Holy martyr complex. That you're bad or evil if you don't let them do what they're doing.
One example is Islam making every woman a ward of some man all of her life, then saying she can only get into heaven if she dies a virgin, a martyr or if her husband is happy with her. Fail to live by very strict rules, and your family could kill you to defend its honor. Oppress yourself to even stricter standards, and you're considered good, blessed, praised.