset me so much why.......  my house is warm, the snow is ceasing, things will improve, but sometimes momentarily you can lose sight of that fact isn't that so.....  what am i talking about .......

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                   Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   It sounds like you live down the street from me.. There's an old movie theater here, but most of the time it's out of business.  Other than that there's simply not anything to do. I'm with you on one other thing too, I don't drive right now either - so I know what that feels like.  I injured my back several months ago and haven't been able to do much of anything.. It frustrates the hell out of me.. Disability pays for some things, but it's not near enough to cover all I need it to.  But still, I'm alive and breathing, so I must be doing something right..
                   
                   ...and shh... I won't tell anyone. I promise..

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                      Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      you are an amazing person, sorry about your back, it is sad to hear that anyone has any kind of disability.... hope it is not permanant.  i think a new and long friendship has been sparked here, and i think that is what i was looking for..... maybe we can go to that clapped out cinema, virtually of course.  I do not want to see a violent movie, i am squemish, how do you spell that????????

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                         Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         It's been like that for years, so for the most part, I'm used to it.  I threw it out again moving a drum set, but I lied and told my former boss that it was because of work.   I used to lay carpet years ago, and screwed it up back then.  I just have to be careful with what I do.
                         
                         I think a virtual movie is a great idea!   Actually, I've been wanting to see the new Tron movie.. I remember watching the first one years ago and am just curious to see what they've done.  Violent movies are alright, but they have to have a really really good story line..

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                Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                p,s, I like you x

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                   Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   I didn't do it, I swear.

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                      Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      it's just your avatar that is the attraction....  you look cute. Do you think anyone is listening in to this, every now and again, my daughter finds me on here, and puts something disaproving.....
                      
                        Carla, i love dad, i am just talking to this animal drinking coke.  o.k. i am going to make the tea for when dad gets home, honest i am i am
                      
                      p.s. English people call tea what you would call dinner, Northern English peoople any way...... so it is dinner i will be cooking shortly.,

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                         Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         Now that's just hilarious!  I never thought of it that way.. I thought the picture was funny so.. but yeah, if someone said they were talking to an animal drinking coke then I might be a little weirded out myself. 
                         
                         Enjoy your tea.. I think it's time for me to get some coffee.

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                            Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                            oh no the animal drinking coke, is cool, it's the handsome men, she has a problem with me chatting to, lets see if she shows up.  Please tell me you are not a handsome man, or i am serious trouble.

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                               Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                               Nah, I'd rather describe myself as goofy-looking.. Big black eyes, a dark circle around my mouth, and I perpetually have a coke can stuck to my tongue.  I guess it could be worse..

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                                  Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                                  snooping around your hubs, i see the opposite is true, would you go to the movies with a granny.....  now what film will it be?????????

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          Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Hi nice to see you Daniel, we met in another one of my lives...... I have not been too active on here for a while, but will catch up with some of your hubs,,,,,  I am so happy to see friends appearing, that really is what hub pages is all about a wonderful community of writers, and friends.

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       Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That's rough.. it sounds like everything seems to be crashing down at once - and the cabin fever doesn't help at all.  I always have problems this time of year myself - I can't stand not seeing the sun. 
       
       Maybe it's time to just get away for a couple days?  - a mini vacation?  I dunno, wish I could help though.. It's frustrating, but don't let it get ya down.

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          Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          i am probably attention seeking right???????  I know this mood will lift, but sometimes it does get a bit scary...... now did i take my tablet this morning????????

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             Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             I don't think at all that you're just looking for attention.. There's nothing wrong with asking for help, or even wanting to use someone as a punching bag..  John Donne once said, "No man is an island, entire of itself."  Sometimes we just need people out there who will remind us that it isn't all bad, and that things will always get better.  Right now, ya may feel like pounding your fist into a wall, but next week, it'll just be a memory.  That's the nice thing about life, it just keeps pushing us on.. For now though, you just have to keep pushing on - rely on family and friends and soon enough, this will all pass.

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                Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                MMMMMMMMMMMMMM i know what you mean...... Just been reading your work, about not having to be a good writer to write, i enjoyed it and saw you used to be in Floriday, where????? My son is in Florida......  I miss him and his family, he is coming over in August.

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                   Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Grew up in Naples and went to school in Tampa.  Been pretty much all over the state.. I loved it, and would go back in a heartbeat if I had the money.  And yes.. I'm jealous of your son!  What part does he live in?  Tell him that when he visits he needs to bring pictures so you can post them up here..

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                      Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      He lives in Tampa he is a history teacher.....  When did you leave you may know him....... joking!!!!!!!!!
                      
                      He moved there because his wife is American, and there son is severley autistic, and she was missing her family..... It was a blow when they moved, as i miss him.... We went out there and i loved it, i like Clearwater, and the shops, and i even liked disney

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                         Urbane Chaosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         I spent some of the best years of my life in Tampa.  My ex's mother was a fourth grade teacher in Pinellas Park, but has been around all of the schools doing this or that. 
                         
