Fill your mind with positive thoughts. Read positive books.
If I knew what you were fearful of, I would elaborate more.
I read a great book called Qualities by J Ruth Gendler...here is how the author describes Fear:
"Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is quite small. He has a vivid imagination. He composes horror music in the middle of the night. He is not very social, and he keeps to himself at political meetings. His past is a mystery. He warned us not to talk to each other about him, adding that there is nowhere any of us could go where he wouldn't hear us. We were quiet. When we began to talk to each other, he changed. HIs manners started to seem pompous, and his snarling voice sounded rehearsed.
Two dragons guard Fear's mansion. One is ceramic and Chinese. The other is real. If you make it past the dragons and speak to him close up, it is amazing to see how fragile he is. He will try to tell you stories. Be aware. He is a master of disguises and illusions. Fear almost convinced me he was a puppetmaker and I was a marionette.
Speak out boldly, look him in the eye, startle him. Don't give up. Win his respect, and he will never bother you with small matters."
That's what she thinks of fear. My advice is to try to understand why you are afraid - what is really behind it. In some cases, you just have to be afraid and move forward anyway. Don't let him make you not act.
In her book 'Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' Susan Jeffers shares 5 truths about fear that I encourage everyone to memorise:
1- The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
2- The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out… and do it.
3- The only way to feel better about myself is to go out… and do it.
4- Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.
5- Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
If you'd like to read more about this, don't be afraid to visit my blog :-)
Here's a slightly different 'take' on fear for you to perhaps stop and consider for a moment ...
(I work with 'fearful' clients as a therapist and this is the approach I take) ...
Fear is not a 'noun' i.e. not an object that is inside of you that can be driven out. Fear is a verb ... i.e. 'to fear'. If it is a verb then it is something you do. We're not usually conscious of how we 'do' fear and we end up making it into a 'something' and therefore we objectify it - it takes on form and a life of its own.
The 'doing' of fear is a natural response (it is wired into your physiology) ... it keeps you safe ... sometimes people can be 'triggering' this reponse too often or in situations that aren't useful. The challenge is to 'expose' to the light of day how this fear process operates - and teach you how to take back control.
In other words ... turning fear from a 'something that is' to 'something you do' is the first step in taking back control.
All the best
The Wandering Hypnotist
Feel it. Fear is there for a reason, suppressing it or trying to ignore it will only hurt you. Fear is very very powerful and needs to be felt. Ouch, I've been in continuous pain for 2 years and its been brought on by my subconscious suppressing of multiple fears. The pain is only now beginning to subside that I am allowing myself to really FEEL the fear and look it straight in the face.
The physical agony on denying this basic human emotion is worse than the actual emotion of fear itself.
It takes guts, but everyone has it in them to face their fear. I believe suppression of fears is the underlying cause of most illness and disease. As a society, fear is something we do not accept and we shy away from it, but we need it and it'll come whether we want it or not. Fear is an emotion we need to respect because it is vital for health.
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