My 13 year old daughter asked how old I was when I had sex. How honest should I

Jump to Last Post 1-6 of 6 discussions (6 posts)
  1. profile image45
    3 Girlsposted 8 years ago

    My 13 year old daughter asked how old I was when I had sex. How honest should I be with her?

  2. profile image0
    roddmaposted 8 years ago

    Oh my I dont know never had a kid Let her know thats a very personal question and why she wants to know.I wouldnt give thm too many details if a 13 year old asked me. Tehn say situations are diffrent for everyone and because whether you did something or notisnt implying to copy. Best answer I can give.

  3. Quilligrapher profile image84
    Quilligrapherposted 8 years ago

    I think, 3G, that I would first ask myself,"How honest do I want her to be with me."

    I believe that honesty and truthfulness are learned traits that are best taught by a parent.  If I destroy my credibility with my child, I may never get it back.

    In my case, I would answer truthfully and not offer any more information then necessary to satisfy her curiosity.

    Good luck.

  4. JaeKuro profile image53
    JaeKuroposted 8 years ago

    I agree with Quilligrapher, how honest do you want her to be. The question is something that's obviously going to lead to another conversation involving sex, weather she has had it or not.
    My advice would be to honestly tell her the answer and CALMLY ask why she is asking. A mistake that many parents make is jumping to a conclusion because of a topic thus, pushing their child away from asking their advice on further issues in life. Be happy that she has even brought it up, most teenagers are too scared to (I know I was).
    Being honest is the best way to face this because honesty opens a door of trust. Of course don't go into too much detail and remember to state that it's not something she should be worrying about at such a young age. Explain the issues and emotions that come along with engaging in intercourse and make sure she understands. Try to be calm and straight forward about what you are saying and try not to lose your authority as a parent by opening up to her. Don't try to become the "friend" but don't be too overbearing either.
    Hope it goes well.

  5. profile image45
    Girl_10posted 8 years ago

    Welll, My mom never told me when i asked her the same question. But when my mom was younger than me like 13, she was raped.. She told me that. But from my point of view as a teen, i think your daughter deserves to know. So she can learn from it. But make sure to tell her, that its not right to start out early, and to at least wait till she's found the right guy.(All that good stuff)

  6. Springboard profile image78
    Springboardposted 8 years ago

    You should be totally honest with her. The age at which you had sex for the first time is not the important aspect of the answer. Your experience is at the heart. If you can describe how it made you feel, how you may have regretted the choice you made, and how it affected relationships with other mates in the future, peers, and even your parents, you can convey much more beyond just the age at which you first had sex.

    It does not, by any means, mean you will stop your daughter from making a choice that may or may not disagree with your best wishes anymore than watching your parent die of lung cancer may cause you to immediately quit smoking. But it will at least give her something to think about. That's the best you can do.

    The worst thing you can do is lie. Lies never help anyone.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)