                         I hope your son's doing good.  It's sad to hear about his son, that has to be hard.  Still, the treatments are a lot better now than they used to be, and most people are starting to understand more about autism.  Most autistic people have great lives now because of that.  I figure that it'll only get better as time goes by and they find more ways of dealing with it.

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                            Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                            My grandson is non verbal, although when he was very young he did speak, he is five, now every day is difficult, bringing different challenges to his parents, i have always worked with the elderly or people with difficulties, it is so sad i cannot be near him....

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    rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

    can you bundle up and go take a walk? throw a snowball? build a snowman?
    
    then go back inside and enjoy a hot chocolate.
    I hope you feel better..

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       thanks for reminding me i have hot chocolate.... and one of my problems is i get afraid to go out, i will go and have a little walk maybe.....

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    richtwfposted 14 years ago

    Play some nice music, chat to a few friends, go for a nice walk, go for a run ...eat some chocolate and enjoy a nice cup of tea and brain storm for ideas! lol

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       chocolate seems to be the number one solution, i am getting my coat on and buying a huge bar, thanks

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    rotlposted 14 years ago

    Music really helps me... listed to some music that speaks to the emotions you're feeling right now. Plus you can listen while you're on your walk and eating your chocolate! 

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       you  know what i used to love music, but recently i cant stand it at all..... i don;t have head phones either, maybe i should get some,  Westlife r on t.v. now i like them, i must tune in to that, thanks for reminding me.

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          DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          hiya Joy, I'm breaking my vow of silence for you.    I am sorry the stormy weather and unsettled seas are back to bother you. As a fellow sufferer of insufferable and intolerable mood swings, I have to tell you...coffee makes it worse.
          
          Don't feel guilty for a day of distraction and clean your house a bit at a time. You don't need to do everything at once ya know. When its done you will feel settled and you can write. Ive just spent the past three days crying my head off and scrubbing the floors. Here is a nice picture for you.
          
          

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             Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

             You know what...... it is nice to see you, more than nice, and i did not know you had a vow of silence, whish i was just plain old Brenda Scully again, where i would just shout my head off, but unfortunately i have learned to be more guarded on here, a nod is as good as a wink and all that you know.....
             
             I really feel low today, and i am so sorry that you can sympathise.  I know things have been hard for you at times also.... you know what i always said no i am not suicidal, i would never get like that, but i feel quite trapped, and although suicidal exactly, feel i must do something drastic to lift these moods for good.....  You have made my day, lets reconnect,and scrub the floor one more time...... 
             
             i go to art class on Wednesday but have not been for 3 weeks because of the weather.  Going to see my dad Christmas if he is still alive.

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    kirstenblogposted 14 years ago

    You can try what I do. I visualize my angry self as daffy duck or Donald duck, all my angry rants have to be a perfict mimic of said duck. It really works for me as it makes me laugh at myself. I think I watched too many cartoons as a kid

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       thanks for your advice, i am going to try that also.  Your avatar tells me you have watched too much of something what is it.....
       
       Can you feel the bad mood lifting, it is i swear, i thank everyone.

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          kirstenblogposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          That is one of my art works, fun with fractals
          From time to time I will swap 'em round and maybe push forward an online art career .

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             Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

             that is your artwork, wow, i feel i should be bowing down to you..... I must check you out, i would love to be artistic, but i am not at all really, crafty but artistic no.....

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                kirstenblogposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Sorry, was down at the shops getting some fresh juice
                I did a hub recently to show off the sales I have made, and of course I had to do a sneaky little display of my favorites
                (tho only one has sold so far). I am finding that since I found HP I keep finding all sorts of great ways to explore my creative side in different ways and even make a few bucks out of it

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    It was just some planetary confusion there for awhile.  Now, I suggest we all get out our pencils and write a letter to Santa.  Ask, or don't ask, just write him and tell him what's needed.  It helps to know exactly what is needed anyway, whether he's listening or not. If you were that angry, something is definitely needed!  (she says as she coughs up more phlegm, flegam? phleghm?)

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I know you don't I?????? It has been so long since i was on here, and i am ashamed.  Yep i am going to write a letter., i think i will make a hub about it.....

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          luabuposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          i'd hate to be a woman
          see you there joy56

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             Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

             i am rushing over now.....

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    luabuposted 14 years ago

    good night joy56
    jesus i got ate over wonder
    hope it improved your mood

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       Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       "ate over wonder," dont know what you mean, you are so funny

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    hope you are a little bit jovial now, Ms joy..

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    Joy56posted 14 years ago

    yep this was yesterday, i re connected to the world on hub pages, and it helped a lot... the sun is shining today i can hardly believe it....

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       SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ...that's good Joy!....glad to hear....hope the sun is shinin' where i am today too!...sun hasn't risen yet....soon....

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    Joy56posted 14 years ago

    Have a great day, and hope the sun shines for you too

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