Why is it irresponsible, immoral, unintelligent, even illogical to have large/ve

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   Why is it irresponsible, immoral, unintelligent, even illogical to have large/very large
   
   families( 6 children or more per family), especially in this postmodern day and age when advanced contraceptive technologies are very accessible and available?
   
   

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   ahorsebackposted 9 years ago

   I think the real problem here  in doing  this  is that most large families are  already formed before  parents  achieve financial security .     I believe it's simply irresponsible  to do it anyway  personally , primarily  because given statistics    show that  over half of all  marriages end in divorce .   
   
   Aside from the probable  difficulties in   that most large families cannot attain or maintain  the required  quality of life , of achieving a higher education needed in todays world  OR  provide a mentally  or physically healthy family environment .

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent response,not only is it irresponsible,it's also mindless. How can people bring children in the world to live in poverty & struggle while others HAVE. I SEE why many children from large/very large families RESENT those from small familie

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      We would not know of such a private decision between the two ,when and how pertection is applied or used. but when a life gets here it is to late to complain , the child needs are important why make it
      Bad by saying you should not be here by words

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   Stargrrlposted 9 years ago

   I don't think it's wrong--it is really up to the couple.  Some people desire to have large families, and they will make the sacrifices needed to sustain them.  I don't think it's immoral at all.  If the couple does not believe in using birth control, then that is their prerogative.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Typical large/very large families are IMPOVERISHED, POOR, or NEAR POVERTY.They've poor nutrition, medical care, & clothing.They receive SOME type of OUTSIDE aid. It's IMMORAL & IRRESPONSIBLE to have kids you CAN'T support/raise! Birth control

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   
   
   Thinking, responsible, moral, intelligent, and mindful people have the amount of children that they emotionally, psychologically, & financially support without stress & beyond the rudiments. They realize the importance of family planning for the betterment of their families emotionally, psychologically, financially, and even psychically. They know how detrimental it is for people to have more children than they can reasonably support emotionally, psychologically, & financially. 
   
   Intelligent people are aware that those who have large/very large families cannot adequately support their children as very little money allotted per child which means the latter MUST do w/o on many occasions. They also know that parents can't raise a large number of children by themselves so that means that the oldest/older children have be second parents, if not the sole parents if the task becomes too daunting for the parents.  They know that because of impoverishment & tight finances, in order to stay socioeconomically afloat, they get outside aid via relatives, charities, their church, or the government.  There are hardly any economically sustainable large/very large families.
   
   Intelligent, thinking people know that children in large/very large families have little to no parental attention so they must raise themselves &/or each other.  Many oldest/older children in large/very large families are either cast aside, neglected, or pressed into indentured servitude to their parents & siblings 24/7/365. They see that the more children a parent has, the more cast off the older children will be in favor of younger ones who themselves will be cast off at such succeeding child.
   
   Intelligent, thinking people see that children from large/very large families have poor nutrition or entirely malnourished, have next to non-existent medical/health care, and poor quality of clothing from charities or donations. Such children oftentimes work from childhood to get the things that other normal children have. Many of them, esp. the older ones, have to forfeit their education in order to supplement family income, thus they will be impoverished & poor like their parents so the cycle continues ad continuum.  To intelligent, thinking people it is totally irresponsible, if not egregiously inexcusable for any parent to have large/very large families, knowing its detriments to the children involved, when there is birth control readily available.

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   Say Yes To Lifeposted 9 years ago

   People who do this tend to be ignorant, and not particularly proactive regarding taking control of their lives.  Life "just happens" to them.  Even in the olden days, educated people were more likely to know about the few forms of birth control available, and therefore had smaller families.
   Here in Hawaii, the Board of Education is talking about instituting "Pono Choices" (Pono means "proper" in Hawaiian).  We have one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the country.  People accept it, don't discuss it with kids, and even are afraid it infringes upon their freedom!  My book, "Wage Peace Between the Sexes", addresses this issue, though I have gotten dire warnings from my counselor about promoting it (nothing bad has happened yet). 
   Some conservatives believe in teaching kids to "just say no to sex".  I went to a Christian high school, where we were taught abstinence until marriage, but we were also fully educated about the forms of birth control and even how to have good sex!  The effect it had on me was that I decided it was easier to "just say no", and I refused to settle for an inferior relationship.  That's why I wrote the book.
   I believe widespread education will solve this problem.

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   Kiss andTalesposted 9 years ago

   I think the word ignorant is extreme Say yes,
   Just because a life is created does not mean ignorance , remember all birth control is not 100% and does not mean people do not practice.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      K&T - it is HIGHLY unlikely birth control would fail 6 times in a row.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Rather it did or not is a God given right.
      If God allows it who are we to talk against it
      We are not the ones having the responsibility birthing or being the parents.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      K&T - I agree that the size of a family should be up to the parents. However, those who are irresponsible put a burden on society, in the way of welfare payments, abused / neglected children, and potential criminals in the future.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You have said truth , but that does not mean we are to say that is all situations prematurely.  and certainly we are not to add to the mental tearing down of saying you should not be here after children have been born.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      YOLEEN, don't even try to reason.  It is an utter exercise in futility! You have presented an intelligent premise which I agree wholeheartedly with but it is falling on DEAD ears!

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Say yes has spoken truth in part grace I can agree that people can misuse their power of having children but not all people have, and I think it is futile to say how many anyone should have , maybe 10 could be a good  number if you can care for them.

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   Skarletposted 9 years ago

   What a judgemental, narrow minded, and stereotyping bunch of nonsense. I have not seen this to be true at all. Sure, there are a lot of poor people who just don't care, and decide to collect as much from the Government/tax payers, as possible by having a ton of kids, but there are very well educated people who can afford to have families and manage to raise 6 or more upstanding citizens. My Italian friends had 7 children, all grew up to be good people, who do not collect welfare.
   This family in fact, started a business and were self supporting. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing ignorant about it either. They simply did not want to use birth control, and believed that if God blessed them with many children, they would accept it.
   The Kennedys could afford a large family and although highly corrupt politicians, they are not ignorant as the one poster here concludes parents of large families to be.
   To a great extent, having a large family is a dream that many have but simply cannot afford to do and therefore settle on one or two children because that is all they can reasonably afford.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Many people DON'T want large families.  They WANT/DESIRE small families. No one in their logical minds want large families. Large families were fine in agrarian times, not in the 21st century. GOOD GOD, there is such a thing as birth control!

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      What people want is still a personal choice.
      Some people may want a large family and have the money to raise them, The Osmonds, Jacksons, the Kennedys,  and others,  we should not be stereo typing .

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      Skarletposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Grace Marguerite Williams- "no one in their logical mind wants a large family". Wow!  Who has dictated that? Many logical people want a large family, sorry to break the news to you. Truly incredible how many people think we all have to want the same

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      Kiss andTalesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      True Grace you yourself just said no one wants the same , and their are people who
      want children , we should not think all people should  think alike .there are people who want children and can not have them.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Logical, intelligent people put forethought into having children so they can have the best economic & educational opportunities.They've the amount of children so that oldest children AREN'T parentfied & children aren't impoverished. GOOD GOD,

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