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How do you forget painful experiences?

  1. alexandriaruthk profile image73
    alexandriaruthkposted 5 years ago

    How do you forget painful experiences?

    or can you even forget them or let go of the painful expriences?

  2. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    I fully believe time is the only cure.  I don't think we forget, but rather we make peace, or come to accept the experience as a part of our past.  Time seems to moderate the pain, but sometimes it takes a long long time to do so.

  3. kalinin1158 profile image98
    kalinin1158posted 5 years ago

    You know I've read your question and I was thinking about it when I was watching "The Butterfly Effect" later on. That young man dealt with his painful experiences by going back and trying to "fix" things; make the wrongs right. He saw the mistakes he made before, and he tried to act differently next time, creating alternative realities. Granted, we don't exactly have an option of traveling back in time to do things differently, I still think this is a great metaphor for dealing with painful experiences.

    If we look at it as a valuable lesson that allows us to act differently in the future and to become a stronger person, it was well worth it. Absolute majority of people who went through extremely traumatic experiences said they wouldn't erase it from their life if they had that option. Why? They said that their painful experience made them who they are. Taught them the value of compassion. Enlighten them in some way. I think it's the best way to deal with a painful experience, rather than trying to forget it.

  4. jodeci profile image62
    jodeciposted 5 years ago

    When painful events happen to us in life, we have two choices to move on or to stop the progress of our live. When we move on we may not forget being hurt but we learn to cope with that painful event. This is exactly what we should do when a painful event occurs we should take this as a lesson learn. What can we do different next time to avoid being "hurt." With the exception of death and illness we just have to learn coping mechanisms to deal with such occurrences.

    The other choice we have is to give up. Here we are not moving on, we are holding on to the past and this is not healthy. We have to learn to let go of painful events because sometimes these events are outside our control. When we use the past hurtful events as lessons and learn from them then move on we can begin to live more happier lives.